To sneakily admire this mum of a bullied child

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I read this expecting to be disgusted, then I watched the video and by the time she was putting her hair up I couldn't help it: I begrudgingly liked her. Shocking that it came to this, but I can only imagine she was at the end of her tether.

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7655161/Disturbing-moment-raging-mother-confronts-sons-bully-expletive-laced-rant.html#comments-7655161

I would have done the same Op. Some schools just ignore it or refuse to take it seriously. Good on her

Hoo-bloody-ray and well done to her.

I only wish someone had stood up for me when I was being bullied at school.

Sadly there is no magic solution for dealing with bullies. What might work in one set of circumstances might not in another.

What I do think is important is that the bullied child knows that someone has got his/her back. I was bullied at school and was just told “ignore them and they’ll go away if they see you aren’t bothered”, funnily enough they didn’t go away and I ended up feeling like my parents just hoped they could ignore it too instead of dealing with it. They probably didn’t mean to but that’s how it made me feel at the time.

My kids have already seen that I will stand up for them and know if they are bullied I will do my best to sort it out whether it’s help them deal with it, (ds2 recently put a bully in his place with a great verbal comeback, and hasn’t had any problems since.) or if necessary sort it out for them.

Velveteenfruitbowl nice land of la la you live in. If your kid is targeted by a genuine bully who is not afraid of authority, nothing you teach yourself dc will help. Even the schools can't do anything. Have you seriously not seen the stories? Even teachers are bullied by some kids. You think teaching wee Tommy some diversionary tactics is going to do anything? Teaching your precious dc to put up his or her first cuffs or ignore it, isn't going to do much against a thug with a knife.

I know a woman, she's lovely. Her son was being bullied daily by a group of lads. One day, she saw them on the local shop, concerned them (bear in mind, she's about 5 foot nothing), and gave them a colourful warning to stay away from her son. It must have embarrassed the little shits, having a shop full of people sniggering them, because they never went near that boy again.

I will not comment on whether her method was right or wrong, but I do believe that sometimes it's absolutely necessary for parents to step in and defend their child. This often happens after all other avenues have been exhausted.

Nonetheless, you can hear the boy say he won't touch her son again multiple times, which makes me believe that he has been bullying him and finally has been confronted about it.

I'm surprised more are not discussing his admission.

Good for her. Little shit got a good fright hopefully.

I have to say, I completely understand that woman.

I hate bullying with a passion. I was severely bullied as a child. I think there should be some consequences for parents of bullies (maybe legal, maybe being forced to home tutor their children if serious, I don’t know).

I have repeatedly told my children that if they ever bully or are mean to anyone weaker or more shy than them, then they will spend moths regretting it. I have told them that if they ever hit someone unprovoked or say something mean unprovoked there will be hell.

However, I have also told my son that if someone punches him, he punches back immediately, aiming for 3cm behind the nose. Bullies tried to go for him on two separate occasions, they never tried again and wanted to “be friends”. My son is friendly, but no close friendship.

My daughter was targeted by a girl. We kept a diary of every single incident (With time and date) and when we had two pages, we invoked the school bullying proceedings. I also told her to say factually to the teachers / other girls: I don’t like x, she keeps throwing my things at the floor, she says I am the ugliest girl in school and she said she didn’t care my grandfather is very ill (girl eavesdropped when DD confided in a friend). I don’t want to sit next to her, play with her or work with her”. Funnily enough, it stopped. I might have advised my daughter to casually mention to the girl that bullying procedures could end up on the permanent school record (I have no idea if this is true, but the girl got scared).

I think there is a special place in hell for bullies.

Honestly? As someone who was badly bullied at school, I'm on this mum's side.

I wish I had done that to my DD's little bitch bully. She ruined her childhood.

I still see red when I see the evil little cow.

Victims of bullying should not have to deal with this themselves.

I have no problem with bullies receiving the the same abuse from other people.

SkiingIsHeaven yours is the last post I am reading this thread at the moment and you've hit home for me; this stuff lasts a lifetime and you think "how did I let my longed for and so loved child suffer this shit". In my case it was a neighbours child, they still live here. DD didn't want me to go to the police

The video doesn’t show the child doing anything wrong. Not saying he hasn’t by the way- just that showing the video only shows her being aggressive and threatening violence-

The video shows the bully saying he won't touch the victim again. That's an admission.

A mum pushed to the brink!
Seeing your children upset is heartbreaking.
Good on her. I bet it’s taught the little sod a life lesson.

I went to quite a posh private school in an affluent area, something that I realise I was very fortunate to have, particularly as my parents both grew up in abject poverty in very deprived areas of London. This is relevant because I was relentlessly bullied at school by one girl and my Mum tried all the "right" ways of dealing with it, assuming because they were paying, the school would be right on top of these issues They weren't. So, I will never forget the day she came to collect me from school and stopped right in the middle of the school drive and jumped out. She didn't say a word. It was so quick, she had the (much taller) bully by the neck with one hand and said to her "you will not go near my daughter again" in a voice I'd never heard. The girl just said "sorry Mrs X" and looked utterly terrified. My Mum got back in the car and said "that's how we dealt with bullies where I grew up". Never heard a peep from that girl again. Arseholes like this deserve a taste of their own medicine. I'm 50 now, I was about 14 at the time and I've never forgotten it.

@TheformidableMrsC your mum is AMAZING

She sounds like a mum at the end of her tether. Go Mum! The little piece of work she's talking to is antagonistic but by the end does feel threatened enough to pipe down.

Bravo. About fucking time someone stood up to the 'can't touch me' bullies.

The video shows the bully saying he won't touch the victim again. That's an admission.

Yes but he doesn’t do anything wrong in the video. Also- and I’m not saying this is the case in this instance- but a child faced with that level of aggression and threat of violence may feel they have to “admit” to what they’re being accused of even if they haven’t done the thing. Again, not saying that’s what’s happened here but I wouldn’t take an agreement not to bully again given under that level of duress to be a true admission of guilt.

This video has gone viral.

Whilst that's not the mum's fault, her child is probably now at much further risk of bullying and teasing.

I would have died of shame if I was a teenager and my mum was videoed using 'teenage speak' like "Know yourself" and tying her hair up like she was about to have a street fight.

Not good for the kid at all.

Agree worra

The video doesn’t show the child doing anything wrong. Not saying he hasn’t by the way- just that showing the video only shows her being aggressive and threatening violence

Even before he confessed to it. If he was such an innocent one, he would have been like Who? Wha ya chatting bout?

No innocent person is just going to stand there and take it without proclaiming their innocence. And especially with it being filmed, regardless of who is filming. He knew he had been caught bang to rights.

Whatever happened to believing the victim? Or is it perceived for some reason she isn't a victim?

I couldn’t see the video - how old are the kids?

As a somewhat older sister (7 years older) I may have done similar myself.

Yes I was 23 and threatened a 16 year old, because my baby sister was in the ICU, we had no idea if she would live and if she did, if she would be brain damaged after her suicide attempt. Which came after the 3rd time a girl twice her size kicked the shit out of her, and about a year since the psychological bullying began.

Our mother did fuck all, school did fuck all. I know because I went in myself and spoke to staff.

The girl was also twice my size, but I was not a terrified 16 year old. I just got real close to her, and told her in a low voice whilst looking her dead in the eye what I would do to her if she so much as breathed in my sisters direction again.

The only thing I regret is not doing it sooner as I was living 200 miles away at the time. Because my sister didn’t fully physically recover from the OD.

Oh your poor sister.

You can tell who the people on here who don't have children, or DO have children, but their children have never been bullied

Yes, or are the parents of bullies.