To think some posters will always say the school / teacher is not being unreasonable

[andineverwill]

It really does feel you can’t criticise schools / teachers on here.

I'm now even more convinced about why/how the teacher could get this wrong is that the communication between the members of staff is poor.

I do see why you say that. But, I do think we'd given the teacher enough information in the meeting the day before that he'd take this mystery walk as an attempt to trick him. And he was in his uniform which isn't allowed, and also he'd have got embarrassed at his classmates seeing him. Embarrassed is another meltdown trigger.

With how difficult it's been, it really looked to me like a bad decision to take him anywhere when he was calm and engaged in the task he'd been given. Nevermind to FS which has been an ongoing trigger in itself.

Maybe he was very angry with the pupils? Had they behaved very badly at the event? Did they deserve a telling off? Some teachers are more shouty than others. I fully accept that. It isn't my way, and in my experience, it isn't most teachers. And a raised voice isn't the same as screaming, which suggests, at least to me, that the teacher has lost control. Hercules, I was a teacher for 30 years and schools are not the same as they were 20 odd years ago. Expectations of both teacher and pupil behaviour are very different.

Dobbin, I can see why from your point of view the teacher's decision to take your son for a walk was a big mistake, but honestly the best thing you could do is arrange an appointment to see her and explain why it was a problem. You know your son's triggers so much better than she does and I know you feel you've explained it all already, but talking to her again can do no harm. You are your son's advocate. But it does seem to me that in a mainstream class, the triggers may be difficult to avoid and the current arrangements are less than satisfactory.

@StreetwiseHercules my sons teacher is like this. We have had words several times already.

@Allington
Whatever the circumstances, you have encountered posters who will continue to blame you and your child. I wouldn't bother to engage.

I've missed the posts where people have blamed DobbinsVeil's son, please can you quote them?

“ StreetwiseHercules

How far do you want to take anecdotes?

We all have different experiences.”

Perhaps we could just agree the basic principle that shouting and balling in the workplace is misconduct and that it is worse when it directed at vulnerable people and their is a power imbalance.

I have been teaching over 20 years. I have only really shouted twice and both when a pupil was endangering another.

I teach in a high school with 70+ staff and would say there are four 'regular' shouters. Really loud shouters. Three male and one female. I hate hearing it.