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To think you don't have to share a piece of cake

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WaxMeltHoarder · 08/10/2019 09:24

We went to visit PILs over the weekend. On the way, we stopped at a nearby town which has a regular-and very good-artisan market. We bought a heap of food to take to PILs for a nice lunch, and DD, age 12, bought herself a piece of cake from one of the stalls. This cake has apparently been all the rage amongst local children, it has been all over local social media. It's basically a rose gold themed cake piled high with sweets and icing. £3 for a small slice but DD bought it with her own money.

We went to PILs, had lunch, DD then ate her cake. All good.

Later, as we were leaving, MIL said "thank you for bringing lunch, it was lovely" FIL then said "yes and maybe next time DD will have learned to share her cake, instead of stuffing it all herself"

I laughed it off and said "oh well, good luck getting a twelve year old girl to share anything with sugar in it" and FIL got really ratty, saying "well I'm afraid she should be made to share, I couldn't believe it when I saw her sitting there, eating that cake without offering it around"

DH at this point said "Eh, it was one slice, and she bought it herself" FIL huffed a bit and we left.

AIBU to think this is bonkers? A box of chocolates yes, but surely nobody expects to share one slice of cake? If everyone had had some, there would have been none for DD!

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PablosHoney · 10/10/2019 16:27

I thought this was about cake??

BreastedBoobilyToTheStairs · 10/10/2019 16:32

It's cake-gate.

Was it lemon drizzle cake beneath the rose gold icing and haribo? Grin

notso · 10/10/2019 16:40

Even in the scenario you've just described, I don't know if I'd find it a major social faux pas. Just a bit quirky.
Would you do it though?
I wouldn't do it myself,
Why not?

@FeckOffGraham
Back to my original question not adding on your new instagram fuelled dessert laden situation. Based on your original answer of I wouldn't do it myself
Why wouldn't you do it?

PablosHoney · 10/10/2019 16:42

Without having to read 40 pages wtf does cake have to do with traveller children??

SchadenfreudePersonified · 10/10/2019 16:46

I would have said, "you buy your own piece if you don't want to share, but I am buying for grandparents bc it looks great and they may want some."

Because there is nothing pensioners want more than plate full of Haribo.

notso · 10/10/2019 16:47

@PablosHoney something along the lines of some posters saying 12 year olds are not to be expected to have the same manners as an adult I think one poster referred to 12 as a baby. Pinkyyy pointed out she knew a 12 year old traveller child who works full time.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 10/10/2019 16:47

Without having to read 40 pages wtf does cake have to do with traveller children?? I think you have to explore the twists of a 12 year old working 5 days a week, havin scrupulpusly impeccable manners and some other non mainstream living differences... and the somewhat determined efforts of a poster to be offended when pps point out that most people do things differently!

SchadenfreudePersonified · 10/10/2019 16:51

Without having to read 40 pages wtf does cake have to do with traveller children??

To get the full benefit of this thread you really do need to read all 40 pages Pablo.

It is life in a microcosm - love, hate, greed, denial, family values, misogyny, patriarchy, cultural mores, Haribo and duck shortbread.

I can't wait for the series on Netflix!

notso · 10/10/2019 16:52

Because there is nothing pensioners want more than plate full of Haribo.
Obviously the one in the OP did want a plate full of Haribo though, hence his rude comments about not being given any!!
Also my in laws and parents are not pensioners yet.

RightYesButNo · 10/10/2019 16:57

Is this the new penis beaker?
I was there for cake-gate, when FIL ate the duck shortbread, and 800 comments later, it involved traveller children?
Have set my calendar for the Netflix premiere, @SchadenfreudePersonified.

BackOnceAgainWithABurnerEmail · 10/10/2019 17:03

my duckie head Sad please tell me the little lad got a new one!

CampingItUp · 10/10/2019 17:06

I have been popping in to RTFT , but may have missed the most important evidence :

HAVE WE BEEN OFFERED A LINK TO THE CAKE ON INSTA etc?

I have built up quite a fantasy about this cake, and need to be brought down to earth, or else see my dream cake come true.

FeckOffGraham · 10/10/2019 17:08

@notso

I've revised that answer and, in some circumstances, I absolutely would do it.

It's not automatically rude to eat food in front of other people, imo. You disagree and that's absolutely fine with me. We don't have to agree.

You can attempt to manipulate or harass me all you like. I don't agree with you and you can neither force me to, nor trick or manipulate me into doing so, which is what you seem to be trying to do for some strange reason Confused.

So if it's all the same to you, I won't engage with you on here again.

I've answered your many questions as much as I care to and I really don't feel like wasting any more of my day on you.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 10/10/2019 17:10

There was a cake picture Camping - not THE cake (obviously it wishes to remain incognito - doesn't want to get mobbed in the streets etc, and is probably terrified of OP's FIL), but a similar cake, with less Haribo and more lollies.

It gave me diabetes just looking at it.

cheesydoesit · 10/10/2019 17:15

Only up to page 9 of a 40 page thread but YANBU. Even without the extra desserts for all, no one would have batted an eyelid at any of our family gatherings had this happened. Except for maybe saying 'ooh that looks nice', it wouldn't occur for anyone to be bothered.

CormacMcLaggen · 10/10/2019 17:22

It is life in a microcosm - love, hate, greed, denial, family values, misogyny, patriarchy, cultural mores, Haribo and duck shortbread. I can't wait for the series on Netflix!

It's these comments that make me love MN. So very, very much.

notso · 10/10/2019 17:26

Aww no need to be that way @FeckOffGraham
Apologies, I thought I was giving as good as I got, with your previous head patting post I didn't realise you weren't taking the comments so seriously. Sorry if you think I've been unfair or singled you out. It wasn't my intention, sorry for wasting your time and thanks for wasting mine Smile

CampingItUp · 10/10/2019 17:27

“In that case the conversation should go “Would anyone like a bit of my cake?” “No thank you, darling, you eat it””

Yes, I’m a normal family.

But not THIS family, because HEADLESS DUCK!

The girl remembered HEADLESS DUCK 😱

FeckOffGraham · 10/10/2019 17:29

No worries @notes! I accept your apology, but my JOKE (capitalised), was actually at bertand's expense, not yours. You clearly misunderstood, which explains why you went so tenaciously on the offensive.

Bye then Smile.

CormacMcLaggen · 10/10/2019 17:30

Next installment:

When Duckie Lost His Head

notso · 10/10/2019 17:32

Farewell @FeckOffGraham
Take some Cake, you know I'm more than happy to share it Grin

FeckOffGraham · 10/10/2019 17:38

You know I don't like SHARED Cake🤢. You have it.

coconutpie · 10/10/2019 17:42

Aaaaand thread is full. YANBU at all OP.

Ninkaninus · 10/10/2019 17:44

Yes!! Reason had the last word!

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