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Do i let her know that i have found her letter

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user1471427614 · 13/10/2019 20:22

I need some opinions. To cut a long story short. Husband made friends with a single mum doing the school run. She lived further down the road from us so would sometimes walk the same way, husband told me about this.

Single mum then bumps into husband says shes moving away and whats his name so she can add on facebook. I comment this is strange and add her too. She later defriends me but keeps husband and likes most posts.

Unknown to me they are now chatting and metting up with children for shopping...lunch etc. I find out (they were seen) and words are had about breaking boundaries etc. I say that she has her eye on him, he says its not like that, she just has problems and needs a freind.

I have now found letter from her to husband confessing undying love and that she wants to marry him have children etc. Her letter makes it clear that nothing physical has happened and that he has said he wouldnt leave me but hes obviously making her think she stands a chance. Husband knows i have found this letter and will be dealt with when he gets back from work.

The question now is do I let her know that i know about her letter and what shes up to with my husband?

OP posts:
HazelBite · 13/10/2019 20:57

Wow, he has a lot of grovelling to do.
In my experience when attached men are "persued"like this they either run a mile, or lap it up indulging their ego's.
The Op's Dh obviously feeling a bit smug that he's still got it!

Darkstar4855 · 13/10/2019 20:58

Wow, 4 kids each and she wants more kids with him? She sounds a bit desperate.

He needs to cut off all contact, block on facebook etc.

Helmetbymidnight · 13/10/2019 20:58

hes behaved really really badly, and i would be furious. id ask him to leave for a few days - dont let him pretend he thought they were just friends- he knew.

cabbageking · 13/10/2019 20:58

She may simply be a nutter.

However it is up to your hubby to safeguard the family and stop any repercussions. This is just common sense.

user1498572889 · 13/10/2019 20:58

He left the letter for you to find. He either doesn’t know how to deal with her and wants you to sort it out or he is having some issues and this is his man way of getting you both talking.

IncrediblySadToo · 13/10/2019 20:58

How did it get on the kitchen side if he didn’t put it there? Did one of the kids pick it up from it being out through the door?

Are the kids old enough to have been able to read it?

ItsAlwaysSunnyInPhiladelphia · 13/10/2019 21:00

Personally I would message her telling her to leave my husband the fuck alone and make sure DH blocks her on everting

Witchinaditch · 13/10/2019 21:01

Sounds very doggy Op I’m sorry

RueCambon · 13/10/2019 21:02

Telling her to fuck off is pointless.

If the DH can't value his marriage and stay on the right side of appropriate boundaries then there'll be another 'confusion' later. Some other woman who thinks their emotional closeness means something.

Ated · 13/10/2019 21:02

Put the letter on Facebook and send it to every one of your friends, partner and her. Make it visible in a post.

Juells · 13/10/2019 21:03

I'd be a bitch and point out to him that when you split up you'll have your weekends free and he'll have eight children to mind Grin

TimeForNewStart · 13/10/2019 21:03

Had the letter been opened?

Savingforarainyday · 13/10/2019 21:03

Hang on. He's done nothing wrong
What *@LifeonVenus
Seriously??

He met up with someone who set her sights on him, kept it all secret, for god knows how long- that's " nothing"?

ohfourfoxache · 13/10/2019 21:05

Oh wow Shock

I think I’d be preparing to chuck him out, or at least threatening to

Juells · 13/10/2019 21:05

He met up with someone who set her sights on him, kept it all secret, for god knows how long- that's " nothing"?

...and the subject of 'leaving' has been discussed.

RainbowAlicorn · 13/10/2019 21:06

If it was me, he would have some explaining to do and I would message her telling her you have seen the letter and to back the fuck off.

WickedLemon · 13/10/2019 21:07

I’d be telling him to get the fuck home from work right now...

Not letting him carry on at work, buying time, giving the OW the heads up, getting stories straight, deleting messages, etc.

Drabarni · 13/10/2019 21:08

Sounds like it's at least an emotional affair, OP.
Has he carried on after you told him it was unacceptable, and he minimised as needing a friend.

ThreeLittleDots · 13/10/2019 21:08

The fucking liar. I'd not believe a word that comes out of his dirty little mouth. And with 8 kids between them! The shits.

Wafflecopter · 13/10/2019 21:09

Was the letter sealed or open?
She sounds insane, but your husband sounds like he’s been loving the attention, which is why he hasn’t stopped seeing her.
I hope your husband has a very good reason for even having this letter, let alone explaining it’s contents.
I wonder if he’s on to her now asking her what the hell shes playing at.

Windydaysuponus · 13/10/2019 21:11

He has enjoyed the ego stroking...
Soon be his dick stroked imo..

Drabarni · 13/10/2019 21:11

Yes, social media is the way forward. If more people did this and less women were happy to be no2 wife for a cheater, fewer would do it.
Tell everyone OP.

donquixotedelamancha · 13/10/2019 21:11

he claims to have not seen the letter, which was found on the side in the kitchen.

OP, she left it. In fact, she's still in the house.

Original poster
user1471427614 · 13/10/2019 21:11

Kids aret old enough to read it. It isnt dated and wasnt in a envlope just a few notepages folded. Its does say that she didnt want him to read it while she was there so it could have been slipped into a pocket. He does empty his pockets on the side and may not have noticed, i checked in case it was something he needed for work as i was tidying. I did let him know that she said her house was his house if thats where he wanted to be. You cant force someone to stay but would like to keep my dignity if possible.

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Drabarni · 13/10/2019 21:12

omg it's fewer women. They get me so mad, men like this that my English goes for a shit.

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