To hate people using my first name

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Is it unreasonable to expect strangers (shop assistants, clients etc) to use my title and surname instead of my first name unless I say otherwise? I just cannot stand the rudeness of being called my first name by a bank worker, just for example, without reason. We are not friends or colleagues, there is no need. It is presumptuous and rude. Is there ever a polite way of asking someone not to? I rarely dare say anything especially to clients and yet I really don’t like it. Do others think this is fine?

Do the posters here suggesting your question is unreasonable actually care about anything of value in society??!! Good post OP ... its familiar and its disrespectful ... and in the Britain so many seem to be harping back to.. we used to know this. Grrrrrr!

Of course they do. What an aggressive response! It's not considered disrepectful by many people on this thread. I would argue that talking down to people who see things differently to your is waaaaay more disrespectful that using first names in a culture in which this is largely appropriate now.

'Harping' back to...

@TwatCat Exactly!! I'm not Mrs Rostbif, that's my MIL!

Do the posters here suggesting your question is unreasonable actually care about anything of value in society??!!

Yes, I care about many things of value in society. I just do not think using someone’s title plus surname rather than first name is ‘of value’.

This thread made me smile.
I'm guessing all the people who prefer to be called Mrs X / Ms X have got surnames that are pronounceable.

My surname is ridiculous (thanks DH) and most people struggle to pronounce it. Often, it's starts with Mrs xxx, they manage the first few letters then just switch to my first name. And I don't blame them, nor get offended.

I've never had a patient tell me they prefer to be called by their title and surname, although it is what I normally start with, and then I'm asked to call them their first name, and that's of patients of all ages.

But you sound polite I like teaagain. The ones I object to are the "come on in Persephone, pleased to meet you btw I'm Mr Ponsonby-Cringe. I am afraid my response to that is always "I'm pleased to meet you Mr Ponsonby-Cringe, I'm Mrs Roses" response is usually "ooh er, call me Paul". One day I'll say no thanks, I'd prefer you to assume I'm your equal.

But how often does that actually happen, such that it seems to rile you so much?

I'm 45, and I cannot recall even one instance of someone introducing themselves to me - calling me by my first name, and using their [title] [surname].

How much is this really such an issue for people in day-to-day life....?

Happens every time I set foot in an nhs hospital and also with some of the drs at my gp practice. It is more marked with male drs and Asian women Drs.

In another generation, titles will have phased out, and so this reason to be so offended won't even happen.

Add in the inherent double-standard and misogyny in women's titles, and it really seems like they're more trouble than they're worth.

Our children knew each other's parents by their Christian name but were told that when in school they had to call them Mr, one child called her father that for months.