to wish that DP was better endowed?

[IHeartPinkGin]

NC for this.

So as not to drip feed, DP and I have been together for almost 2 years now. He was a virgin when we met, so little in the way of experience, I have only had one sexual partner prior to him. I feel like the sex has dried up due to the fact that we can only ever do it in two positions due to his size. I never orgasm with penetration with him (whilst I could of easily with my previous bf.) DP is wonderful and attentive in bed, lots of foreplay etc and always makes sure I come, but I'll admit I'm finding the size of his member very frustrating now and I had better orgasms with my ex. AIBU to feel frustrated?? Anyone have any wise words of advise? He really is an amazing man otherwise and I love and value our relationship.

You go ahead and do that then, Tequila, because people are allowed to have dealbreakers. A person can lose weight, but you can't grow a bigger wanger.

Anal sex isn’t nasty. Just because you don’t like something doesn’t make it nasty

Haven’t you had the memo? You’re not allowed to like anal - it’s anti feminist. The only reason you do it is because your porn obsessed, misogynistic partner makes you. Either that or it’s the liberal feminists are at fault. Or.... I don’t know... maybe you just like it huh?

She didn't ask about bum sex, she said she felt unfilled vaginally due to her partner's size so the suggestion she gets round feeling unfilled in her vagina that she instead inserts his tiny todger into her arse is ridiculous.

You go ahead and do that then, Tequila, because people are allowed to have dealbreakers. A person can lose weight, but you can't grow a bigger wanger.

I just find it very shallow to consider ending a relationship due to a physical issue that the person can do nothing about. Op says he's a good partner in all other respects. No one is perfect so why end a good relationship over this?

And no one would agree with a man complaining that his gf boobs were too small for his liking.

That's why the question "Am I being unreasonable"?
Small boobs, I would say, are not the same thing as having sex that leaves you vaguely unsatisfied for potentially the rest of your life.

I have certainly seen male partners being castigated on here for being reported as saying a vagina is too big for them. I've been on here 15 years, not everybody is singing from the same hymn sheet on here.

That's why I tend to get in first with my partners, to say that I'm bigger than average and to tell me positively what positions work best. Of course, truth is, it's about the fit between two people - the partner that told me negatively I was 'too loose' was on the smaller side himself; partners with more girth tell me they don't know what I'm talking about.

If you are having consistently rubbish sex due to a body part, yes that could be a reason to end the relationship I guess. I just feel that in most cases, most of the time, you can find a work around that makes sex a whole load better. There are also ways and means to say these things, or not say them.

[still clenching]

So if a man prefers a tighter vagina it's ok for him to say so is it? Or ok for him to divorce her after childbirth because he shouldn't have to put up with an unsatisfactory sex life? Somehow, I think not

It wouldn't be nice for him to say. But surely him being honest is better all around.

I'm just sick of this, not sure what the word is, that women have to put up with shit sex. We don't. But neither do men.

There is an NHS pelvic floor app. Squeezy. Downloading it now.

And FWIW, I've dumped a man for having too much package. The sex hurt and was not enjoyable.

Was I not within my tights to do that??

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It’s not a ’squeezy’ app that OP needs. Her problem is more, err... ‘stretchy’.

Most of us don't want something too big. And most of us don't want something too small. It's one of life's puzzles that we are all different sizes, shapes. But that is where preference comes in. It has fuck all to do with someone's character. A lot of people overlook it. Some people can't.

Have my husband. Too big for most positions. It hurts me.

“Most of us don't want something too big. And most of us don't want something too small.”

@oabiti a Goldilocks cock!

A Goldicock, if you please.

with extra sweet porridge.

I’d sit on it

Are we allowed to proselytise about nasty and painful sex acts now?

You’re doing it wrong.

And if you think his cock is too small, try it up your arse and see how small it feels then.

Why do ppl post this private shit on the internet!
Some rag like the sun is gonna snap this up! Your partner deserves better then to be spoken about like this.

a Goldilocks cock!

LipSyncForYourLife

Why do ppl post this private shit on the internet!
Some rag like the sun is gonna snap this up! Your partner deserves better then to be spoken about like this.

Yep, because he's the only one in the UK with a tiny todger, so will automatically know it's about him

OP is allowed to talk about aspects her sex life on an internet forum.

OP is allowed to talk about aspects her sex life on an internet forum.

It's not just her sex life though is it? There's another person involved who might well recognise themselves from what the op said.

But she is unhappy with an aspect of her relationship. Do you think she should put up and shut up?

What do you suggest she does?

It's not just her sex life though is it?

Nope, sex lives usually involve more than one person.