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Original poster

To think I should pay 1/3?

744 replies

stickeritup · 01/10/2019 19:37

Travelling with my cousin and his wife to another cousin’s wedding in a different part of the country. They have one child, who’s also coming. I don’t have any.

We’re hiring a car because neither of us has a big enough one. The cost is £120. I assumed we’d pay £40 each for the three adults. Cousin has text saying ‘so that’s £60 each’, meaning £60 for me and £60 between him and his wife.

I don’t think this is right. AIBU? I know it’s only £20 but it happens all the time when some couples assume that they count as ‘one’.

OP posts:
leghairdontcare · 01/10/2019 19:40

Text back saying it's £30 each but as their little one doesn't take up much space you're happy to split it between the adults so £40 each.

Hopefully that'll make him realise what an idiot he's being.

modgepodge · 01/10/2019 19:40

When we had this exact situation - my brother, husband and I hired a car to get from airport to wedding - I’m sure I only asked my brother for a third of the cost.

sleepyhead · 01/10/2019 19:42

Mmm. Normally I'd agree with you - if you'd been splitting a food bill they'd I've had twice as much as you so should pay 2/3rds, if you'd been renting a cottage and they'd been taking 2 rooms and you one then also 2/3rds, but you're splitting a car - you're both getting equal benefit from it so 50/50 works imo.

SouthWestmom · 01/10/2019 19:43

Yeah I think 50:50 - different if they had to get a seven seater or something.

Original poster
stickeritup · 01/10/2019 19:44

you're both getting equal benefit from it so 50/50 works imo.

My cousin and I? We’re not getting equal benefit - he’d be getting the benefit of his wife and daughter getting subsidised travel.

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breakfastpizza · 01/10/2019 19:45

Should have done a poll!

50/50. If you all were going solo you'd be in two different cars, not three.

Original poster
stickeritup · 01/10/2019 19:46

Yeah I think 50:50 - different if they had to get a seven seater or something.

But if it was just me & my cousin, we wouldn’t have to hire a car at all, we’d have room in one of ours.

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bobstersmum · 01/10/2019 19:47

50 50 I think.

notanotherfucker · 01/10/2019 19:48

Can you just say you will make your own way there?

negomi90 · 01/10/2019 19:49

But you and your cousin need to go to a wedding. You rent a car together and split the cost 50:50. There are extra seats and so he puts his family in them, you don't want use of the seats, but he gains. The cost to you doesn't go up, the seats would be empty otherwise.

The exception to this is if you've gone for a bigger car to fit his family, in which case he pays more.

Original poster
stickeritup · 01/10/2019 19:49

Should have done a poll!

I should have! If we travelled separately, they’d still need to hire a car to have enough room for their luggage, theirs isn’t big enough.

It just grates on me that he and his wife would be contributing £30 each, and I’d be contributing £60, especially when they have two incomes into their household, and I have one.

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 01/10/2019 19:50

Yeh I’d say 50:50

VioletCharlotte · 01/10/2019 19:50

Why not just take two cars? Does the cost of 2x petrol work out at more than 1x petrol and car hire. If I was you, I'd much rather travel alone than in a car with three other people, especially when one is a small child!

BooFuckingHoo2 · 01/10/2019 19:51

Who is going to be driving? If one of them is driving then I think 50/50 is fairer.

Original poster
stickeritup · 01/10/2019 19:51

You rent a car together and split the cost 50:50.

If it was just me and my cousin, we wouldn’t need to rent one, one of ours would be big enough.

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StCharlotte · 01/10/2019 19:51

If you pay 50:50 (and I absolutely don't think you should), make sure you're in the front Grin

leghairdontcare's response is spot in.

WhoKnewBeefStew · 01/10/2019 19:52

So you have a car that you could use yourself? If you don't have a car and would have to hire then I'd split 50:50, if you're doing it so share costs etc I'd tell them you're taking your own car as it's not worth hiring

wowfudge · 01/10/2019 19:52

I agree with you OP.

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 01/10/2019 19:52

We've done similar in the past and always done 50:50

StCharlotte · 01/10/2019 19:52

*spot on not in 🙄

Grobagsforever · 01/10/2019 19:52

Three adults, so 1/3 each, as each adult benefits

Chloemol · 01/10/2019 19:53

I would just take your own car and leave him to pay the lot. I would also push the pat a third, after all it’s because his family is larger that you are having to hire anyway

Wonderland18 · 01/10/2019 19:53

I think he’s probably not even thought past it’s getting used for two sets of people.
Message him back and just say can we third it as there will be 3 adults travelling?

He sees himself his wife and his daughter as one unit and yourself as one. Probably total oversight and not deliberate CF

SinglePringle · 01/10/2019 19:53

I would pay a third each

Kerberos · 01/10/2019 19:54

Must be cheaper to just take your own car?