What I wanted to say, what I actually said...

[YouthGoneMild]

As I’ve got older I’ve got better at biting my tongue, but sometimes what I wanted to say (versus what I actually said) bubbles angrily in me and today is one of those days!

So feel free to join me in letting out that you actually wanted to say and what you actually said. I guess this is lighthearted, so don’t go too deep, ok?

I’ll go first before I exploded:

What I said “I’m sure the school are trying their hardest and the staff are very stretched”

What I wanted to say “Your sense of entitlement makes me want to scream. I’m sure the teacher has better things to worry about than one sodding missing Smiggle pen and you’re a total knob for trying to speak to the Head about it!!!”’

What I said: “Yes, I guess it is our turn to go to your Father’s for Christmas as we’ve not spent it with him for 5 years”.

What I wanted to say “I’d rather eat Xmas
dinner at McDonalds than sit in the company of that drunken, arrogant snob. At least there no one will get so drunk that they wet themselves” (past Xmas nightmare visit)

Ooooh that felt good!!

Nope sorry, I tend to either say what I mean or say nothing. I’ve grown to realise that if I keep stuff to myself and I’m not honest about stuff with how I feel, then I get anxious.

Or I might explode (as you’ve just done lol) and that’s no good for the person on the receiving end either.

Alas @VanyaHargreeves I fear there are just too many of these knobbers left alive!

What I said (texted): no, really sorry, don't feel comfortable doing that.

What I wanted to say: fuck off you sponging twat. You're a total fucking user & it's no wonder you've no fucking friends left. And if you do (as suggested) pop round to mine, you will be met with a swift kick to the fanny.

What I said: Yes, of course you can see your DD on Christmas Day.

What I wanted to say: Go fuck yourself, you opted out of our family when you screwed another woman.

I wish MN had a 'like' button

Just for context...I left my husband om Wednesday.

What I said " I'll come home by Friday"

What I wanted to say "I don't want to come home, I might not ever want to come home but youve made it so difficult for me and backed me into a corner again, i'm just gonna have to do what I don't want to"

What I said : "Right. I see."
What I wanted to say "Why the hell are you putting your batshit crazy, narcissistic siblings and your parents ahead of me and your children again?"

To be fair @toomuchisneverenough DC1 was born in Feb (weighing 10lb 3oz) so by December that year (ie his first Christmas) would have been way too big for anything that stopped at 12 months.

@toomuchisneverenough, so if your baby shoots up during the 9 month growth spurt, or you have a big baby, that makes you stupid?

What I said "things must be tough".
What I wanted to say "well get a fucking job. You can earn upto £200 a week without it effecting your benefits. There's jobs advertised within walking distance and you have childcare on tap. So stop with the continual, woe-is-me, whinging".

What I said to mil: 'yes it's wonderful SIL & BIL can buy such an expensive house. Yes, they must be doing well. I'm happy for them, I hope it goes well.' add fake smile and avoid eye contact to hide sarcasm

What I wanted to say: 'yes, I know your materialistic, manipulative, narcissistic daughter who ruins other people's lives to get what she wants and doesn't give a f*ck about anyone but herself can afford a massive mortgage so she can live in a fancy suburb almost worth of her. Until her husband tries to leave her again, anyway. Oh, and I don't give a shit what she does so stop telling me. I'll listen the day she decides to apologize for ruining our wedding.'

WhatI said , Of course I support the teaching assistants and support staff.
What i wanted to say: They earn more than me for christ sake, our kids have been out of school for 3 weeks, the union needs to accept the offer from the School district .They need to end this strike now and get back to work so our kids can get back to school.

"if it makes you happy, go ahead"

"the fuck are you playing at woman?"

@PrimeraVez I would have had the same issue if my baby had been born earlier in the year. He's bursting out of 6 months and he's only just 3 months old!

FIL (about 3 month old baby) "He's not very bright, is he?" because he wouldn't smile on cue.

What I wanted to say: Fuck off you stupid fuck my child isn't here to perform for you, and if intelligence is a prerequisite for your approval then we can just tell him that we don't visit the grandparents because they are too mean.

What I actually said: He always smiles for us.

What MIL said: "He doesn't look anything like his dad."

What I wanted to say: "Stop trying to plant seeds of doubt in my husband's mind about whether the child is his or not you vindictive bitch. I have never and would never cheat on my husband of almost 10 years and one day you're going to have to get over the fact he married boring old me instead of that supermodel with a PhD who volunteers at the RSPCA who you wish he'd stayed with. Can't you just love your first grandchild?"

What I actually said: "Ok."

With a polite smile: "excuse me, may I get by, please?"

Inward snarl: "you and your @#$% phone and your #$%% milling-about kids get out of my @#$%^ way!!!"

My 87yr old mum, who lives in a nursing home and has lost her filter...

"oh, look at the AWFUL tattoos on that man!!"

Me - to said man standing right next to us: "Sorry"

Mil & fil.... well our will needs changing now as you won't be getting any inheritance to dh(39) who has 6-12 months to live with stage 4 bowel cancer.

What I said... great you can bail bil out of bankruptcy for the third time
What I should of said.... fuck off and shut the door behind you 🤬

That’s hideous Loobie, what sort of parents do that.

What I said "dh dd is 16m you cannot let her cry for hours, I've been up with her 4 times please could you get up now (5am), okay I'll go"

What I wanted to say "stop being a fucking dick, your sleep is not more important than mine, get up and parent and stop making me do it all, lazy shit"

Hes usually pretty good but this weekend has been crap. We will have words at 7!

Being asked for “change” in the street when I never have cash on me. What I wanted to say “OK I’ll be happier in future”. What I actually said “I’m really sorry, I’m skint”

Buying a cider in the shop and a big THINK 25 sign pops up, What I wanted to say “I don’t think I could manage 25 of them”. Then wrinkled my eyes at the shop assistant who had already worked out I was over 25 😂

@SourDoughSophie the best of a very looong line of crap they come out with, sadly dh wants keep contact with them. I have my plans for them eventually!

'no, that doesn't work for me'

I wanted to say 'wtaf are you thinking? No of course you can't come and stay in my spare room. I do not want to be anywhere near you, let alone live with you again. The debt you got yourself into after I left is not my responsibility, get a fucking job'

@FrenchyQ I know that feeling. Keep strong

To the woman who acted all righteous by convincing my dd to live with her and now won’t return her things (including her school stuff when she has gcse mocks coming up).
I want to say: how dare you accuse me of doing things for appearances when you would not listen to children services or the school about what was really happening but pretended you were rescuing a poor orphan. And now you’re too lazy and too greedy to bother returning her school things, new coat and bag, despite going on at me about school attendance- you clearly don’t actually put her first as you continually accuse me of not doing...(I could go on).

What I said: We would appreciate your help here.

What I said, after someone in work told me I focused on my children too much (not in work time) ‘ they are only little for such a short space of time and I did my partying at uni’

What I wanted to say ‘ don’t lecture me on child rearing,especially as we all know but pretend not to, that your son has been prosecuted for child porn plus I do go out with my friends but watching a load of 50/60 year olds getting drunk on lambrini is my idea of hell’

Ah much better, and breathe 😁

Lambrini...eugh!