To ask this man to stop sitting on my garden wall?

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I genuinely don't know whether I am being unreasonable or not. Nearly every day a man has taken to sitting directly on my garden wall whilst he seemingly waits for someone to pick him up.

He did it this morning again, I banged on the window, but he didn't even flinch! Only got up when I was taking my son outside to put him in his taxi with escort to school.

Should I tell him off next time he does it? Or just leave him be? I feel really weird about it (but I do have anxiety disorder so it might just be me)

Could you get some of those old fashioned pointed bricks for the top of your wall so that there wouldn't be a flat surface to sit on?

We had the exact same issue but with our lady neighbour from 2 doors down sitting on our garden wall and smoking. The smoke seems under the front door as it's an old house so the hall and lounge stank of smoke. One day, quite fortuitously but quite by accident, our smoke alarm went off just as she was placing her cheeks on the wall; she jumped a mile and has never sat there again. We also planted a hedge to try to grow over the wall to stop other people doing the same. Highly irritating.

"seeps under the door".

Mumsnet is full of people with the aspirational imaginations of landowning gentry on a private road, but with the budgets of a mid-terrace on a public street

So only the upper classes are allowed to care about damage to their property? What a bizarre viewpoint.

@cantstopstressing . . That woman is taking the piss .

I smoke but not on others walls . In your case you are so NBU.

Thanks WhentheRabbits. I actually never got up the courage to say something to her so glad the situation resolved itself! I just used to walk out the house and give her a nod as I walked by!

Put itching powder on the wall stand back and get ready for a fit of the giggles lol.

Can you put something on top of your wall like an iron feature

What about a fence on top of the wall like this?

Fuck me MN is insane sometimes.

Mumsnet is full of people with the aspirational imaginations of landowning gentry on a private road, but with the budgets of a mid-terrace on a public street

Totally agree - it’s all very Hyacinth Bucket, isn’t it ?

Meh, what harm is he actually doing?

Any wall that cannot withstand the occasional application of one arse, is a shit wall.

I think I'd make a point of saying hello if you're outside with your dc or putting the rubbish out or whatever. Either you'll get to the point of having a friendly chat whenever your paths cross, which will surely be nice? Or he might think you're a strange woman trying to chat while he sits minding his own business, and will then move to a different wall. Either way it's a win. Hopefully he won't turn out to be horrible :)

I don't think it would bother me. He's not doing any harm. What does bother me however is when people smoke while sitting on the wall and it ends up in my living room. Or drunk people sitting on it at night talking loud or shouting( I live opposite a hotel that has loads of stag and hen parties, and pubs). I ask them to move.

We have this quite often with workmen as we live next door to a business. It did bother me a little bit a few years ago when I was at home all the time on mat leave (mainly because I didn't want them looking in and seeing me lounging around in my pants ).

Now I've put up some frosted film on the lower half of my sash windows and I can't see them and they can't see me, problem solved.

Maybe the man has some kind of ailment, like back or hip problems,and needs a sit down sometimes, put a cushion out for him !!

I had a woman stroll up my drive engrossed in her phone conversation, she was sitting on my living room windowsill when I knocked on the window. She dismissed me with a flappy hand & went back to her conversation. I was .

Gosh, I do this and I am a middle aged woman. It never occurred to me anyone would be bothered by it. I live and work in London and visit clients' homes. When I am on my way there (public transport and walking), I am sometimes a little early. So I often stop at a convenient garden wall and sit for 5 minutes so that I arrive at the right time. I am not in anyone's garden but on the pavement. I just rest for a few minutes and then move on. I don't damage anything and my back is to the house so I am not looking in. Why would this bother someone?

I regularly have people looking in my window at my cats so my tolerance for things like that is high!
i always stop to look at people cats. I wave at them. Sometimes they wave back.

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I wouldn’t notice because our wall isn’t right outside and I don’t sit at the front of the house but if he was smoking and dropped cigarette butts etc, or stood there having a loud chat, that would annoy me.

My friend had a group of women who come along daily and just sit and have a little meet up on the wall outside. Not old, just started having a chat on the corner after drop off and it moved to having a chat next to the wall because people needed to get past and now it’s regularly sitting on the wall till at least 10.30 virtually shouting at each other. Friend flipped and started swearing. They sit on the next doors wall now instead

What about children walking along the top of the wall?

There is a man round the corner that bangs on his window whenever a child walks along his wall.

YABVU. I'm glad I don't live near you.

I have a bench in my front garden and sometimes the old dears sit on it when it’s sunny. I don’t mind at all.

Imagine having so few things to worry about that THIS would bother you.

Must be nice.

I can see that this might annoy the part of me that is a bit territorial, this is mine!
But I would probably have a word with myself if I found myself getting seriously bothered by it. If he’s only there for a short while each day, then I don’t see what harm he’s doing.