Why people get annoyed at no children wedding a

[Irishmumtogirls]

I'm a bit miffed at why so many threads are about no kids at weddings. Mabey it's an Irish thing but Aby wedding invite I've had never mentioned kids and I wudnt expect it.
I was married last year onky children invited were me and dh neices and nephews and r own daughter. Al kids were sent home after the dinner to their other grand parenmnts for the night. My daughter was minded in hotel room by wokrer from her creche. We al had a fab night with no worry.
Never once wud any of my friends expect their kids to be invited to a wedding and personally wud Prib be horrified at the thought of it. Why not enjoy a night off.
I get ebf but come on there is ways around this.
Ready to be roasted lol

[WhoTellsYourStory]

@TequilaPilates On that we're both agreed!

[milveycrohn]

I presume the real reason why children are omitted is due to cost. The venue will often have a maximum number of people (does this include children?). And if you are having a sit-down meal, then catering to children can be expensive, and youngish children will often not want to sit through several courses, and speeches.

When it comes to the actual ceremony, then a register office may also have a capacity, but the ceremony is fairly short duration. Similar to many other non-church venues.

A church wedding may have capacity, but usually the ceremony is a bit longer. I would expect children over the age of about 5 to behave themselves and sit quietly. But youngish children may easily find this difficult. Therefore, if invited, parents should be sensitive to this, and one parent should take the child outside if he or she become too noisy. I have seen some churches with a 'play area' at the back of the church, which might work, but it depends on the noise and level of disruption.

Weddings often have an 'evening' disco or similar after the actual meal, and it should not really matter if young children are running about, but OTH, many parents would not want their children out too late.

So, it really depends on what sort of wedding, and / or wedding reception is planned. Of course, children can be omitted, but similarly the B & G have to understand that this means some guests would have to refuse.

[Blondeshavemorefun]

That’s what I said @milveycrohn

Space and cost

To have friends children at my wedding (and all bar 3 have children)

So if we had 50 couples so 100 people and all brought their children that’s another 50/100 people. Many have 2. Some 3 or even 4

That’s 150/200 bodies

And venue doesn’t hold that

You can’t say friend a can bring hers but b&c can’t and d can

So easier to say family children only

Afaik all coming are happy to leave their children with gp and one with a friend

But if they couldn’t come due to no childcare then I wouldn’t mind


means we wouldn’t be able to

[Whattodoabout]

It’s annoying because not everyone has access to childcare so it prevents those people from attending. It’s not a bad thing for me because I personally find weddings rather tedious but I know it upsets some people to be excluded purely because they have children.