AIBU to be annoyed with my partner over his mum's will

[Cherrypea]

My partner and I have been together 10 years and have 3 kids (my daughter, his son and a DD between us) When his dad died a few years ago his mum made a new will naming my partner and his sister as benefactories. I have asked him what would happen to his share of the money if he died before his mum and his answer is it'll probably go to the younger 2 children as we aren't married but if his sister died her share would go to her husband. This makes me so mad, he seems happy for myself and my older daughter to receive nothing and he won't ask his mum about it. My view is she could easily name me and my DD should be treated as her siblings are (although that's another saga) he should respect me enough to ask her about it.....

Even if you were married you'd get no automatic entitlement to it anyway.

If he predeceases his mother then, unless she makes a specific clause about what happens in that case, his share would go to his biological children.

You're unbelievable.

wow how grabby are you. maybe his mother caught on to you. you and your dd arent entitled to anything. are your parents leaving his son anything? or ate you for that matter?

Yes, even if you were married and your partner predeceased you (glad you've got all eventualities planned out...) there's no reason she should leave you anything more than a token amount, if at all.

What is it with crazy threads today, wonder how long until this one is pulled.

Why would it be any different if you were married? If your MIL has named your DH and his DSIS as beneficiaries, and your DH dies before his DM, then his DSIS will be the sole beneficiary unless your MIL re-writes her will after your DH's death. If she rewrites, then it's totally up to her who she leaves her money to and even if you were married she could choose to leave to just her blood line grandchildren and exclude you and your DD. It's really none of your business. I assume your DD could potentially inherit from her paternal GPs? Have they included your step son and new DD in their will?

Let’s hope she doesn’t marry him!!!

I think it's the fact he says it'd be different if we were married as if that makes a difference to who I am.

It does make a difference. You havent entered the agreement to legally share finances and allow the other person legal rights over your own money.

Get him insured. Then you are looked after if he dies.

Are you serious? I don’t have a clue what my dh parents have wrote in their will and it’s never crossed my mind to even ask him, I don’t even know if he knows. Your not married and that does make a big difference even if you don’t think it does. Even if he did die before them I wouldn’t expect to get his share just because I’m his wife, it would go it whoever this parents wish it to go to.

Jesus lord alive. I find it bad enough when people lay claim to their own parents money, but someone else's is another realm altogether.

He shouldn't speak to his mum because its her will and completely up to her how she distributes her own assets.

wow, just wow!!!
my husband was the sole beneficiary of his mother's will (albeit a tiny fraction of your partner's mother's will). Sadly, he died before her.
She re-wrote her will almost before he was buried (!!) and my children are now the beneficiaries.
As it should be.

Sorry yes, even if you are married if he dies before her she still doesnt have to leave it to you.

I stand to inherit a lot from my parents it will be a 50 50 share with my sister . I already know that if anything happens to me that my husband will not inherit but my share will go to my children . It’s isnt my parents responsibility to provide for my husband in their will . It’s their money to decide with . Your being unreasonable I’m afraid .

You wanted your boyfriend’s dad to set up a trust fund for your daughter with a different man, not related to him, before he died?
This has GOT to be a joke.

Most wills will have a specific clause to deal with predeceased beneficiaries. Depends what mum wanted.

I already know that if anything happens to me that my husband will not inherit but my share will go to my children
Isnt this what most people do.

I own my house, if I die so can live here but the house is being left to my children. Its not being left to my children AND his son. Or to my dps who could leave it all to his son.

If there are just the 2 named beneficiaries in her will, & one of them dies before she does, the other beneficiary gets the lot.

I received a small amount from my aunts estate which would have been my dads. My mum was upset she didn't get it as she was dads nok. The lawyer was quite clear that since my dad had died his bequest came to his children. She can change her will anytime

Oh my days OP!!! My previous post said that I thought you were grabby... now I KNOW you are being grabby!!!

I would expect your partner's share of his mother's money to be passed down to her biological grandchildren in these circumstances. Not you, not your oldest DD. Neither of you are even related to her. YABU. What a thing to think about.

Oh dear
Bit grabby as you do not have a say in his Mother's will
Good God!

Bet you thought you were on to a winner there didn't you OP?
Think your partner's mum has got you sussed.

Hopefully his mum has a happy, healthy and long life.

My Mum's favourite phrase
"Where there's a will there's a relative waiting in the wings"

Op what you're expecting isn't normal (as in, common)or reasonable.

If your partner dies before your mil, no money was ever his to pass to anyone. You don't seem to understand how inheritance normally works, and your confusion is mixed up in the marriage angle...

Fact is that if you want financial security, you should look to yourself and partner to provide it.. for the love of God don't ask mil, unless you have an unusually close relationship this would never be appropriate to raise with her! What that financial security looks like is up to you (e.g. you both make wills, and/or get married, insurance policies etc etc).