Not to want visitors?

[AnnetteJones]

Gave birth to a little girl last Friday. We are happy and healthy, DP is being a saviour. I’m still sore from the delivery so have informed friends & fam but don’t really want them to see us yet.

Had a snarky comment from lady in the next bed who has had a few visitors and said that she is just glad people care enough to come/are excited about her new arrival

Parents & siblings do seem a bit hurt that I have not given them a date to visit but of course they will meet her eventually!

Aibu?!

[crazycatlady7]

I'm due any time now.

I don't know how I will feel post birth, but I do know it's about my little family, my DH and our baby. We are aware our little world is going to change. I'm happy for supportive visitors when we are ready, but not the ones wanting to grab baby and have their 5 mins.

My SIL is upset I won't let her see baby the day it is born.... pointed out we don't know how we will feel and have agreed we are taking the first day just the three of us... and will then inform her. I don't want messages of I want to visit. I get constant digs now that I will prevent her from having a relationship with baby- I've pointed out having dinner with us weekly is not how to form a relationship! It's about doing things a child enjoys. And I've had a rough time being pregnant and don't have the energy to entertain!

Everyone is different and we all know how we want to recover, I know DH and I will need to time to adjust and learn how to parent our baby, we don't need visitors we need help- our mum's will look after us and ensure all is ok. But if we feel differently we will open the doors.

[Bluerussian]

Parents are more important than grandparents - some people never know their grandparents, sometimes they've died! You sound like a great parent, Cornflakes.

[Cornflakesncake]

@Bluerussian thank you so much for your lovely comment, appreciated x

[subwaysaladfan]

I'm from a culture where "family is medicne" no better way to recover than have your family around supporting you. We have a big close family and when one of us goes into labour the family (the ones that are not pre occupied) are at the hospital waiting for the safe arrival. When I had my children their dad all wheeled them in their coats to the doors where the family got to see them. My house was also decorated with balloons and banners on for when I walked in and all the family is there. The mother sits down while everyone attends to her and takes the baby while she sleeps. I know this is very odd to some but it's all we've known and it's the bit I love about having babies, showing them off to the family that have waited 9 months to meet.

[subwaysaladfan]

So many typos sorry

[Bluerussian]

Subwaysalad:- The mother sits down while everyone attends to her and takes the baby while she sleeps.
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I certainly approve of that! Unfortunately not all family member are so considerate.