To be upset MiL treats my DC differently?

[DianneWhatcock]

My MIL looks after my SIL's children every day so SIL can work (I might add SILs partner - and dc father - doesn't even work!)

I occasionally ask her if I'm stuck for example in the holidays I might ask for a day here and there. But I always get the impression it's a big ask as she's already got so much on her plate with SILS dc

Tbh that part doesn't really bother me, but what pisses me off is she also takes SILs dc on holiday. While SIL has a nice child free break with her dp. They've been twice this year. whereas mine never even get asked.

I'm just saddened by it and also H never says anything to her about it.

Aibu?

@PepsiMaxCherry

Yep 🤦‍♀️ and they all ought to step up useless dick heads they ought to be ashamed of themselves

Then on the other hand if MiL refuses to do some (or all of it) they'd have to

No you are not being unreasonable it would annoy me too. My Mil went one worse than that. My H eldest brother had 5 children, middle brother 8 children my husband only one. Mil gave all the others pocket money except for mine. One day driving home from having all been together my 6 year old says from the back seat of car 'Mummy, why do all my cousins get pocket money from Nana but not me.' Honestly I felt like crying for her. I just said I don't know darling but don't you worry M and D look after you. Sooooo unfair.

Stop blaming your MIL for everything. She sounds like she’s doing her best in a shitty situation.

Have you spoke to her about the holiday situation yet?

The family set up makes sense that she helps her more. If your mum helps you out then it’s not that big of a deal is it? Your mother in law sees your kids I’m guessing but she obviously is around her daughters kids more.

It shouldn't make a difference but it does, sad but true.

Even without the family dynamics you describe grandparents have favourite children.

It suck but there is nothing you can about someones emotional attachment over another so don't waste your life over it.

Move on. Be happy.

@Maz54

awwww that is horrible 😢

I know it's been said already but...
"Similarly your mum probably cares more about your wellbeing (and your kids) than your db/sil." WTF

@pyramidbutterflyfish I know ! Seriously did not know where to start with that one 😬

Agree with @JassyRadlett @GrumpyHoonMain no they don’t you’re just a terrible person. Thankfully you’re in the minority though.