How often do people call their MIL?

[Geneva1995]

Just wondering how often people speak to their MIL on the phone. I speak to my mum every other day but I don’t feel the need to ring mil half as much and DP seems to think I’m unfair.
She rang last night and I missed her call so she rang DP and asked if she’d done something to upset me. I was in the shower!

We live 300 miles away so we don’t either of our parents often

I’m a total anomaly because I either see, speak to on the phone or text my MIL every day. She is lovely and helps us so much with childcare and lots of other things. I’m also close to my own mum and dad.

Never, and I really like her.

She has a son to call!

Never. I spent seven years sending her at least weekly updates on our lives, photos of their granddaughters, asking after them etc. One day I just couldn't be arsed with the one way nature of it all so I stopped. Its been six months now and I've not had a single message, just a FB gushing bday post. Not a card or present for either girls' birthday. DH talks with them almost daily through a family chat and every now and then will ask me to send over some photos. I feel a bit sad about it but it is liberating and zero guilt

Also they live on a different continent so we only see them at most once a year

Never, unless I have to finalise arrangements about something . She calls dh once a week.

Op you might have answered this already, but how often does your dh call his mum, and all importantly how often does he call yours?

Never. DH phones her so I don't feel the need to.

Never. Live about 250 miles away. She’s lovely.

Why sad, @PunchBall? I married an individual, I didn’t join his family. DH’s parents are definitely not my Mum and Dad, and neither are mine his. I like his parents and siblings, don’t get me wrong, and am happy for DS to spend time with them, but marriage hasn’t morphed me into having some familial relationship with them.

Been with DH for 19 years. I have never felt the urge to call my MIL, nor she me.
DH speaks to her 4-5 nights a week.

I only call if there's something specific to talk about, maybe every couple of months?
However we WhatsApp/text pretty much everyday.

Never

Never. She’s not my mother.

I have been married for 20 years-I don’t think I have ever rung my MIL. She’s rung me but we mainly text. DH rings her regularly.

Have you answered the posters who have asked you how often your DH rings your mum, @Geneva1995?

I've never rang my MIL, I dont even know her number!

We get on fine but I would never need to ring her for anything, she lives hours away.

DH rings her fairly often though and if he hasn't heard from her in a couple of weeks he'll ring her, we only see her and FIL in person every few months.

Never. I used to, but every time she picked up the telephone herself she only called DH's mobile, never the landline (which I might answer). DH never calls her but after years of calling her and her only calling DH's mobile I felt she'd shown it's only him she wants to speak to. Obviously there's more to this and I've tried but it's never reciprocated.

Never, she’s not my mum.

Although that’s not strictly true, a mutual acquaintance came into my work once and told me MIL had been in a bad car accident, so I rang her to check she was ok, she was fine and it turns out the police had been called and had to hold her back from belting the guy that rear ended her, she was 72 at the time 🤣

I don't think I have ever called my mil. I'm not even sure I have her most recent telephone number l! 9 years and it has never crossed my mind to give her a call and I quite like my mil!!

I ring my MIL once a week She isn’t perfect and it was a bit of a road to get there as we are chalk and cheese. But she knows how much I love her son and she is a good listener and we have a good relationship.

Dh speaks to her twice a week so there really is no more news to share between those calls. If there's something to tell her relating to the kids I woud text. She rings me the odd time. If I see a missed call from her I'd ring back. I used to ring my own mother almost daily before she died. I'd have thought it strange if Dh was ringing her too

Tell your Dh he can ring his mother more regular to keep her updated on any news, so therefore she won't need to speak to you.

I have never done this.

We miss them so much.

I message her nearly everyday. She's really supportive and we get along well.

Never. And I am very fond of her (despite her best efforts).

I'm going against the grain and saying 2-3 times a week i will text or call her, or she'll call/text me. We see her once a week or so.
She's like a mum to me and treats me like her daughter so why wouldn't I?

Never. I do text her sometimes.

I ring my own mum a few times a week.

To be honest, I might ring my mil but she's not much of a talker, and we don't have much in common. I like her, and I hope she likes me.

When I call my mum it's usually to moan about the kids driving me mad, or we put the world to rights.

I don't think mil would appreciate it, so our conversations are limited to what's on the television or soft furnishings.