I get you ilove and feel much the same but I've had people in my family (deceased now) who voted Tory all their adult lives and they did care about others. I would say none of them were really very politically minded but there would be something or things proposed by Torys, or in their manifesto, which appealed.
However the Conservative MPs whose profiles have become much higher in recent times are quite an extreme group - far more so than Theresa May ever was. They seem to occupy a different space to the rest of us where the atmosphere is rarified. Weird. They rub shoulders with some ultra right people too - think Farage andTrump. A mutual admiration society.
In the meantime the NHS is going down the pan - again - it did so under Thatcher (I worked for the NHS), when Labour got in in 1997 things improved dramatically. There was also far more care for people with severe, chronic illness, enabling them to stay at home. I was extremely impressed with that as it did affect my family. Then of course there was the flipping war and searching for 'weapons of mass destruction', which was not a happy time.
Back to the here and now, benefit caps or cuts are causing severe hardship for so many people, it's cruel.
Not enough money is put into education. Some schools are actually quite poor and have to beg and fund raise in order to buy necessary books and equipment. It's OK for better off people who live in pleasant leafy suburbs with good schools but so many schools are simply dreadful.
People who come out of the armed forces receive little support. I remember in days gone by they left with some good skills and were quite well looked after. Not so now. I'm no fan of the forces, much more a pacifist by nature, but they are sent into dangerous situations, can be maimed or killed, they are entitled to much more help than they receive at present!