To think I should pay 1/3?

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Travelling with my cousin and his wife to another cousin’s wedding in a different part of the country. They have one child, who’s also coming. I don’t have any.

We’re hiring a car because neither of us has a big enough one. The cost is £120. I assumed we’d pay £40 each for the three adults. Cousin has text saying ‘so that’s £60 each’, meaning £60 for me and £60 between him and his wife.

I don’t think this is right. AIBU? I know it’s only £20 but it happens all the time when some couples assume that they count as ‘one’.

(Although why can't four of you fit in one of your own cars?)

1/3 each

I agree with you, three way split between three adults.

If it were three non-related people, this is the way it would shake down.

If you were going by train or plane, your cousin and his wife would have had to buy two tickets. I absolutely think the cost should be split between 3.

If both you and your cousin have a car available, why aren't you just travelling separately? This seems like a lot of effort. If your cousin had a spare seat in his car (with with only 1 dc in the back, I'd assume he would do), I might offer to share the petrol costs and go together, but hiring a car (and still having to pay out for petrol), as between you theres too much luggage to just use one of your normal cars seems a bit overly complicated.

Can the booking be cancelled? If I was the cousin, theres a limit to how much I'd spend to accommodate you coming along too.

Thirds as 3 adults

Well you don't have to go if you don't like the payment arrangements. Find some other way of getting there that's cheaper, then you won't be beholden to anyone - or if you have a car, drive that on your own. Simples.

1/3 each obviously!

I think you should only pay a third too.

1/3 each and you’re letting the kid go free.

Just tell him that you'll make your own way there as it'll work out cheaper in petrol? Either that, or do as poster above said amd explain that it's £40 per adult.. Why should you be out of pocket because their car isn't adequately sized for the trip?

Although why can't four of you fit in one of your own cars?

Mine is a two seater, DC’s is a small 4 seater but with our luggage and baby’s things it’s not big enough. We’re going from the South West to the Highlands so we thought we’d share the driving & petrol costs.

Well you don't have to go if you don't like the payment arrangements.

Fuck me, really?! That sorts that out then.

For the sake of not falling out, I'd probably say that you'll share the cost of the car hire, but that the petrol needs to be shared 3 ways.

I would MUCH rather drive a nice 2 seater on my own to Scotland (or fly, or get train). A journey that length with a small child will be hell on earth.

I would pay 1/3 or take both your own cars. Adult, baby and luggage in one and 2 adults in the 2 seater. You’re hiring it out because their transport won’t fit them in so I don’t see why you should then have to pay more

50/50 here too. Even if they have got two incomes coming in, with a little one their outgoings will be twice as much as you! It’s £20, i’d just suck it up

1/3 is fair

Could him, his wife and child fit in their car without you?

Another one saying a third too. Definitely say it or they'll be counting themselves as one for rounds too, couples like that piss me right off! "Haha nope it's £40 each, otherwise three of you are travelling for the cost of one of me, you guys might be a couple but you aren't one person"

Don't split it. Take your own car and let them make their ow way there.

Why don't you just go in your car? Let them sort themselves out...

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Three ways. Why should you subsidise them?

I've had the opposite when sharing accommodation with the IL's, they've split it by head, children counted same as adults, despite my kids all sharing one room and other adults getting single rooms. Really winds me up.

I think you should pay a 1/3 aswell, cost should be split between the 3 adults .