Bf's mum now doesn't like me because of this...

[Gigi178]

I'm absolutely mystified at what's happened the past few days so much so I haven't spoken to my boyfriend...
Basically bf of 3 years parents went on holiday about a month ago. I saw them on their return and his mum bought me a lovely silver bracelet, said thanks etc, it's lovely etc...
Fast forward, weekend just gone, they've been back from holiday about 3 weeks ish and I hadn't seen them as boyfriend has changed shifts, I've been busy etc or his mums been out when I visited.
Weekend just gone, his family had a birthday celebration I was invited to... Got there, his mum goes 'why are you not wearing the bracelet?' I was a bit taken aback.. I only had a pair of studs on that day so wasn't particularly dolled up with accessories. I said 'oh I've not made much effort today, it's at home in my jewelery box'. Well, for the rest of the day she was really off with me. Even boyfriend's sister was frowning at me alot. Felt so uncomfortable I left earlier than I usually would and made an excuse about having an early start next day.
Next morning, boyfriend rings, I'm still in bed, forgot I said about the early start and boyfriend jumped on it that I'd lied and why did i duck out last night.
I ended up saying about the bracelet and he said, his mums upset that I didn't like it because I hadn't wore it. Didn't know what to say, wanted to say 'oh ffs' but didn't.. Told boyfriend if his mum mentions it again to tell her I love it (like i already had).
I was then going to pop round on Monday, boyfriend told me he thinks it's best I don't because his mums still upset so I texted her sayin I love the bracelet, pls don't think I don't, I have worn it, just didn't that particular day... Got a text back from her sayin 'it's fine, you just appear to be very ungrateful'....
Haven't text back since Monday, boyfriends not rung me...

Is it me? I feel like I'm in a dream bubble and they've lost their minds....

What was the last thing you bought her - does she wear and /or use that every day? If not then point out how ungrateful she is

Your bf needs a backbone and to realise that his mum is being totally unreasonable.

Also she will be a fucking nightmare MIL. Don't marry this dude

post the Bracelet of Ingratitude through the letter box.

Don't do this. Even allowing for their behaviour, it's incredibly offensive.

This is a huge red flag. You are seen as ungrateful for nothing and he is totally taking his mums side. Look at all the threads when women are struggling with their mil demands and the husbands go along with it. That will be you

Break it off

How do you feel about all of the 'run for the hills' posts?

Will you stay with him and put up with his and his families batshit crazyness?

they all sound batshit.

How old are you? is this a serious relationship? I'd consider to run. And fast.

I’d would wait for him to contact you , do not run after him as you will be setting a precedence for any future falling out. They behave badly and you then have to do all the crawling back .

Give the bracelet back
Dump the boyfriend
Move on

If you hadn't said you were 24 & 25 I would assume you were dating my ex-fiancée OP. All I can say is run while you can. He will never cut the apron strings.

You've tried to assure her you like it, if your BF is going to break off or ruin a 3 Yr relationship over it, then you deserve better

This ^

It's like the comedy sketch where a MIL gave a man two ties for Christmas - he wore one to go to her home and her first words were :What's wrong with the other one?"

They re batshit. You can't spend every moment of your life worrying about things like this, and your b/f didn't support you - I'd seriously reconsider my relationship with this man, because it will get worse

Take note that no one has said YABU!

I didn't find out my MIL was bat shit crazy until I was pregnant. There was no escape.

You are so lucky to find out now. Run. Return the bracelet though otherwise they might chase after you like a horror film.

I had this with a boyfriend when I was much younger . In the days of house phones - I called and asked very politely ' hello - is ex there please ? '
But because I did not say hello NAME is ex there please - she stopped talking to me and he did too !
Dumped him. A friend saw him a couple of years ago....He's 40 years old and still living with his parents

Run for the hills OP!

Can you imagine a lifetime of this crap?!

Weird. I would give BF the bracelet to give back to him mum, with the message that you loved the bracelet but hate the OTT baggage that obviously comes with it. If BF cant understand that then I think you need to reconsider your relationship.

Flee. Save yourself.

If you don't then in your future your home will be filled with items you didn't choose and don't like and arguments about how Mail's way of raising children is correct and yours is wrong...

Jesus! Run! Change your phone number!

If your boyfriend had any balls whatsoever he would tell his mother to fuck off.

Rrruuuuuuuuuuunnnnnnnnnnnnn

Run! Count it as a lucky escape. They all sound batshit

I had an ex MIL who was this batshit crazy. Reason she is an ex ( so is her son). She is my children's grandmother, they are adults and don't speak to her, because she's poisonous.

Run for the hills and block the boyfriend's number. It will only get worse shudders

A friend saw him a couple of years ago....He's 40 years old and still living with his parents

So is my ex fiancée!

Jesus imagine how they would be about a real problem /issue. Run away from this family! Utterly bonkers behaviour!

Take this as a sign of things to come, bail out from the relationship now while its still easy to.

No the whole family’s reaction is not normal and every time your given a gift you will be on edge, do you really want a lifetime of this ?

I am not surprised you are feeling bemused

But think about this thoroughly.

How do you feel about how your bf of 3 years has treated you over this?
Has it changed how you see him?
Have you any inkling whythis braclet is so important? Did her buying it it signify a change in your relationship with her do you think?
Could you put up with his mum for the rest of your life?

I'd probably return it with all of his possessions from your home and tell him that you frankly don't need the drama!

Maybe you exacerbated the problem by saying "oh I've not made much effort today," when you were invited to celebrate a birthday with the family.

And people do have different unspoken rules about etiquette. My MIL is always meticulous about wearing/using/displaying gifts at the first opportunity. She has made oblique comments like "I'm not sure that the scarf was to your taste" when I have not returned the compliment. Not in a nasty way, but it is clearly expected.

Anyway, it sounds as though the whole thing has blown-up out of proportion.

Do you think this whole thing has been manufactured to pressurise your bf to split up with you? If it hadn't been the bracelet it could have been something else to make your bf choose between his gf and his family.
Perhaps she's worried he's getting too serous about you.