Would you prefer to live alone?

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If you had the financial flexibility to do so, and if you didn't have the emotional pressure to live with your partner, would you prefer to live alone?
Inspired by the article: www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2019/oct/13/you-dont-have-to-settle-the-joy-of-living-and-dying-alone

My answer is yes.

Marriage and kids aren’t compulsory, so if really and truly what floats your boat is spending every minute you can by yourself, why didn’t you do that?

What an odd statement. I live by myself and I'm neither married nor have children so that is exactly what I have done. Why do you think it's only a 'fantasy' for people to enjoy living alone?

It’s not daffodil but as I said, if you know you love living alone and it’s really what you want, you wouldn’t have married or had kids in the first place. It isn’t compulsory. You might really enjoy spending time on your own - I do, too. That’s something different.

I live with husband but feel like I live alone. We don’t talk, when we do it’s only about the children. If I could afford to I would leave in a heartbeat. He has no interest in me whatsoever. I just wish I could up sticks and leave with the children. A few months back I asked him to leave after I found out he had racked up some serious debt. My kids had a breakdown. My mum and dad talked me into having him back. I seriously wish I’d stood my ground. I just look at him and think “knobhead.”

I've lived alone for years. Believe me the grass isn't always greener...

Fair enough then daffodil, but a lot of the people insisting they’d love to live alone are married with kids!

That’s an unhappy marriage, kazza, which must be very hard

But there is a difference between unhappy relationship, living alone, happy relationship.

if you know you love living alone and it’s really what you want, you wouldn’t have married or had kids in the first place

I didn’t know I did until my marriage ended.

I'd maybe put dh in the house next door ideally

You have a child, IIRC Jacques

Yes, definitely.

Yes. I'm a neat freak & I live in a house share. My house mate is great- lovely, clean and pretty tidy but I still find it difficult. I'm trying to buy and I'm looking forward to solely controlling my space and not having anything get in the way of my routine. I'm dyspraxic so it's how I keep order.v

I'm also an ambivert so do my best to have a full social life & then enjoy/feel grateful for the alone time at home.

You have a child, IIRC Jacques

And

I dealt with that very clearly up thread.

You seem utterly invested in proving to people why they’re wrong. Is your own living situation insecure?

I’m not in the slightest. I accept that some of you have actively chosen to live alone and love it - grand. Some of you don’t live alone and insist you would love it, I don’t think you would.

Some of you don’t live alone and insist you would love it, I don’t think you would

Ah so you’re coming from a place of arrogance.

Tiresome.

Yes yes yes yes. I wish every day that I could but it would be impossible at the moment. Maybe, just maybe in the future... I would relish it.

@ThatMuppetShow I'm an only child of older parents, grew up in a huge house so lots of space to myself & parents who didn't poke and pry.

I don’t think I am the arrogant one, Jacques. It really is a case of being very careful indeed what you wish for. And I know we all do it, to a greater or lesser extent - I’m groaning about Sunday blues and I should be damn grateful I have a job at all - so I’m not trying to be an arse, but believe me, when you’ve spent years and years in an empty house, people being blasé about the wonders of it do make me head tilt.

@JacquesHammer something about pots and kettles springs to mind, can’t quite recall the exact phrase.

Yes.
100%

Why don’t you then miss, seriously, what is stopping you?

Highwindowbluesky

I think many would rather live alone than live with the person they currently live with.

Those that live alone would rather live with the person they imagine the would live with.

Crossed my mind cuddle

DP and I don't live together, sometimes I think I'd like us to other times I like my own space too much. I've lived by myself for ten years and actively enjoy it, the people talking about loneliness often don't understand that those of us who are by nature introverted and solitary don't see or feel it as lonely. I'm an only child as well and I don't think I've ever felt lonely in my life. I'm not self centred or anything, just perfectly happy in my own company.

I don’t think it’s as simple as that dusty. I’ve no particular person in mind who I’d like to live with. Obviously if you’re widowed or similar I suppose you would.

Likewise, I don’t think many people would actually like their husband, kids etc to vanish into a void they just think how nice some peace and quiet would be!

Maybe we should do a house swap, like when the people had to swap meals on supersize bs superskinny!

I don’t think I am the arrogant one, Jacques. It really is a case of being very careful indeed what you wish for. And I know we all do it, to a greater or lesser extent - I’m groaning about Sunday blues and I should be damn grateful I have a job at all - so I’m not trying to be an arse, but believe me, when you’ve spent years and years in an empty house, people being blasé about the wonders of it do make me head tilt

It isn’t arrogant to say I know my own mind. I know exactly how I will feel about living alone and it won’t be a problem.

It is the height of arrogance to tell me I’m wrong.

I also can’t understand your motivation. Insecurity one suspects.

something about pots and kettles springs to mind, can’t quite recall the exact phrase

I don’t think you understand that phrase properly.