to not want my husband to share a hotel room with MIL?

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Husband is away attending to family business next week. It is just over an hour away from where we live.

It was agreed he would stay overnight the first night as it involves an early start and a late finish. Now I have learned that MIL has booked him and her into a twin hotel room for TWO nights.

She has always been overbearing, has no boundaries and has caused significant problems (along with FIL) over the course of our relationship.

I think this sharing a room business is grim and have told him I don't want him sharing a room with her. He thinks I am being horrible.

AIBU?

@user147
I think the weirdness stems less from the fact of doing it - just for convenience, save some needed cash etc, but from the apparent habit of this MIL to create issues between the married couple and then booking a 2 night hotel stay. That’s when it gets upgraded from a bit weird to pretty weird. I prefer to see my mum over an afternoon cup of tea and piece of cake, not hear her rummaging about in the bathroom and changing into her nightwear at 10pm. LOL. (confused) yeah a bit weird...

@MrsKoala
Yes, I guess to an extent it’s all about what you’re used to. I think most British people like their privacy so most would find it a bit weird, but I’m sure it’s totally normal in other cultures and those who live in close physical proximity.

@Vulpine, clearly I lack boundaries too, as does my son. I can’t see the problem with sleeping in the same room in twin beds.

Oh gosh how trivial . It’s his mother , what’s he gonna do ? Shag her ? 😂😂

i just want to hear what op's reasons are, where have they gone ? is this thread going to go poooff never to be seen again ?

You see I think all the people who think it's wierd are wierd. We would and have shared with anyone in family in a twin. Change in loo.

I wouldn't care at all if my boyfriend shared a hotel room with his mother.

It is a strange thing to get upset about.

@FrancisCrawford I agree. No one worries about seeing opposite sex relatives in their nightclothes when they come to stay, so what actually is the difference if you're sharing a hotel room? There's a bathroom to get changed in, after all.

No one worries about seeing opposite sex relatives in their nightclothes when they come to stay, so what actually is the difference if you're sharing a hotel room?

Yuk. I don't want to see opposite sex relatives in their night clothes, far less share a room with them.

What do you think will happen if your DH shares a hotel room with his mum?

Very strange that you have a problem with this. What do you thinks gonna happen!

Yes, I guess to an extent it’s all about what you’re used to. I think most British people like their privacy so most would find it a bit weird

Well most mumsnet users are British and the vast majority on this thread have said it's not weird. I can't imagine any of my friends would find it weird either.

Sorry, how is it grim? She’s not breastfeeding him is she? Planning to bath him?

YABU (and odd).

Bitty

Op sounds pretty unpleasant. It's his mother . . .

Is it the fact that they're sharing a room that bothers you, or the fact that he's staying two nights when you thought it was only 1?

If it's the former... Cop on.
If it's the latter... I can see why you'd be a bit miffed. But I think I'd just shrug and say "see you when you get back".

If you have kids, one day you will be a MIL. Think about that.

Unless your dh is a dangerous sexual predator and your worried about him in that respect?

Jesus Christ.
This says more about you than anyone .

Agree it's more about your own insecurities than his problem.

*MissBarbary Sun 17-Nov-19 22:23:13
No one worries about seeing opposite sex relatives in their nightclothes when they come to stay, so what actually is the difference if you're sharing a hotel room?

Yuk. I don't want to see opposite sex relatives in their night clothes, far less share a room with them.*

Someone's got...Isssssssuuuuess!

For the love of God - I really can't believe this is for real - in their night clothes be buggered!

I thank the good Lord daily that I have a fantastic reasonable DIL - more than that? I'm thankful that if some try-to-be-control-freak DIL would be shot down

There is absolutely nothing cringy/creepy or any of the other unsavoury things some people are claiming - living at home my son regularly walked around in his boxers. He's seen me in my underwear although admittedly shouted 'mother man'

Joking aside - I find this thread really sad that something so natural as a mother sharing a room with her son would be 'weird' Really thankfull that my family wouldn't entertain such rubbish x

He came out of her. Its his mother. Ffs

Lol, I agree! My DH and I, and our DDs, went on a family holiday to celebrate my DM's 80th birthday. My DSis and DBIL were there too with their DC. I don't even remember whether I saw my DBIL in his nightclothes and dressing gown, or whether he was already dressed. It made no difference to me either way.

I've been camping with friends in the past as well. I didn't even worry about whether a male friend was in his nightclothes or already dressed when he made his way to the showers. What does it matter??

Seriously, get a life. Some of us have actually suffered sexual abuse at the hands of genuinely creepy adults.