AIBU to get my friend to buy me a horse?

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I've NC as it's a very outing problem.

I love horses and want a horse, but can't afford it because I'm a SAHM. My friend, who currently has lots of disposable income, can afford to buy it for me because she's just sold her house. AIBU to ask her to loan me the money so that I can get a horse? It's not an insignificant amount (4 figures), but buying a horse is an opportunity that may not come along for me again because I'll be able to keep it in a field that is close to my home that I can rent really cheaply.

I have no idea when I'd be able to pay my friend back, but I would be able to afford to look after the horse providing that I didn't get any unexpected expenses and the feed costs weren't too high.

I never had a horse before and don't ride very well, but instead of having lessons, it would mean that I can put my money in to a) having a horse and b) I can learn on the horse and have more "horsey time" and so learn quicker.

DH is against the idea, because we're going in to winter and he thinks that I spend too much of his money having riding lessons as it is. He has told me to get a job and use the money from that, because he's not funding it. To be fair to DH, I'm a SAHM and he already gives me a reasonable allowance of £200/month, but it won't cover the costs of buying and keeping the horse.

Me getting a job is not reasonable because DH is a workaholic who regularly works 60+ hours a week and I have to pick up the slack at home with child care and school runs. I have no idea how much he actually earns, but it is enough to pay for and keep a horse without asking my friend for a loan. DH just won't entertain it.

Friend can afford to lend me the money because like I said, she's just sold her house.

• [Note from MNHQ: Before commenting on this thread, please note that the OP discloses 6 posts down the line that this thread is a REVERSE...]

Written by the same person who wrote the “my husband say I’m lazy” thread.

Usual half term shite. It’s not even entertaining.

Go and get a job. How would you have the time to care for and ride a horse but not work?

Plus vet fees could be astronomical

Do you know what is involved in caring for horse - I've got a fair idea, because I've helped at my local stables. When I have, I've really enjoyed it and have a fair idea of what is involved. But I'd really like my own - I can afford the basic expenses like shoes and things, plus vet insurance, just not the actual horse.

Do you even know how to care for horses? Because it does not sound like it.

That cheap field, do you know how to make sure it's safe for a horse? And keep it safe?

Why do you not know how much your husband earns, you should both have joint access to money.

There are loads of ways you can make money- have a look at the 10 a day thread if you can’t be bothered to get a job outside the house
Ps 200 is not a reasonable amount of money if he has more.

This had better be a joke or you are a 6 yr old . The cost of horses is not the buying them it’s the keeping of them , you can’t just dump it in a field .

We'll, crazy at you're on same track as me, why ask for just one horse? If she's a true friend you should get two!

How do you think you are going to ‘learn on the horse’?

Poor horse.

This is ridiculous.

Hahaha

It’s not a hobby you currently have...! You don’t have a horse and can’t ride.

Saying “Horsey” every time you pass one in a field isn’t a hobby

Surely a joke. I can't get what's funny about it though.

First thought in my head "Verucca Salt".

I know it's early but this deserves a !

So you can't get a job because you need to pick the slack up at home, but you will have time for a horse?

🤣 yeah £200 a month will do it I'm sure.

And I'm sure your friend won't mind pissing away for a few grand....

Wow. Just wow.

The word "entitled" doesn't seem quite enough.

Buying the horse is the cheap bit you loon.... how can you afford to feed/ house/ care/ shoe/rug etc etc x a million with no money aside from the fact she presumably needs to buy another house with her money 🤷‍♀️

You should have a sound knowledge of horses before you even consider buying one.

And just to let you know - the unexpected costs occur all the time with horses, which cost an arm and a leg!! Especially if you don't have the knowledge to spot and treat a problem before it escalates!

I would recommend loaning a horse on a local hard whilst you build up your knowledge - both on the horse and on the ground, both equally as important!!

Buying a horse when you have little riding experience is dangerous, especially if you are then bringing it away to ride on your own and 'learn on the job'

Average horses are very very different than your riding club school master, and there are some very dangerous people out there who will sell you anything.

You will also want to factor in things like farrier costs, insurance, (in my experience not worth not having!), teeth checks, tack costs the list is endless.

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Yabu to just ask for a horse. You need to insist your friend gives you the entirety of the sale proceeds from the house. A true friend would oblige.

Where will it live? It cant stay in a field all year can it?
Will you be able to afford to look after it if it got

Are you ok OP? This is a joke, right?

That should say if it got ill.

Start volunteering at your local stables. Prove you're willing to put the work in and learn what's required for properly caring for horses and the possibility of getting a job there.

If this is serious