To be unimpressed with this date offer

[BooFuckingHoo2]

I’ve been chatting to a guy from OLD and he’s asked me on a date, all well and good. I’d assumed he’d want to go for a drink/coffee or at a push food/some form of activity but instead he’s suggested we go for a dog walk (I have dogs).

I can’t help feel really odd that he’s suggesting meeting at my local park for a walk for the first date and I can’t put my finger on why! I suppose maybe I think that if he’s asked to take me out he should at least take me for a drink? (Note: I would be happy going halves).

Also I love walking my dog but it’s something I much prefer to do alone, looking a mess .

Am I being a spoilt bitch?

My immediate thought was that this way you can avoid the awkward who pays dance. And I think it's an awesome idea and would not consider it cheap.

Beiadss being free. You can be outdoors, if the conversation flows that's great, but if it doesn't it's less awkward than in cafe.

Are you certain he even has a dog? Why would he suggest a dog walk as a 1st date and not bring his? Nah. Something's not ringing true.

Our first date was the park with the kids! 16 years later we're still going

I think his idea is a great one. Because it’s a nice thing to do and because he thought you would like it. Can’t see why you think it’s odd. Just make sure it’s a nice public park so you feel safe...

I would love a dog walking date

I think I'd prefer a first date to be somewhere a bit more public!

The only thing I would change is don't choose a local park to you as if you don't like him he knows where to find you

Well, unless OP lives in the park, that seems unlikely

I think it sounds like a great idea. The first ‘date’ is really just an opportunity to meet each other in person and see if you click. So I wouldn’t think of it as a ‘date-date’ at all really. I’d you do get on then you can arrange a proper date. If you don’t fancy a dog walk then just suggest something similarly low key, like meeting for a coffee

I agree.

Best not invest too much - whether time, money or expectation - on the first date

This situation would give me ridiculous anxiety about what to wear. I'd probably be a total twat and go out and buy new jumper/jeans and boots to attempt to create the perfect casual but datey dog walking outfit. Then I'd be paranoid about my hair frizzing and have to do my make up and the whole lot would probably cost more in time, effort and money than just getting ready for a dinner date

Maybe OLD isn't the best way to go...

"Cool girls" is a phrase for women who allow their partners to go to strippers etc and try to be ok with it

'cool girls' can be a term of abuse by uptight posters to other posters who are a bit more relaxed / less uptight about life

I'm surprised nobody's suggested it's because he's married and he needs an excuse to get out the house without his wife getting suspicious

@AmIThough

I hear you and I raise you

• skinflint
• stalker
• rapist (hence suggesting a desolate wasteland for meeting)
• disrespectful
• a liar (does he really have. a dog...)
• a dog snatcher
• married,
• and quite possibly a paedophile (though that may just be my spidey senses, a feeling that something g is off and the gift of fear)

Cool girls 🤣

I manage to look perfectly 'nice in a pair of jeans thanks!

Sounds a lovely idea, no pressure nice and relaxed, look he may not think you pair click and saves the pair of you dressing up, and him buying you drinks or food. Lol Stop been precious go enjoy and be yourself!!

Someone took me on a picnic in the park for our first date. I was not v impressed as it felt too intimate and I would rather have been in a busier environment surrounded by people and atmosphere until I got to know him better. A picnic or park walk with someone you’re falling in love with - wonderful! First date, not so much in my opinion. I would suggest something else.

Update.....

I suggested it might be too dark/cold and maybe we could meet at the pub for a drink, he declined saying “actually somethings come up, sorry x”

Clearly just wanted a shag in the bushes

Sounds like he has no money to me...even if you went halves.

I think it's a good idea for a date - dog's are good at being ice breakers and if the conversation doesn't flow you have something else to focus on.

Oh thats nit good. I also would have said no. Im not intentionally meeting a stranger in a Park. Especially one who isnt bringing his own?! My shih tzu cross doesnt make a good guard dog.

@formerbabe definitely has money, he was sending me photos of his new Mercedes at the weekend, probably just doesn’t want to spend it on a fatty like me

Well whatever you sensed being off, was off.

You can always go somewhere for a drink/meal on a second date if there is one. Walking with your dog sounds great, Perhaps take a flask of coffee and sit on a bench together,then you will remember how your romance began !!

He's probably a serial killer, I'd avoid him.

I think it is a brilliant idea. I used to go on long dog walks with my hot neighbour as a teen and it was romantic and fun and great way to talk without the awkwardness of being a date date with eye contact constantly. Plus if your dogs like him that is good.

DON'T put yourself down, OP - for 'fatty' substitute 'curvaceous' and be proud of your body.

Anyone can find and send photos of Mercs and some clever folk can even photoshop themselves into the driver's seat

I reckon you've dodged a bullet and I suggest you block him before he reappears claiming that what came up went down and he's free for another non date.

OP, that sounds like a lucky escape. There is nothing youve written about him that sounds like he’s a good catch who is invested in charming you and creating a relationship.

You deserve better, days t doubt yourself! Block him and DO read the gift of fear!