How often do people call their MIL?

[Geneva1995]

Just wondering how often people speak to their MIL on the phone. I speak to my mum every other day but I don’t feel the need to ring mil half as much and DP seems to think I’m unfair.
She rang last night and I missed her call so she rang DP and asked if she’d done something to upset me. I was in the shower!

We live 300 miles away so we don’t either of our parents often

I only ever call mind when we're on the way to visit and my husband is driving. The call usually last about 9 seconds.

-"Hiya, we'll be there in about an hour"
-"OK, see you then".

Her own son rarely rings her so I definitely don't!

Your husband is worse for entertaining this "Did I do something?" his answer should have been "she's in the shower"....

Tell him when he starts having phone chats with your mam every second day, you'll do the same for his.

Never. Don’t even have her phone number...

Never. She is meddling and annoying, and if I rang her for a catchup I'd never be bloody off the phone because she will have a 20 minute conversation about overripe bananas just to hear her own voice rattle on. I've learned not to divulge info about myself because she doesn't mind sharing with all and sundry. She's about tolerable in small doses, but I don't hate my sanity enough to ring her 😂 OH is the same, waits till she rings him but avoids answering the phone as long as he can get away with it

Once a month to six weeks. She's pretty useless at answering the phone to be fair so I may a couple of times and not get her.

As often as my DH rings my mum.

It's pretty much "never" although there are vague memories of a couple of calls here or there, purely functional, either way. E.g.

Nora's DH: " hi FIL. Is mil around?
Nora's mum: "Nora's mum here, is this the DH?"
Nora's DH: "yes, Nora is driving. I'm calling to say there's a massive accident and we're crawling, we'll be about 20 min late at least."
Nora's mum: "oh ok. Thanks. Drive safe. Bye."

.... That's it.
For some reason op your DH thinks his social responsibility seems to fall on you. I'd be extremely at his expectations of wifework, if he can't see how stupid his expectations are without prompting.. well.. good luck..

I see MIL usually once a week and call her (or she calls me) 1-2 times a week.

I love her to bits despite her being quite hard work. She adores us all, is a fantastic Gran to our kids and she always has good gossip/chat/news.

I've never called my MIL - it just wouldn't be on my radar of "things to do". We exchange occasional messages as part of the family WhatsApp group, and there's another group with my husband, me and the PIL (no siblings on that one) but that's it - other than maybe pre Xmas or birthday if she wants to ask about (or I want to suggest) gift ideas.

That said, my husband now ALWAYS calls her when I'm around and puts it on speakerphone so I suppose I do speak to her sometimes - maybe once every six weeks not as often as she'd like though

Never! Occasionally I WhatsApp her a photo of the kids, but she has a son to do that.

I talk to her when she visits, we get on fine, so no issue there. I visited her when she was in hospital last week though, come to think of it.

Almost never, and I absolutely adore my MIL, she is a gem!

I will ring her maybe twice a year about something specific, like if FIL has been for an op and I want to check in.

We are in a lovely family WhatsApp group where all adult children + PIL chat almost daily, exchange pics etc. Plus MIL is my friend on FB.

Hardly ever?! Unless we're say in the car on the way over and I call to check she doesn't need anything from Tesco?! I never call my own mum either really we don't have that kind of relationship.

My MIL WhatsApp's me sometimes and I reply ... we also have a family chat.

It's a ridiculous thing to ask if he never phones your mum.

If I needed something I'd ring. She rings to thank us for Xmas etc. But she'll ring the house number.

Never call her directly

Does he ring your mum?

Never
I did exchange texts about my other halves big milestone birthday and a party being organised. And I occasionally like a Facebook post she does.

I've not called my MIL for over 3 years. I did used to but she doesn't really bother with us so I stopped.

I called her once when DH was in hospital. She doesn’t call me either.

In 11 years never! Speak to my mum every day. I have nothing in common with MIL. I don't dislike her just have nothing to say. She's never rang me either though!

Never - I call my Mum and DP calls his.

My MiL is great but I've never called her in my life. We talk fairly regularly in person or on skype, but always in visits/call initiated by and including my DP.

Never. She is meddling and annoying, and if I rang her for a catchup I'd never be bloody off the phone because she will have a 20 minute conversation about overripe bananas just to hear her own voice rattle on. I've learned not to divulge info about myself because she doesn't mind sharing with all and sundry. She's about tolerable in small doses, but I don't hate my sanity enough to ring her 😂 OH is the same, waits till she rings him but avoids answering the phone as long as he can get away with it

We have the same MIL

I used to make calls and take calls but stopped because I read about wife work and couldn’t believe I’d fallen into the trap.

I call MIL at least 1-2 times a week. One to arrange which day she's coming over. Randomly text her as and when. Several times a week, either to ask how she is, something about the DC or a photo.
DH calls her when I tell him to!
We see FIL every couple of months.
Speak to my parents once every couple of weeks - but they're not interested in the DC and tend to ignore them. See them once a year.

The same amount as I call my (deceased) mother.

Never. She calls occasionally and I'll speak to her but DP calls her once a week. My MIL and I get on well with each other but neither of us like chatting on the phone.