To be unimpressed with this date offer

[BooFuckingHoo2]

I’ve been chatting to a guy from OLD and he’s asked me on a date, all well and good. I’d assumed he’d want to go for a drink/coffee or at a push food/some form of activity but instead he’s suggested we go for a dog walk (I have dogs).

I can’t help feel really odd that he’s suggesting meeting at my local park for a walk for the first date and I can’t put my finger on why! I suppose maybe I think that if he’s asked to take me out he should at least take me for a drink? (Note: I would be happy going halves).

Also I love walking my dog but it’s something I much prefer to do alone, looking a mess .

Am I being a spoilt bitch?

I drive a merc. It's a company car. Having a Mercedes might have impressed you, doesnt mean he owns it.

I dont think you had a lucky escape. Maybe you did. But maybe you just took too long to reply. Maybe he does have money and woman often date him just because they think he has money so was testing the water.

You comment about him not wanting to spend money on you is odd. Why would he want to spend money on someone, he doesnt really know.

Maybe he isnt the fussed about women who want to get really dressed up. Plenty of men like that. Plenty dont.

It just want meant to be. No one has to be wrong or 'bad'.

Maybe he saw your thread

My ex advertised himself in Tinder as having a Mercedes....
It was a work van!!.

I was in a bar last year and this guy came over to chat. About 3 min in he started talking about his car. I don't care about cars and they don't impress me so I basically just nodded and did the yea, cool, nice comments neutrally. He then got upset and was all "don't you believe me?!" And started showing pictures. Again I was saying that the car is nice but wasn't entrhusiaastic enough. He got so upset and stormed off

You comment about him not wanting to spend money on you is odd. Why would he want to spend money on someone, he doesnt really know

The op said she was happy to go halves.

I had the opposite. I used Easy Park at an airport and the guy who returned my car kept going on about it. It was nothing much but it was not your average car for the model. I just wanted to go home, FGS.

I think those men think everyone shares their interest.

The op said she was happy to go halves.

In which case the comment about him spending money ON her doesnt make sense.

He would be spending his own money on himself. Spending money on her isnt even part of the equation.

When I was OLD anyone who went on about cars or who was photographed with their car went straight in the "No" pile. As did anyone photographed with a tiger or a fish. to a degree it was "each to their own" but frankly anyone having a tourist photo taken with a drugged-up big cat is just scum and can FOTTFSOF.

His loss op! For what it’s worth I wouldn’t like that as a date either. It seems tight to me and very low effort on both parts. What’s wrong with wanting to get dressed up a bit and go somewhere nice? Strutting about in my anorak and wellies potentially swinging a bag full of dog shit (until you get to a bin!) isn’t what I’d call romantic!

Sounds like your ddog (and you) have had a lucky escape!!

@BooFuckingHoo2 my brother has done really well for himself in life, through lots of hard work. very nice car and home, dresses well etc. he attracts a certain type of lady. over the years hes learnt not to do the full on "meal/theatre" on a first date as he is old fashioned and wouldnt let a lady pay, which means he is often taken advantage of and it sets a president. so now he does a coffee at lunchtime on the first date. perhaps this is what this guy is doing? but in a wierd clumsy way!

Narrow escape. It's dark and cold here just now and often wet. The whole not bringing his dog was weird, as was meeting at your local park. Screams tight and wants to head over to yours after. Block him.

over the years hes learnt not to do the full on "meal/theatre" on a first date as he is old fashioned and wouldnt let a lady pay That's completely his fault though. He won't 'let' a woman pay?

@Networkon no, he is very old fashioned as I said. the way he sees it he has the spare money to spend and is just of the nature where he pulls out chairs and pays for bills. its just who he is. im sure if she insisted he would go halves (its not like he would kick off or force anyone to let him pay) but its just never happened and most are happy to let him. to his detriment.

also, of course its his own fault, which we have told him over and over and he is now trying to remedy this by not being so flash in the first place and just doing coffee. hence my suggestion this guy may be doing the same but taking it to the extreme.

it sets a president

It certainly does, I bet Melania didn't pay for the theatre tickets and dinner.

I suggested it might be too dark/cold and maybe we could meet at the pub for a drink, he declined saying “actually somethings come up, sorry x”

Dodged a bullet. But at least there was no accompanying photo of the thing that came up.

I bet Melania didn't pay for the theatre tickets and dinner.
I bet he didn't either.

Have you ever been on a first date with OLD? Because going out for a meal is the last thing I'd want to do!!

What happens if he's not your type or he bores the living daylights out you, or he's nothing like his pictures? You're stuck for the whole meal!!

You are probably best to go just meet for a coffee. Don't think of it as a date. If you do click and want to see each other again THEN you have date!

And if you don't fancy going on a dog walk. Just tell him. Really you are over thinking this!!

Sadly I am the expert of many OLD first "dates".

Ah sorry just read your update!

You dodged a bullet there!