Men sat in women's changing rooms

[nycfrog]

AIBU to get annoyed with women who plop their (male) SOs on the stools/seating in changing rooms?

Yesterday I needed the store assistant to help me with the back of a dress - on the way out of the changing rooms I realised my bare back had basically been exposed to a random bloke sat at the entrance. I know the shop assistant probably could have been more discreet but aibu to think they could sit somewhere else?

YANBU, I don’t understand why some women need to have their men hanging round like spare pricks right next to them at all times.

Hate to tell you OP but that’s the least of your worries nowadays - have you missed all the threads about M&S changing rooms ?!

So he was sat on seating at the entrance to the changing rooms but not actually in the changing rooms ??

^ he was in the corridor by the entrance

Argh! Bare back... clutches pearls.

But why do they need to be there?

Because the woman wants a second opinion? Because they're shopping together and he wants to sit down while he waits?

As long as he's outside I don't see the problem.

To be fair, that's probably where the chair was....

They don’t. They are there for the people that either cannot decide for themselves what suits them, or who dress for their partner’s approval.

I don't want men in the women's changing rooms. They always used to sit outside.

M&S, Debenhams, Topshop etc changing rooms are all unisex nowadays anyway. Whatever they might say at the entrance.

Because the woman wants a second opinion?

I don’t know about you but I have these things called legs where I can walk out of the changing area and find my partner and ask his opinion

Because they're shopping together and he wants to sit down while he waits?

Yes, as long as the man and his partner get what they want, to hell with anyone else

TSSDNCOP

They are there for the people that either cannot decide for themselves what suits them, or who dress for their partner’s approval.

That’s not the case.

I’m just waiting for the accusations of ‘hysterical’ and transphob to be flung at you, OP.

Apparently you’ve no right to decide who sees your body. It doesn’t matter if it’s ‘only’ the OPs bare back, it’s HER body and she’s got a right to decide what part of it she is happy to expose. Stop trying to be so bloody woke and show some respect for a woman’s feelings. I’m sick of women being told that their boundaries don’t count. Why did he have to sit at the entrance to a female changing room? Thank Christ my boys take after my husband and would have the good manners to stand away from the entrance so that ALL the women can feel comfortable, not just the wine ones.

It's the men who walk right into the fitting rooms to see their partners dress or whatever, I'm like fuck off mate

Nit just the * woke ones.

*They are there for the people that either cannot decide for themselves what suits them, or who dress for their partner’s approval.

That’s not the case.*

Yes. It is.

Surely it’s more the shops fault for where they choose to place their seating? If there are chairs there people will sit. Doesnt bother me in the slightest tbh but 🤷‍♀️

I frequently await for my husband in a similar situation. He’s not very good at deciding. I can’t see the problem here.

Ridiculous non-issue. If you don’t want people to see your bare back don’t walk out of the changing cubicle with it uncovered. Just call the assistant from the cubicle. Or walk out forwards towards the people in the seating area. Or shop online. Or get some counseling so that you are not freaked out if other people see your back.

Oh yeah, because there is an industrial sized problem with lesbians encroaching on women's boundaries and objectifying them for sport at every turn - right? Right? No, that's right, they fucking don't so play your bullshit game elsewhere.

I hate men standing staring near the entrance of changing rooms. Just kinda really irrationally irritates me

So,OP, you would have no problem with a woman’s female partner sitting there ready to gawp at other women? You are being inconsistent.

And here comes the usual *lesbian trump card. Stop using lesbians to pint score. It’s very homophobic. I’ve many lesbian friends and have happily shared changing rooms and even beds with them, without feeling uncomfortable and unsafe, because they’re WOMEN.

I’d write to them and explain how uncomfortable you were, asking them to consider moving the seats or putting up a sign asking those not using the changing room to step back from the entrance. If you were a religious woman of some faiths, that could have been very distressing.

I'm not really clear as to whether this man was on a chair inside the women's changing rooms or waiting on a chair outside the women's changing rooms.

The former is not acceptable to me. No male person should be in the women's changing rooms.

The latter is fine. If you need assistance you put your clothes back on before leaving the changing room area.

Female partners are not relevant to this discussion. All women, members of the female sex class as determined at conception and observed at birth, have an equal right to be in the women's changing rooms.