Girls mother messaging my child

[Watcathel]

AIBU to be furious a girls mother is messaging my child on her daughters phone? My dd FaceTimes a girl from school and sometimes that girls other friend who
My dd doesn’t get along with joins in. A few petty comments has went on back and forth regarding an online game and this girls mother got involved texting my dd so I told my dd she couldn’t be on FaceTime to her anymore as they clearly can’t get on and didn’t want her involved in anymore drama.

Fast forward a day and now the mother has text my dd again asking why she is being funny ignoring her. WTF? I told my dd to not reply but she has kept texting. I don’t like to get involved but this is harassment surely? Any advice?

phone her, be nice, say i understand theres a problem with my daughter, sorry shes only 16 or whatever, you know what they are like ! DEFUSE ..... then talk to her, but dont get all judgemental about her being out of order phoning her..... or you,ll relight the fuse. If..... its worth the agro. If it trivial, let your daughter learn from the experience. Let her deal with a grown up, i bet the grown up is half the brian of your daughter...... genrally kids are these days.

you,ll gain nothing if you phone and rant.

DOUBLE CHECK THE FACTS BEFORE WADING IN !!!! lol... trust me, i,m made that mistake over and over... b4 learning.

Confront this weird woman and then remove the phone from your daughter. Ten is much too young

Kidlacky, you might want to take your own advice about getting all the facts before wading in - these children are Y6, so 10 years old or so, NOT 16 year olds.

OP, just speak to the mother, not over text but face to face using your actual voice. I think you can get this sorted out.

I get that everyone is saying 10 is too young for social media etc and OP shouldn’t let her kid use it, (I agree and my eldest was 13 before she was allowed) but this is FaceTime, not Facebook, it’s video calling and nothing to do with SM. If they have been arguing over a game then the fallout could have occurred in the playground, via landline call etc. It just so happens it was on FaceTime and then the messages have been a result.
Like others have said, call the mum, ask her if she’s been messaging, agree you don’t want anymore drama but messaging your daughter is inappropriate.

Do you see this other child's mother in the playground at all? Just as we advise children that online communication/ texts can be taken out of context and can come across aggressively, so can texts and messages between adults. Just speak to the woman, as gamerwidow suggested - she categorically should not be contacting your DD directly but there must be a reason why.
Reading your OP again, I wonder whether your DD has not made the wisest choices in what she said to this girl, so ask the Mum what was said that has concerned her, and politely state that she shouldn't your DD directly again and to speak to you if your DD contacts hers. Then tell your DD in no uncertain terms to NOT contact the girl again and tell you immediately if the parent does.

Hi, I hope you have sorted it out now. If it was me I would ring the Mum and tell her that her behaviour is out of line and it is now becoming harassment. Most children these days have a mobile from age 10 so its not your fault or your daughters fault. Try not to get too stressed.

Having read this thread I now understand why so many people get into ridiculous overly dramatic rows🤗.

There is absolutely no evidence that the texts are from the mother, yet so many responses here have involved an aggressive approach to this woman.

Why can adults not have a chat and establish what is going on?

Personally I'd be calling this woman, not texting back, and I'd explain exactly why my child wasn't calling her child. Ffs that other "mother" needs to get a grip.

Call - not text - the mother and ask her what’s going on. It might not be what you think. Your daughter is only 10, it’s entirely appropriate, and necessary, for you to step in here.

Another vote for phoning directly. No way I'd go in all guns blazing, just ask if the messages were from the mum and take it from there.

Take the phone off her and give her a non smart one she can contact you and you her on. Mine got basic phones in year 7 which seems to be a standard time. Why on earth does a child need a phone for especially a smart one, before that?????