AIBU to kick his arse out first thing!

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New account as I couldn’t figure out how to name change!
Not been married that long, had to log in to my not so DH’s email (not snooping I know the password and was checking an email about insurance which he knew I was doing at some point over this weekend) there was an email with the kind of title you don’t ignore, find out that he joined a hook up site a few days ago.
I’m strangely calm, there is no going back from this, it’s not something I imagined he would do but I suppose we never know anyone do we, our marriage is over. He doesn’t know I know at this point, he was asleep and I wanted to plan my next move, not wake him up and have a terrible argument in the middle of the night.
My AIBU is ....
Would throwing him out as soon as the kids have gone to school with a bag of clothes and nothing else be unreasonable?
What’s the etiquette for finding out a wanker has joined a hook up site (of course I logged in to it straight from his email), he has received messages but not sent any. Are you supposed to reasonably discuss the situation and let them have time to find somewhere else to live? Or am I being completely reasonable by at least giving him the opportunity to pack a bag?

I'd consult a solicitor first. Are you sure he isn't going to walk away with half of your assets? You need to know the legal risk first.

Oh Op you poor thing. I have to ask though- is he seriously just going to leave as soon as You day so with a bag of clothes? I can’t imagine doing that if my husband tried to kick me out. I’d stay until I had a place to go

Good luck op, well done for being so calm, it will help with the conversation

She can't legally force him out. He may go. He may not.....

It is so refreshing to see a woman on here immediatly stick up for herself and decide she is not putting up with such disrespect and betrayal. Usually posts like this are followed by weeks of messages saying they don't know what to do.
My advice is always the same, but there's no need to give it here because you're already doing It!

Well done! You sound like a strong, independent woman so as horrible as this all is, you will come out of it with dignity intact and carry on.

@Geronimo8
It sounds like it's her house so she probably can.

@Lulualla only if she's protected it in a trust. They're married. It's his home. You can't just toss someone out because they're an arsehole.

My husband was found on Tinder by work collegue many years ago. Turns out he was showing his mate how to create a profile on it and hadn't taken it down. There could be a logical explanation for it.

You sound great OP. Better off without that scumbag

My husband was found on Tinder by work collegue many years ago. Turns out he was showing his mate how to create a profile on it and hadn't taken it down.

Errrrr... Never mind, I won't say it....

Oh dear. Not a good day for you two then.

Sorry you're going through this OP - stay strong.

OP, huge well done for deciding to end it. So ,may woman are told to give their partners a second chance. Why? A friends DH has clearly been having an affair and her family have encouraged her to put it behind them and move on, no sorting it out or apologies, she is just expected to forget and be happy that since being found out he’s a better DH??

@FlipFlopChipShop hope you’re ok after the responses, but he really was on Tinder sorry, whatever he told you.

OP good on you! Fit flop wow......just wow some people will believe ANYTHING

HugTrees I think FlipFlop knows this, but it's easier for her to go along with the bullshit.

Good luck op. Sorry this is happening but glad you know your worth. You are doing the right thing as I can’t see any reasonable explanation for this

My husband was found on Tinder by work collegue many years ago. Turns out he was showing his mate how to create a profile on it and hadn't taken it down.

Of course he was.....
Love really is blind sometimes...

And OP - well done on staying so calm and I hope when you confront him he has the decency to be honest with you

Fucking hell @FlipFlopChipShop you can't possibly believe that?? I thought you were joking at first. That might be the lamest excuse I've ever heard.

Best wishes OP. How horrid.

Well done OP for maintaining your principled stance. I really admire yor decisive style.

@FlipFlopChipShop I don't wish to pile in on you, but I agree with others: your DH's explananation is not credible.

Admire you OP

Classy lady

OP, I'd be looking at annullment.

I was going to say that last year I got emails from plenty of fish saying I had signed up (I hadn't) it seemed like someone had use my email address but clearly from your update, he's actually been on the account and used it etc. Good luck this morning

Just putting it out there OP - teens in the house and a technophobe hubby.....Do they like him? Does it show the time of account creation so you can work back to the movements of your hubby and kids?

This......

Surely not sabotage by the teens? However if I was OP I'd be interested in the timeline as suggested above.