How often do people call their MIL?

[Geneva1995]

Just wondering how often people speak to their MIL on the phone. I speak to my mum every other day but I don’t feel the need to ring mil half as much and DP seems to think I’m unfair.
She rang last night and I missed her call so she rang DP and asked if she’d done something to upset me. I was in the shower!

We live 300 miles away so we don’t either of our parents often

Why do you have to call? Your dh should be it’s his mum.

See her every Sunday for breakfast but no texting or calls - relieved to hear others don't either. She has lots of sisters daughters and friends so she isn't lonely

Well, she died before I got into a relationship with her son, but I very much doubt I would ever call her, as would have been his job.

Never I don’t even have her number.

I adored my MIL, but I never called her. My husband called, because he loved her and he was a good son who didn't think it was his wife's job.

My DP doesn’t expect me to ring instead of him he speaks to her fairly often. I think it’s mil questioning him why I don’t ring and he feels bad

IF your dp has a go at you say very sweetly to him darling if you’re in a bad accident and a paraplegic or in a coma I promise to keep in touch with your mum, until then it’s your job and I have no idea why you’re not doing it.

Probably once a week mil will text 'can i ring you' which is code for 'will you ring me?' 😂

We text regularly and i go and see them, help with shopping etc at least once a week.

Never DH speaks to his own mum as do I with my mum

18 years married, never. I have her on FB and occasionally tag her in photos. That's it.

I used to ring her once a week. Sometimes we’d text between times. She now lives with us so we don’t ring anymore

Not often enough, it is only when I see her twice a year I realise how shit I am at contact.
I speak to mine most days.
DP calls his DM once a week which isn't lots really, though SIL her DD is in contact daily so no hard feelings or pressure from MIL feeling abandoned.

Never - I don't even have a mobile number for her, or connection on SM

DH is equally as unlikely to contact my parents, though my dad phones us a lot more often

Never. Been with DH for over 20 years & have two young kids. MIL is lovely but don't think I've ever rang her.

I speak to my mum maybe every other night. DH phones his mum once a week on a Sunday evening.

Never. Actually I rung her once prior to my husband's 30th birthday as I was organising a party in their town, literally opposite their house, to see if she could speak to the pub about karaoke. She was less than zero help and I organised everything from 90 miles away and have never bothered calling her again! She is my dhs responsibility. I wouldn't expect him to call my mum just to chat 🤷‍♀️

Never. I call my parents, DH calls his.

Tell him to wind his neck in.

Never. DH calls and visits.

Never. DH can deal with his mum.

I'm more often than never. I have my husband's mum and step mum. I ring them when I want to. I don't ring them more than their son does. He has also been known to call my mum. We don't have a schedule, but having been part of each others lives for over a decade, and getting on well, we sometimes communicate by phone.
I'd be pissed off if anyone started keeping tabs though. I have my own relationship with each of them, no requirement for that to be equal.

My mil died two years ago, but I'd never have phoned her for myself - I did sometimes help the DC phone her when they were quite little if one of them asked to. I'd say we had a mostly good relationship aside from a few rocky patches around the birth of the DC when she was cross with me for breastfeeding and not being more routine led and leaving the babies with her.

My DH has never phoned my mother and doesn't usually even speak to her on the phone, he passes the landline handset o me still ringing if their number is showing and the phone isn't on the base. If it's on the base he'll answer but pass it straight over after the minimum civilities.

I think it's normal that each member of a couple talks on the phone to their own parent but not necessarily to their in-laws at any length on the phone.

Never
I don’t even have her number

I've been married 11 years and only phoned MIL once to tell her dh was in hospital. Dh only phones if there's something to tell her but he sees her once a week.

Never really unless there’s a specific reason to. I do whatsapp though and send pics of DD as I think its unfair if I send them to my DM and not her (DH is useless with txting so she would never get them otherwise!). I go for Sunday lunch every 2 weeks with DH and then birthdays, events etc.

Very very rarely. Only if one of them is sick. Never to just chat. That ship has sailed long ago...