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[Irishmumtogirls]

I'm a bit miffed at why so many threads are about no kids at weddings. Mabey it's an Irish thing but Aby wedding invite I've had never mentioned kids and I wudnt expect it.
I was married last year onky children invited were me and dh neices and nephews and r own daughter. Al kids were sent home after the dinner to their other grand parenmnts for the night. My daughter was minded in hotel room by wokrer from her creche. We al had a fab night with no worry.
Never once wud any of my friends expect their kids to be invited to a wedding and personally wud Prib be horrified at the thought of it. Why not enjoy a night off.
I get ebf but come on there is ways around this.
Ready to be roasted lol

[KUGA]

I hate weddings without children.
They make me smile with their antics.

[Enko]

Dh and I placed a note in our invite saying children were more than welcome and to just let us know. My niece dhs goddaughter and my cousin (age 2 at the time) came everyone else took it as a chance to have a time without children. I would do it that way again and let parents decide what they wish.

[LaurieMarlow]

I find that people who get really huffy about this stuff have vastly over estimated the relationship the B&G have with their children.

Having said that, if the couple can’t attend because they don’t have childcare, then the B&G need to respect that.

[inwood]

I'm really struggling to understand what you are talking about.

[Pukkatea]

At the end of the day, for every child of a friend at my wedding, that is one less person who I'm actually close to that I can invite. I think yes for immediate family, nieces nephews etc, but do people honestly judge people for not making space for their friends kids? They're your family, not the bride and grooms. I'm not going to bump a colleague of 6 years who I see every day so that your kid can come and have to leave at 7, it's just a waste.

[Monkeyseesmonkeydoes]

I’m Irish and kids are ALWAYS welcome at weddings as they’re part of the family.
Kids free weddings can be a PITA if you have younger kids who will need looking after all day and into the evening and you have no family close enough near by or not going to the event to look after them.

[Purpleartichoke]

To each their own on the kids
But I’ve never been to a wedding where there were a bunch of drunk people. Sure people have a glass or two, but it’s just not the kind of occasion to overindulge.

[Monkeyseesmonkeydoes]

It it’s totally the B&G ‘s decision, they just need to realise they might lose some guests because of that

[LaurieMarlow]

At the end of the day, for every child of a friend at my wedding, that is one less person who I'm actually close to that I can invite.

Yes, this is the pertinent point.

[SprinkleDash]

We tend not to have friends who have children (deliberately) so was fairly easy to keep them away when we got married.

[gamerchick]

Aw I haven't seen text speak like that in years. Makes me all nostalgic.

Especially since years ago I could actually read it. Now I know I'm old

I don't give a toss if kids are at weddings or not. You need to get over yourself OP.... If you're for real because all the text speak is a bit too try hard.

[EmeraldShamrock]

It was the highlight of year going to a family wedding with all my cousins.
I think it is mainly childless couples who request no DC.
When they have their own they realise how inconvenient it is to get to a wedding without DC.

[Monkeyseesmonkeydoes]

I prefer weddings where I know the B&G, know some people to hang out with and have enough to eat and drink, and preferably don’t have to hang around for hours I. The middle of the day for no reason. The rest I could give 2 hoots about!

[category12]

I guess your Internet provider charges by the letter.

[GettingABitDesperateNow]

I am fine with child free weddings but it can be a pain for some people. All my friends are spread over the country. One friend is getting married soon a whole days travel away. So we need to go the night before and aren't going to be back before they're in bed the day after. That's 3 whole days we need to arrange childcare for. That's not particularly easy for anyone, my parents are going to have them but they're in their 70s and it's a big ask to look after a 4 and 2 year old for 3 days.

Also I'm laughing at your 'there are ways around EBF'. Sometimes, there just aren't. Both my children flat refused to take a bottle from 3 months. From anyone. It was a complete pain. They wouldn't take anything from a cup or spoon etc either. If I'd been invited to a wedding that didnt allow babies, when they were between say 3 and 9 months, I would have had to decline. It would have been shit for me and no way would anyone have wanted to babysit and also shit for the baby.

[feelingsinister]

@gamerchick I have someone on my fb, I wouldn't really call them a friend, who writes like this. It makes them look ridiculous especially as they a a professional in a very responsible role. I often wonder what their written work is like.

[EmeraldShamrock]

Your OP took it out of me. It rarely happens as bad. I have mild dyslexia my brain took a beating on that OP.
Most weddings are 2 day events, when you love someone you make the effort.
We usually go separately due to childcare.

[misspiggy19]

I’m child free and would have a child free wedding if and when I have one, because children are generally nuisances at events.

^Far more adults are a nuisance at weddings getting too drunk and arguing than kids ever will be

[EmeraldShamrock]

I've never been to an Irish wedding were nieces nephews and wedding parties children were not invited.
These days most families have a smaller set of cousins.
I would never expect my child to be invited to a friends wedding, I expected my siblings to invite my DC, it goes without saying in this family.

[LaurieMarlow]

Far more adults are a nuisance at weddings getting too drunk and arguing than kids ever will be

Definitely not my experience. Do people really fight at the weddings you go to?

[SprinkleDash]

@misspiggy19 Far more adults are a nuisance at weddings getting too drunk and arguing than kids ever will be

Disagree completely! I’ve been to a ton of weddings and never seen anyone ridiculously drunk or arguing so not sure what types of weddings you’re going to! Have seen many children ruining vows and speeches by screaming and running about getting in people’s way!

[Wonkybanana]

Largely, child free weddings happen because there are some children who would (not wud) run riot, chase each other round the church, start loudly demanding snacks in the middle of the vows, and the parents, instead of telling them to behave, smile fondly and describe their children as free spirits and expect everyone to be completely enchanted.

As you can't say yes to some well behaved kids, but then tell one friend that theirs aren't welcome because they'll be obnoxious, it ends up having to be no children at all.

[TheKitchenWitch]

@Irishmumtogirls:
Who said abt drinking themselves stupid?

Well, essentially, you did:

I wud much rather my kids were not around a load of drunk people but thats just me

You don't have to get so drunk that you'd be embarrassed to be around your children or unable to look after them. It's not compulsory.

I don't think of a wedding as an adult affair, it's not comparable to a night out with mates, or eg a 40th birthday party, when I think it's fair enough to say no kids. Agree with pp who have said that the kids often have the best time and make it better. I have really fond memories of going to weddings as a child - the dressing up, the special food, the band, playing with loads of other kids, staying up a bit late...

[Namechangeforthiscancershit]

OP, what is up with all the text speak, weird abbreviations and missing letters? It's very distracting!

I KNOW I'm trying so hard to ignore it but really who writes like that.

It ultimately the bride and groom's choice. I personally love kids at weddings so long as they are made properly welcome and not just expected to sit quietly all day.

I have really happy memories of weddings as a kid. There were always loads of us, I got a new dress, there was dancing, lots of cake etc. I don't remember drunkenness but I'm sure someone of the adults had gone for multiple glasses of wine.