To not want to sit around with a random baby on Saturday night?

[gwackywacky]

So DP's friends all like to stay in. I mean literally. They dont go to pubs, or bars, or activities, or anything really. They just go to each others houses. That's totally their choice, but personally I feel like we're in our 30s and there are people in their 80s with more diversity in their social lives.

Whatever though, I have my friends (who he doesn't interact with) and he has his (same).

So last night DP says to me "F was saying he wanted to hang out on Saturday". I was like "awesome, why don't we go to the new escape room that's opened?" And DP says "gwacky, hello? S has just had the baby?"

(S is F's partner, I hadnt realised that simply using the mans name could be shorthand for two other human beings, but I guess it's a mans world and that's another debate).

So I said "oh okay....." and DP said "so they really want to come to the house".

Okay, I know I'm being unreasonable in a way. But the thing is, I'm away one weekend a month for a course. He knows it drives me insane to be sitting in a fucking living room for 6 or 7 hours (and yes, it will be that long, I know them). I just like socialising out. Why do I have to sit in my house for all of Saturday night and gush over a baby when he could just invite them over on one of the many weekends i am away?!

Am I being selfish? I can take it if I am. Also I have seen the baby before, we went to te maternity ward two or three days after he was born. Oh and another thing is I work from home which suits me fine but by the time the weekend comes around I'm just like GET ME OUT OF HERE.

Slightly off topic, are you in the US? I haven’t heard of escape room here

Why would OP be in the US? Escape Rooms are everywhere.

A very quick google brings back:
There are now almost 1,500 escape rooms in the UK, including versions from Doctor Who and Sherlock.Apr 1, 2019

Just say no. He can do this when your away or he can go to theirs. Cheeky inviting themselves over and outstating their welcome.

Or go to theirs and leave when your done

Stay for an hour, then go out and enjoy yourself with friends

My Mother and her friends were like this when I was a child. We either went to their house or they’d come to ours and the adults would just sit drinking all night. It was so boring for me as a child, I wouldn’t dream of doing anything like that now.

I don’t think YANBU at all, I’d personally go out with some of your friends or even just by yourself. I also couldn’t stand feeling forced to sit in my home all night on my night off.

For all sorts of reasons this is my idea of hell; on Saturday night I want to be in my own house, alone, and to go to bed by 11pm, and I'm 34! Also, hanging out with babies I'm actually related to is dull as ditchwater so no way am I going to be enthralled by a partner's friend's one. Going with many PPs - you're not BU, you're just incompatible. Do your own thing, I wouldn't blame you.

The PP who read "AIBU for being bored by the plan to sit in a house all night with a random baby?" and advised "cook for everyone, serve them wine, then go look after the baby" - hilarious!

I think YABU personally.
When I had my son I was amazed at how few people contacted me to meet up. I was stuck in the house every evening on my own with my son and I honestly believe that played a huge part in my Pnd.
If I were you I'd suck it up, arrange a takeaway, sort out a DVD you'll all like and let the mum relax.

Why is it more important for the mum to relax than anyone else?

I don't mind house guests but staying til 3am is a bit much. I'd excuse myself to go to bed around 10. I dont think that's rude.

Op
You are so NBU

I'd remember it's a last min birthday plan with a friend you simply can't miss.

YNBU! If and when you have a baby these arrangements may suit but until then, go out and enjoy while you are young and free to do so!