How often do people call their MIL?

[Geneva1995]

Just wondering how often people speak to their MIL on the phone. I speak to my mum every other day but I don’t feel the need to ring mil half as much and DP seems to think I’m unfair.
She rang last night and I missed her call so she rang DP and asked if she’d done something to upset me. I was in the shower!

We live 300 miles away so we don’t either of our parents often

I’m not sure I’ve ever phoned her in 28 years. Then again, why would I?

How often does your DP call your dad?

I never ring my MIL. I’ve text her maybe 3 times in 5 years. I speak to my mum almost every day.

Very rarely. DH calls his, I call mine

I have never in my life rang my MIL, I don't even have her number. We get on fine.

If DH said I should call her I would think he had lost his mind. Also I think he'd rather die than call my mum.

Tell him you'll call MIL as often as he calls your mum. Fair's fair.

I love my mil. She lives 100 miles away and I speak to her twice a week.

Never

And my DH never calls my mum either

Why would we? Unless it was an emergency or something

A never from me too...I see her about twice a year and all is ok ...but I would never ring her..

Never. She calls us.

I think it depends on your relationship. I used to ring my lovely MIL once a week and talk for an hour, and WhatsApp her a couple of times in between, whereas I never ring my mum and send her a message about once a month.

Never, and I like her well enough.
She never calls me.
DH calls her when he remembers.
DH never calls my mum, and he likes her well enough (so he says!)
All good.

Not once.

Not a lot and I really like her! Only if I need to speak to her about the DC or something so maybe like twice a year?

Weekly. She’s an amazing woman, I love her.
I give her a ring mid week usually after a tv show we’re both watching (currently GBBO), for a debrief of it between us and to let her know what time I’ll pick her up on Sunday for lunch/dinner.
Actually, she FB messaged me this morning to say she’s Ordering the Christmas Turkey at her butchers next week.
She’s 86.

Where has your husband got the idea that you should ring his mum from? It would be pretty odd if you did phone her.

Can’t he see how ridiculous the suggestion is given that he doesn’t ring your mum? Is he generally very odd about the roles that women should have in a relationship?

Never.

I like the woman fine; I'm even fond of her. She's been pretty good over the years but I do have the feeling that the minute her one and only son said he was unhappy the rug, would be pulled from right under my feet regardless of the circumstances.

Every day, she is elderly, I care.

I speak to mine everyday either on the phone or by text. I love my MIL.

I don’t. DH phones her everyday though 🙄

I’m from the Indian culture and feel quite sad reading these replies. When we marry, we adopt the whole family...so I call my DH’s parents Mum & Dad and I phone them at least every couple of weeks. He also rings and speaks to my parents regularly.

My PIL are lovely and I love having a chat with them.

When your dh asks why you don’t phone mil, ask him to phone your mum or dad in a reciprocal basis ... no?? Then he’s having a bloody laugh

Mine lives much closer so we see her (and FiL) most weeks. I never call her except to ask/arrange things, she's not a chat-on-the-phone sort of person. I call my parents about once a week and Whatsapp between times

Punchball I helped look after my mil, we went out for lunch, shopping etc till she passed. my dh is fab with my parents. However This sounds like wife work situation.. op correct me if wrong... which is different

Phone calls? Virtually zero over the whole 8+ years she's been MIL. But we text multiple times a week, mainly to talk about my DD, her GD.
She and FIL do us lots of amazing childcare/babysitting so we talk relatively often in person, and text, but never calls.
To be fair sometimes I forget to reply to her texts but she doesn't get arsey about it

I'm not even sure I have her number anymore, she doesn't ring me - I don't ring her