Do i let her know that i have found her letter

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I need some opinions. To cut a long story short. Husband made friends with a single mum doing the school run. She lived further down the road from us so would sometimes walk the same way, husband told me about this.

Single mum then bumps into husband says shes moving away and whats his name so she can add on facebook. I comment this is strange and add her too. She later defriends me but keeps husband and likes most posts.

Unknown to me they are now chatting and metting up with children for shopping...lunch etc. I find out (they were seen) and words are had about breaking boundaries etc. I say that she has her eye on him, he says its not like that, she just has problems and needs a freind.

I have now found letter from her to husband confessing undying love and that she wants to marry him have children etc. Her letter makes it clear that nothing physical has happened and that he has said he wouldnt leave me but hes obviously making her think she stands a chance. Husband knows i have found this letter and will be dealt with when he gets back from work.

The question now is do I let her know that i know about her letter and what shes up to with my husband?

I agree.. He's way too invested in his keeping his (innocent) contact with this woman, to the point where he will sacrifice his marriage.

He's already sleeping with her.

He won't cut contact, and even if he says he will, he really won't. He sees himself as her saviour, her rescuer and sees her as a damsel in distress and she is playing on that. I'm sorry OP just be on your guard, because this is just the beginning of a shit storm.

OP ..it doesn;t matter one iota what she says or does..she is not your problem.If your husband was 100 % with you, and your family was all about what made him happy nothing she could ever do would be able to threaten that.Like I say she may be a fool but she isnt your problem for that you need to look in the direction of your husband.I am sorry.

Baffled that people wouldn't confront her about this, it would be the first thing I did before I confronted him and so wouldn't give him chance to get his story straight.

Fuck being the "bigger person" she would know that I knew.

Somebody's telling porkies.

Some of the replies on here are disgusting. A bunch of soap watchers, gagging for some gossip and to witness the breakdown of OP's marriage.

We can all make assumptions, but the fact is nobody here could bet the life of one of their children that he is up to no good, so stop fucking saying that he is cheating etc.

Vilanelle
He might not be cheating but he's certainly lying.

I think he has been an idiot who enjoyed having his ego stroked without realising he was playing with fire. He just wanted a bit of extra attention and flattery and was selfish and dismissive of OPs feelings. Not good for anyone. He's lost her trust and will have to work hard to regain that. Men are so bloody stupid sometimes. (Women too).

@Vilanelle I know my partner wouldn't do this to me because he is a decent human being. It's not about him cheating, it's about him disrespecting his wife and her feelings.

It appears op will stay with this provk no matter what. But seriously, if I was in the same situation I'd show him the door. I would never do that to my partner and if I did show such disrespect I wouldn't be surprised if he told me where to go.

He's meeting her in secret, continuing the relationship knowing full well she wants to get into his pants and by the sounds of it is refusing to end the relationship and continually lieing. Not a good basis for a marriage in my view.

Prick not provk!

Can I just comment on a pps comment about the “ow” being a bunny boiler. Did you actually watch Fatal Attraction? The darling husband cheats on his wife. Rejects his bit on the side and she turns psycho

@OkPedro yup but she actually BOILED THE BUNNY.

Blimey. She’s got 4 kids and wants more with him when he also has 4 kids! WTF? She sounds nuts but why is he meeting up with her? For what reason? It’s not friendship and really he’s leading her on. If it was me I’d have to confront her and find out if anything has happened. She’s a chancer obviously but you need to know if they’ve done anything. No more school runs for him!

@MeOrDP
*Baffled that people wouldn't confront her about this, it would be the first thing I did before I confronted him and so wouldn't give him chance to get his story straight.

Fuck being the "bigger person" she would know that I knew.*

Totally agree! Watch her squirm!

A letter?!

Who writes them when you can Facebook message and delete to your heart's content?!

OkPedro

She may do in time, she is following the bunny boiling script. The OP H hasn't finished with her yet. If he does decide to, who knows what she might do.
I just hope OP sees that when her "H" opens his mouth he's lying.
I couldn't turn a blind eye, OP deserves better, but maybe feels she doesn't on all counts.

OP how's it going?

This woman sounds like a bloody nightmare! Is she quite mad sending this sort of letter to a bloke in a relationship? How desperate is she?. What an absolute cow!