AIBU to be sick of these comments?

[SundayGirlB]

My baby is 5 months old and ginger. I LOVE his hair. It wasn't a surprise, both DH and I were ginger as kids and my side of the family are Irish and ginger.

It's the first thing people mention, which is fine. I think he is gorgeous. But I get so many comments like 'oh no, it's not ginger it's more blonde' or 'it will go blonde/brown' or 'are you worried he will be bullied?', 'ah, i don't mind it on babies but not adults' etc etc.

I am fine for him to be a little flamed haired beauty forever but seriously, he is only 5 months and already getting negative comments. People need to get over this ginger thing.

AIBU to dye my blonde hair ginger in solidarity and tell people to sod off?

I would seriously tell them to fuck off.

Look them dead in the eye and say it. Or even better make a rude comment about their appearance and ask how they feel about it.

Do ginger kids still get bullied? It hasn’t been the case in my family (my side has ginger hair for most of childhood before it darkens to brown/black).

It's so offensive. I don't know why people feel the need to comment. All you can do is call them out on it, every time. Just saying "Red hair is beautiful." with a hard stare should do it.

Also, yes to dying your hair red! It worked for Christina Hendricks!

Maybe if they say to you 'are you worried about him being bullied'? You can say 'I am now... Thanks for that!!' might make them think a little about what they are saying.

I know someone who had this with her daughter. She used a hat, then she got asked why the hat, to which she explained that she was sick of the ginger comments.

People just say the first fucking thing that comes to mind, don't they? No filter or thought! I don't know what I'd say if I were you, but those people are rude.

It’s unbelievable. It would never be considered ok to make negative comments about other aspects of a child’s appearance! I’d get pissed off too op. Anything other than ‘lovely hair’ is rude, uncalled for and I’d be tempted to tell them to F off.

My DS has bright orange hair, thats the only way to describe it. Completely unexpected as nobody in our family has red/ginger/orange/auburn hair.
All we have had is positive comments re its colour, it really is beautiful and he looks like a Boticelli cherub; however if I had a pound for every person who knows DH who has questioned his paternity albeit jokingly, nudge,nudge, wink, wink I would have at least an extra 500 quid in the bank!

People are rude and will latch on to anything even slightly out of the ordinary to pepper their conversation.
Just tell them that their rudeness is quite upsetting to you, I'm sure your baby is just gorgeous with his flame hair.

It is so bloody rude isn't it? It's decided, I'm getting more hardcore with my responses. Watch out world.

Surely the only comments anyone should ever give are positive ones?

I can remember seeing a little girls with beautiful ginger curls......I said other mum that she had beautiful hair......the little girl smiled and the mum turned away. It made me think to myself I just shouldn’t have commented at all

I used to dye my hair ginger because it looked amazing (I'm just lazy now so don't bother anymore).

Just respond with "well did you get bullied for your big nose/because your eyes are too close together/for being a twat?" (Delete as required)

Why not say something like " Have you no filter?" or " Did you mean to be rude?"

Move to Scotland.
Any colour of flame hair here is admired and valued for the beauty it is.

'are you worried he will be bullied?'

'Nah, its fine. Once he's old enough we'll just dye it. He's nearly 6 months now so best get looking eh, don't want him to be bullied by the other babies. They can be so rude and judgemental!'

Or

'Not at all, thankfully you can change your hair colour quite easily. Must easier than learning not to be a disrespectful shitbag, clearly"

I find the ginger bullying thing so weird. My ds had lovely ginger hair! It got darker and only really looks a bit reddish in the summer now.

Tell them to naff off with their stupid (and arguably racist) remarks.

Move to Scotland.
Any colour of flame hair here is admired and valued for the beauty it is.

Or Italy. They bloody love ginger hair in most of Italy, go mad for it.

My child has gorgeous red hair, no one else in the family has so we are asked about it sometimes, but overwhelmingly with positive comments. Child loves all the attention and is becoming quite vain about it!

What the hell is wrong with people?! Next time you get a 'reassuring' comment about it changing, exclaim 'oh I hope not!!'

I am ginger (no Irish in our family, why
mention that?) Two of my children are. I experienced no comments growing up. But apparently the world has got far more cruel and both of my children have been picked on and physically attacked by some seriously damaged individuals. I'd say it's because of where we live tbh.

I don't recommend Italy as they get all touchy feel with ginger hair and it's overwhelming! There's also some delightful ginger song on SM about gingers should be dead, a view also held by that Katie Hopkins woman. Unfortunately in the UK you can now expect shit for anything that makes you different. Modern life sucks.

My ds is a firey red head hes 3 and only had one negative comment from a silly girl in the school. Everyone compliments him and stops me in the street to say how gorgeous his hair is.

Dd's teacher told her she was ginger but went brown and hoped dd's would too!!
Was fuming!!. She is a very proud ginger!!
Only her siblings tease her, not school.

Personally, I hate the term "ginger". It's awful. I have a child who is a redhead, or who has red hair. He is not "ginger", or "a ginger".

Anyway. He's been most definitely red haired since he was born. We have had nothing but positive comments on his hair, from little old ladies in the supermarket commenting how lovely it is to children in a small town in Spain wanting to touch it because it was so unusual to them. He is proud of his red hair and delighted that it makes him stand out from his siblings and cousins.

Might help that we're in Scotland where red hair isn't that unusual. He's one of 3 in his class with red hair. 10%. Nothing really to remark on in the same way as being left-handed. No big deal.

I don't understand this ginger = bullying thing either, I always wanted red hair! Had a real thing for it in men too, had a flame haired boyfriend as my first love and thought he was amazing.

The fuss about 'ginger' is ridiculous, and it's society-wide bullying. If you have red hair, you're fair game. That's a vile attitude.

Your baby is undoubtedly gorgeous.

Definitely give direct responses. As direct as you like.