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To think I should pay 1/3?

744 replies

stickeritup · 01/10/2019 19:37

Travelling with my cousin and his wife to another cousin’s wedding in a different part of the country. They have one child, who’s also coming. I don’t have any.

We’re hiring a car because neither of us has a big enough one. The cost is £120. I assumed we’d pay £40 each for the three adults. Cousin has text saying ‘so that’s £60 each’, meaning £60 for me and £60 between him and his wife.

I don’t think this is right. AIBU? I know it’s only £20 but it happens all the time when some couples assume that they count as ‘one’.

OP posts:
jackstini · 07/10/2019 22:41

Yes Sticker so with the flight only 4 hours driving each way instead of 12, much less petrol & no hotel...

ThatLibraryMiss · 07/10/2019 23:09

So your cousin thinks he and his wife should only pay one share because they have only one bank account. Does that mean he'd think you should pay two shares if you had two accounts - say, a current one and a savings account? That makes as much sense (ie none).

FatimaLovesBread · 08/10/2019 12:56

But then @jackstini she'd have to hire a car at the Inverness end on top of flight costs

Original poster
stickeritup · 08/10/2019 15:22

Yes Sticker so with the flight only 4 hours driving each way instead of 12, much less petrol & no hotel... True, but, as Fatima says I'd have to hire a car on the other side. I actually want to stop off at the Lakes and Loch Lomond, I'm looking forward to having a drink and a nice meal looking over the views.

OP posts:
fedup21 · 10/10/2019 12:51

@stickeritup

Is it this weekend? Have you heard any more from your cousin?

lynzpynz · 10/10/2019 12:55

I'd say 1/3 too as the reason you're hiring a car is because neither of you has a big enough one - if it was 2 of you travelling you'd not need a bigger car and could take one of your existing cars. The reason you need a hire car is because wife and child coming too so need more room?

MrsBethel · 10/10/2019 13:05

You split it between the adults: 1/3, 1/3, 1/3.

What is this 'a couple only counts once' bullshit? Seriously???

morethanalurker · 10/10/2019 13:44

@j3mz off topic (sorry OP!) but where were you driving to Campbeltown from?

I know it very, very well. Feel free to PM me.

j3mz · 10/10/2019 14:14

@morethanalurker I think I've tagged you right! Not quite got to grips with the site yet and no idea how to pm.
We drove from the UK I thought the op was in the UK but I think she said she wasn't.

mikulkin · 10/10/2019 14:21

Your cousin is not on his own, so your statement that "If it was just me and my cousin, we wouldn’t need to rent one, one of ours would be big enough" is not relevant.
I would actually think that they have a 4 seater, so they can take that and go as a family and you weren't sure if that could be a solution for them.
So to summarize the one bank account argument is ridiculous but you wanting to pay 1/3 is odd too. I think you going in your car is the best solution.

morethanalurker · 10/10/2019 14:49

@j3mz I used to live there, don’t often see it mentioned! Smile

j3mz · 10/10/2019 15:48

@morethanalurker I'm not surprised lol it's a mission but nice little place, I couldn't live there though . I don't fancy the journey much either it was 4hours to Edinburgh then from there another 5hours ! Couldn't get the ferry because it wasn't running that time of the year. It's so small you probably know or know of the family I went with lol so I'm trying to be as vague as possible to conceal my identity haha . Do you miss it . Pm me if you want I should be able to find it if you do. Don't want to take over the op's post

blueheaven97 · 10/10/2019 16:12

I actually think you should only be paying a quarter. There are four people going, taking up four seats. You pay for your seat, which is a quarter. The family pays the other three quarters as they're using three seats. The child might be small but presumably still takes up a full seat. If I was in the family of three and we were taking another person with us, I'd only expect that person to pay a quarter of the cost.

MrsBethel · 10/10/2019 16:42

Suppose that on this journey you meet another relative at the motorway services. They have a spare a box of expensive, delicious, Belgian truffles and give it to you all to share.

Suppose there are 12 truffles.

Assuming the kid can't have them, do you share them:
A) 4 each
B) 6 for you, 3 for your cousin, 3 for your cousin's wife
???
It's pretty obvious, I think.

The only think I can think your cousin is thinking of is:
it was going to be two cars, now it's just one; the two drivers should split it. Fucking cheek, if you ask me. When I get on a bus, I expect to pay. Not once I have informed the driver: "DH just paid, and if he were driving I'd go as a free passenger, so I'm just going to go sit down over there without paying".

Oldbird69 · 10/10/2019 17:36

@mrsbethel, this is without doubt the best reply yet!

lynzpynz · 11/10/2019 21:19

Just occurred to me that they won't need the extra suitcase space in your car OP - due to the three of them apparently not staying in the cottage for 2 nights with you and therefore having much less luggage no...?

Katzia · 19/10/2019 02:34

So, OP, how did it all pan out? Did you get a nice break? Did he sulk at wedding? All ears.

mankyfourthtoe · 21/10/2019 13:01

How was the wedding and journey?

TigerJoy · 21/10/2019 13:33

Well done! I can't believe he stuck to it "we only have one bank account"!!!! The cheek! I also can't believe that they only buy one round between them...i have never seen that and wouldn't stand for it.

Let us know how the journey goes and whether they do stop off with you after all

I hope you have a great time!

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