To not put sweets out for trick or treaters but take DS?

[haveamooch]

I always take DS trick or treating with his cousins. However, it has occurred to me that I'm being quite cheeky by not leaving any sweets for anyone at my own house.

The reason I don't is because my DH doesn't like Halloween at all and refuses to participate in any way, but will tolerate me taking DS.

AIBU, given that my DH won't have sweets put out for other people, or should I just go against him completely and do it anyway? Not really sure I'd be happy to do that since it's his house too

And just to clarify, we only ever visit houses that are decorated for Halloween/clearly look open to trick or treating.

I suppose it’s cheeky on some level but I wouldn’t say it’s a big deal. We give sweets out with no strings attached as I’m sure most people do

Of course you should put sweets out.

Can you put a Halloween ornament and a bowl of help yourself sweets on the doorstep? That's what I would do.

If DH isn't going to answer the door then don't worry about it. If you leave them out - the first person that comes along will eat the lot.

I hope nobody knocks on my door - I ate the fun-size choc bars I bought for Halloween in a fit of craving for something sweet

Of course YABU. Stick a bowl of sweets out or Stick a few lollipops in the head of a pumpkin

But it's not just my house and if DH doesn't want a bowel of sweets left out that's his call, suddenly, since he's the one at home at the time?

*surely

DH is taking DD out. I will not be answering the door or putting sweets out. In my defense I had DD2 on Tuesday so I can't get up and down to get the door and we forgot to buy any sweets. Thankfully most of our neighbours know so will forgive us!

Leave a bowl outside with a note asking to only take one treat and leave some for others. Yes you run the risk of the first greedy person taking them all but I think you are cheeky to take your kid begging but not leave treats out for others.

It’s NOT your house?? That’s you’re problem in a nutshell.
If your whatever will take DS he he walks and you hand out.

I don't have any sweets in, besides a box of Werther's originals

are your views always second to his?

But it's not just my house and if DH doesn't want a bowel of sweets left out that's his call, suddenly, since he's the one at home at the time?

You’ve just answered your own question?

My DH has got MH problems and will not a swathe door either. I just leave the sweet bowl outside with a sign when I take DC out. Most kids come with parents so I trust them to only take one each. In any case, once they’ve gone they’re gone 🤷‍♀️

It might be DH's house, it's also yours. You either participate in Halloween by going trick or treating AND give sweets (this can be left outside) or you don't participate at all.

You shouldn't just take. That seems obvious.

He doesn't have to participate, but I don't think it's reasonable for him to object to you setting a bowl out, if no one is going to knock or bother him.

It's a bit cheeky to take your son out but not leave candy out yourself, but it's not the end of the world.

Yeah, it's cheeky.

If you leave them out - the first person that comes along will eat the lot.

How horrid! That wouldn't happen here but sad that you think it might.

If hes not going to answer the door anyway it really doesnt matter to him.

Also, if sweets are left out its equally not going to bother him.

Either way, hes being a bit grumpy about the whole thing.

Is it heck as cheeky, it's not the law to leave sweets out on halloween ffs
If I left a bowl of sweets out here when we were going out the first person swarm of kids would probably take the lot lol

Well he sounds like a joy! Don’t be tight leave some sweeties out, let your neighbours enjoy it like your son is!

None of our neighbours actually have young children

I hope everyone else doesn’t do the same or your DS will be very disappointed!

Yabu to just take and not give. Where we live is horrendous at halloween with entitled people who have driven over from posher areas so their DC can experience trick or treating. They then go back to their country piles .

No issue with giving sweets out to local children but some people take the piss.

Thankfully I'm away for the second year running.

Put a bowl outside, even if one person nicks the lot as least you've tried.

I think it all balances out doesn't it? There are probably lots of people like me who will be handing out sweets but not taking any.

It's not cheeky. And you can't force your DH to do something he doesn't want to, as some pp's seem to be suggesting.

Have fun trick or treating.