Girls mother messaging my child

[Watcathel]

AIBU to be furious a girls mother is messaging my child on her daughters phone? My dd FaceTimes a girl from school and sometimes that girls other friend who
My dd doesn’t get along with joins in. A few petty comments has went on back and forth regarding an online game and this girls mother got involved texting my dd so I told my dd she couldn’t be on FaceTime to her anymore as they clearly can’t get on and didn’t want her involved in anymore drama.

Fast forward a day and now the mother has text my dd again asking why she is being funny ignoring her. WTF? I told my dd to not reply but she has kept texting. I don’t like to get involved but this is harassment surely? Any advice?

Have a glass of wine and chill.

How old is your DD? Depend on what was said and ages. Context is everything.

I'd be getting involved asking the mother why she thinks its appropriate messaging your daughter. How old is your daughter if you dont mind me asking?

How old are the dc? If under 16 I think you should message back to say you are her mother and please could she call you on x number rather than harass a child.

Block the other childs number on DD's phone but store it in yours (for now). Message the other mother clearly stating you are DD's mother so she doesn't think it's your DD, tell her her messages to your DD are deeply inappropriate and that if they continue you will be contacting the police.

This is why young people shouldn’t have smart phones. Disaster waiting to happen.

You need to get involved for your daughters sake !

A simple reply saying this is xxx's mum stop messaging my daughter.

An adult not related to your DD is Face Timing her and you’re reluctant to get involved. WTAF! Block the number!

Thanks for all the replies. She is only 10 and yes I am so regretting allowing a phone so early.

I'd do what Moira suggested.

Well if your dd is 32 then clearly you shouldn't be involved. If she's under 15 then wtf are you playing at not getting involved.

Her behaviour is completely inappropriate. Either block the number or call her yourself to request that she stops contacting your daughter and speaks to you instead if she has something to say. Then block if she doesn’t comply.

I’d message the mother and tell her if she has an issue with your DD she should bring it to you and tell her to stop messaging your child.

This is the new version of the parents who get involved in petty squabbles and it’s absolutely ridiculous

10 Ffs be a parent then.

She's only TEN and you haven't put a stop to this woman messaging her already?! I'm at a loss for words.

Just block her and yes I’d keep a note of her number, awful behaviour by the other mum.

She shouldn't be texting a ten year old. It's so inappropriate. Agree with moira about texting the mother to tell her to back off and that you will get the police involved of needs be. Whatever happened between ten year olds a grown woman shouldn't be weighing in like that. What has she been saying to your daughter?

Oh just take it off her, OP. She’s too young, her mates are too young, and you could have years of this. Get her a Nokia.

What exactly has the other parent said?
Did the other parent have a way of contacting you?

I asked for advice not insults. I am obviously going to take action but just wanted some advice before I did. Can’t always think straight when this annoyed. Thanks again for all the valuable non judgemental replies.

10

Not appropriate at all. Confront her face to face though, do not do this over the phone.

I would talk to this mum face to face.

This is not acceptable

Jesus, I thought the child was going to be at least 14 or something, not 10!

I would take the phone away for now. They really are troublesome!

If you take the phone off her she can probably do the same on the other devices that are around the house (tablets, consoles, computers). I'm sure you have your reasons why she has a phone. There are ways to monitor her activity if you want that. Ten might be to young for a phone but she probably uses it the same as if you'd given her a tablet except you can keep in contact with her if she is out of the house. Technology like this is the future and it's probably better if you regulate her on it and teach/encourage her safe practices rather than just taking it off her (unless it's a clear consequence to something she's done wrong etc). What happened to the extra mothers daughter as children can be a lot meaner behind a screen than real life (hence the monitoring) and maybe your daughter did something she shouldn't have?