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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to wish that DP was better endowed?

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IHeartPinkGin · 11/10/2019 22:20

NC for this.

So as not to drip feed, DP and I have been together for almost 2 years now. He was a virgin when we met, so little in the way of experience, I have only had one sexual partner prior to him. I feel like the sex has dried up due to the fact that we can only ever do it in two positions due to his size. I never orgasm with penetration with him (whilst I could of easily with my previous bf.) DP is wonderful and attentive in bed, lots of foreplay etc and always makes sure I come, but I'll admit I'm finding the size of his member very frustrating now and I had better orgasms with my ex. AIBU to feel frustrated?? Anyone have any wise words of advise? He really is an amazing man otherwise and I love and value our relationship.

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Geminijes · 12/10/2019 16:01

Maybe his 'organ' needs to play in a smaller hall.

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IHeartPinkGin · 12/10/2019 16:04

Thanks everyone for all the advice. I am actually overweight according to my BMI so I'm 25.8 so I could do with losing a few pounds! I'm still working at that.
Thanks for the opinions on both sides, it's been very valuable.

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Branleuse · 12/10/2019 16:07

losing weight is good for not putting as much pressure on your pelvic floor, but that doesnt mean youd start being satisfied with a smaller cock

oabiti · 12/10/2019 19:31

I think some of the messages on here are horrible sorry, men cannot change the size of their penis and surely if you love the man you love his penis because it's his. Imagine if you had a young teenage son who was worried about his size, would you let him read some of the replies on this?

No, they are not horrible, they are honest! Are we meant to put up and shut up. Why can't we be honest about what we prefer in bed. Why the f_ck should we hide it??

Rivkka · 12/10/2019 19:48

That would be a deal breaker I think.

Also, are there two types of doggy style? I only know one, what's the other one?

Mother87 · 12/10/2019 21:21

Thanks prawn

PepsiMaxCherry · 12/10/2019 21:55

@MarianaMoatedGrange

Hahahahahahaa i am clenching after reading @Prawnofthepatriarchys post!!!

Branleuse · 12/10/2019 22:37

It is horrible. That's what makes it difficult to talk about. We feel all guilty for not wanting to have unsatisfying sex forever

managedmis · 13/10/2019 01:29

Dear god, he has a tiny todger so the suggestion is for her to take up her arse to get off?

Apparently

OldAndWornOut · 13/10/2019 01:36

Better that than a great big one pushing its way in!

LipSyncForYourLife · 13/10/2019 03:01

Have you thought about going round it a few times with some bubble wrap?

oabiti · 13/10/2019 03:48

Have you thought about going round it a few times with some bubble wrap?

DearAudra · 13/10/2019 14:42

It is important to have a healthy and fulfilling sex life IMO. Try using sex toys together and over time introduce larger ones.

Queenunikitty · 13/10/2019 14:47

Anal sex is the answer.

timshelthechoice · 13/10/2019 15:05

Anal sex is the answer.

Jesus wept. Finding a guy with a bigger dick so you can use the anatomy that's actually made for sex and get off on it is the answer.

TequilaPilates · 13/10/2019 15:10

No, they are not horrible, they are honest! Are we meant to put up and shut up. Why can't we be honest about what we prefer in bed. Why the f_ck should we hide it??

So if a man prefers a tighter vagina it's ok for him to say so is it? Or ok for him to divorce her after childbirth because he shouldn't have to put up with an unsatisfactory sex life? Somehow, I think not.

timshelthechoice · 13/10/2019 15:17

So if a man prefers a tighter vagina it's ok for him to say so is it?

Yes. No one is owed a relationship. People are allowed to have whatever dealbreakers they like. People divorce over unsatisfactory sex lives all the time, mostly because so often they talk themselves into continuing to date a person with whom they are having unsatisfactory sex when they should be honest with themselves and the other person and move on to find people who are better suited to them.

Runkle · 13/10/2019 15:28

One of my exes who had the smallest I've ever been with (3-4 erect) was the only one who I could orgasm through penetrative alone. Sex was amazing. However, I was younger and a lot slimmer m then so who knows what it would be like now. I'm just speaking based on my own experience.

ukgift2016 · 13/10/2019 15:28

I know if is not morally correct to say this but I couldn't be with a man with a small penis.

It is always disappointing when you are first dating a guy and you see his package for the first time and it's small...it's just not the same.

EmeraldShamrock · 13/10/2019 15:35

Yanbu OP.
I know it is shit because he can't change it.
You can't change how you feel, you deserve a satisfying sex life.

Twistables · 13/10/2019 16:04

Thanks @Prawnofthepatriarchy very helpful reminder!

TequilaPilates · 13/10/2019 16:09

timshelthechoice

Ok. I shall look out for responses like that on the next "my DH doesn't want to have sex with me because I've put on weight" thread then. Rather than the "ltb", " he's a pug" responses I'm sure I'll see plenty of "good for him. Why should he have to put up with unsatisfactory sex" responses.

Rachelover60 · 13/10/2019 18:02

managedmis
Dear god, he has a tiny todger so the suggestion is for her to take up her arse to get off?

Apparently grin

.......

I balked at that too, couldn't believe what I was reading! Are we allowed to proselytise about nasty and painful sex acts now? There have been threads in which people are outraged at young girls being expected to do that because their boyfriends have seen it on porn sites. Now we have posters not only suggesting but evangelising about it.

Revolting.

MonstranceClock · 13/10/2019 18:09

Anal sex isn’t nasty. Just because you don’t like something doesn’t make it nasty.

TheWorldAsh · 13/10/2019 20:40

For those saying 6.5" isn't big. Well it is. It's in the 98th percentile.

I would not be leaving a considerate man who made me orgasm every time...

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