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AIBU?

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Original poster

to wish that DP was better endowed?

294 replies

IHeartPinkGin · 11/10/2019 22:20

NC for this.

So as not to drip feed, DP and I have been together for almost 2 years now. He was a virgin when we met, so little in the way of experience, I have only had one sexual partner prior to him. I feel like the sex has dried up due to the fact that we can only ever do it in two positions due to his size. I never orgasm with penetration with him (whilst I could of easily with my previous bf.) DP is wonderful and attentive in bed, lots of foreplay etc and always makes sure I come, but I'll admit I'm finding the size of his member very frustrating now and I had better orgasms with my ex. AIBU to feel frustrated?? Anyone have any wise words of advise? He really is an amazing man otherwise and I love and value our relationship.

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larrygrylls · 16/10/2019 06:21

People must be either sex obsessed or really unbothered about conversation or personality.

I would take shit sex and great conversation any day. You spend a lot more time not having sex than having sex.

And those who claim that they have found perfect compatibility on both fronts have either hit the jackpot (extremely rare) or are deceiving themselves.

Sex can be worked upon relatively easily, being kind or interesting is far harder to work on.

LuckyAmy1986 · 16/10/2019 08:10

If someone told me their exact penis measurement it would put me right off sleeping with them!

Justaboy · 16/10/2019 21:14

There’s also this unwritten rule that the measurement is in inches

TMI of course but the offical measument is taken from the pubic bone at the top of the penis to the tip at the end so you roll the measuing tape ruler micrometer etc round the bell end to the tip!

Learn something everyday eh;?.

SuperSara · 17/10/2019 14:26

@Kittykat93 (and others) girth is circumference not diameter or width.

SuperSara · 17/10/2019 14:39

@LuckyAmy1986 I measured DH's because we were struggling to find suitable condoms at the time.

I've seen people on MN post absolute crap about them being stretchy so they fit anyone and any man who says they don't fit is talking crap, etc. But that's simply not true.

Standard sizes are far, far too tight for DH - they completely cut off the circulation - so I measured in order to find the right ones.

His size corresponds to 60mm diameter, by the way, and Pasante Superking size are absolutely perfect, so anyone else having similar issues would do well to try those.

Penelopeschat · 17/10/2019 14:52

@larrygrylls - agree completely!

Itsrebekahvardysaccount · 17/10/2019 15:06

60mm diameter Blush

I wouldn’t know what to do with that. Ouch.

angell84 · 17/10/2019 15:17

Sometimes i think that I would be happy if I never had sex again.

I think that we don't NEED sex

No one ever died from a lack of sex

Woodlandwitch · 17/10/2019 16:08

60mm diameter is just 6cm - why that be ouch?

Windydaysuponus · 17/10/2019 16:28

My exh measured his for a laugh! He was pleasantly surprised...
And rang his dm to tell her!!
Wtaf??!!

Arnoldthecat · 17/10/2019 16:36

It must be terrible for a man with a small penis.

The whole world screams inadequacy at him.

The porn industry has normal and large sized willys.

Women and the general media pretend that size doesnt matter when actually it does.

Theres a whole rip off industry out there selling creams,pills ,potions and pumps promising the world and delivering nothing.

I think OP should consider her future with this guy . She could have a nice guy who she loves with a good sized willy.

Thankfully its not an issue for me :)

Justaboy · 17/10/2019 19:49

60mm diameter

The orignal Ivor Biggun must be thats well BIG!

If of any length that must be uncomfortable:(

TheWorldAsh · 18/10/2019 13:52

@SuperSara is right. Condoms that are too tight aren't fun at all. We had to find a brand that works and measurements are needed to get the right size, back when we needed to use them (as birth control isn't just a woman's issue to sort)

However 60mm or 6cm in diameter is 18.74cm in circumference (7.37 inches!)

That's going to need some serious lubrication.

TheWorldAsh · 18/10/2019 13:55

@Woodlandwitch the ouch is because, for reference, the top of a standard half pint glass has approximately a 60mm or 6cm diameter. So yeah, ouch.

Woodlandwitch · 18/10/2019 14:34

@TheWorldAsh i just had a look at a ruler and I am definitely mistaken. The 60mm in my head is not as small as I thought !

Indeed, that would be ouch!

NewNameGuy · 18/10/2019 14:41

"Long and thin goes too far in, and does not please the ladies.
Short and thick, does the trick, and manufacturers babies"

I'll get me coat

TheWorldAsh · 18/10/2019 15:09

@Arnoldthecat so the OP, who is generally happy with their partner (including noting she has regular orgasms when they have sex) should get rid of them in an attempt to find one equally as nice but with a bigger penis?

What if she finds a nice guy but his manhood is too big? Does she try again?

Branleuse · 18/10/2019 15:15

if she wants to, but id suggest maybe not getting as involved in the relationship before deciding whether the physical stuff is adequate or not as its definitely quite harsh to dump for that several years down the line. We all have the right to leave relationships that dont hit the spot though. We only get one shot at life

CravingCheese · 18/10/2019 15:17

Long and thin goes too far in, and does not please the ladies.
Short and thick, does the trick, and manufacturers babies"

That's... Actually pretty accurate imo.
I mean, not micropenis short I suppose. But somewhat below average in length is perfectly OK imo/won't actually have a negative impact.

DarlingBuds19 · 18/10/2019 15:26

Ladies here is another perspective.
I'm small as well. I am also (and these are not my words) perfect for anal sex.

We've already had that perspective from a woman and it was as irrelevant then; anal sex is not the default and many women do not enjoy it (some men don't rate it either).
We're discussing regular vaginal intercourse.

TheWorldAsh · 18/10/2019 15:27

@Branleuse The original poster has been with her partner for two years.

Branleuse · 18/10/2019 15:30

yeah I know, I read the thread. I know that a 4inch cock would be a dealbreaker for me. It wouldnt take me 2 years to decide that, but that doesnt mean that someone cant decide 2 years down the line that actually they need more. We all have that choice in this country, thankfully. We are allowed to leave relationships

TheWorldAsh · 18/10/2019 15:48

@Branleuse yup, you're allowed to leave a relationship.

However in the case of the OP she states a lot of benefits of her partner, including he makes her climax when they're intimate. He sounds like a nice guy who happens to be a meagre 3 cm shy of the average penis length.

If I was her I'm not sure I'd ditch him in an attempt to find that extra 3 cm.

But it's her choice.

Arnoldthecat · 18/10/2019 16:32

"Long and thin goes too far in, and does not please the ladies.
Short and thick, does the trick, and manufacturers babies"

OMG i thought this rhyme wasnt general knowledge !

Branleuse · 18/10/2019 16:32

yes, I think I agree that id think carefully if shes actually been mostly sexually satisfied till now.
Even an average sized one would be a dealbreaker for me too though.