Would you prefer to live alone?

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If you had the financial flexibility to do so, and if you didn't have the emotional pressure to live with your partner, would you prefer to live alone?
Inspired by the article: www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2019/oct/13/you-dont-have-to-settle-the-joy-of-living-and-dying-alone

My answer is yes.

Honestly, yes sometimes I think I'd prefer to live alone. I did for a while before my now DH moved in. However it can get very lonely and you need a good social network to avoid feeling lonely. I couldn't make a relationship work long term though if we didn't live together.

Yeah, definitely

Yep, without a doubt. Would need some dogs though.

No. My dp is the mirror image of me. We think the same, have the same opinions on almost everything, and never argue. So there's no conflict, no disagreements, and no loneliness. Just the way I like it.

Yes, and I do. I’ve lived with others - shared houses/housemates, and living with partner - but I fucking LOVE living alone.

The house can be as ‘awake’ or as quiet as I like (eg getting up early and putting on all the lights and radio without waking anyone else up), bed to myself, everything how I want it to be without compromise. Selfish? Absolutely, and it’s brilliant.

I live alone (with the baby). I get looked at like I'm from another planet when I explain that my partner and the father of my child does not live with me. I think there is a general assumption that to have a proper relationship you need to live together but I don't think that's necessarily the case. My partner and I are very happy living seperately and having our own space. He lives very close to me though so if I need him he can be at mine very quickly and as we see each other almost every day and eat dinner together most evenings I don't ever feel lonely.

This us heartening to read as I'm just about to move out from a failed relationship into my own place with my dog .
Money will be tight for a few years though as paying off debt. I was dreading the loneliness but will try and look at the positives .

Yes!

Yes and I do apart from DD.

Nothing will ever change (apart from her moving out at some point I imagine!)

I spent years working very happily for six months a year in another country from DH. A friend of mine has just moved out from her marital home, but the marriage isn’t over — they both think it will improve things. Less happily, another friend is getting a divorce in part because he thinks he was too set in his ways from living alone before he got married — unfortunately, I think this will mean that, he will now spend the rest of his life playing Warhammer in his pants.

I do live alone, and it's great. I have no interest in living with another person anytime soon!

Let's list shit we'd do/have if we lived alone. I quite enjoy living with DO but preferred living alone. I'd fill the house with colourful secondhand furniture. I'd also let the cats sleep with me (I dont care about being woken up at 6am).

Absolutely.

Yes, just me and the cat. Lovely.

No, I love living with my DH. If you had asked when I was with one of my exes, the answer would have been different.

I moved out on my own, then lived with my partner for 3 years, and I’m recently on my own again.

Some days I absolutely love it, other days it’s lonely and difficult. I think there are advantages to both, but I’d definitely have to be very sure about someone before moving in with them! It’s a painful process splitting up when you live together and I feel a lot more in control now on my own.

I do, just me and three cats.

Totally love living on my own. It was bliss when Ex moved out.

However I do like someone to go on holidays with.

Not really. If I did, through circumstances (ie dh left/died and kids grown up) I would have to keep very busy.
If I was older - retired- I’d consider going into a retirement community so have ready-made social activities.,
My mum was on her own when I left home and she worked pt, volunteered, went to social things etc. I am like her.

@hellenbackagen sorry to hear but you will LOVE living alone, trust me xxx

And you are so lucky to be able to have your dog 😉😉

I'd hate to live apart from my DP, but I like the idea of living on my own in the abstract. Basically if something happened to him I'd be happy not to cohabit again.

No - I’ve lived alone (not by choice) and really found it so lonely. Like the poster above I think I would go for a retirement community if older or a flat share now - I don’t think I’m at all cut out to live on my own.

You get used to the lack of money though, the way you would adapt to any change over a time.
I look back at my last live in relationship and although I had more money, it was 50/50 the happiness to pissed off crying in the other room stakes.

My parents split up and now live apart but ended up getting back together- however they live apart and have their own places, meeting up from time to time. It seems to work for them better than living alone and they are happier now.

I think a lot of people who answer yes are probably coming at this from a place of never getting a moments peace.

I have always lived alone, since beginning my adult life anyway, and it’s pretty relentless. Financially it’s more expensive, if something breaks, you have to fix it yourself or pay someone to fix it or replace it, bills can’t be split.

Beyond that though, it’s just lonely. Lonely evenings, nights, weekends, knowing there’s a million people you don’t matter to.