To ask this man to stop sitting on my garden wall?

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I genuinely don't know whether I am being unreasonable or not. Nearly every day a man has taken to sitting directly on my garden wall whilst he seemingly waits for someone to pick him up.

He did it this morning again, I banged on the window, but he didn't even flinch! Only got up when I was taking my son outside to put him in his taxi with escort to school.

Should I tell him off next time he does it? Or just leave him be? I feel really weird about it (but I do have anxiety disorder so it might just be me)

Anxiety orders haver many triggers, just because this situation isn't a trigger for some doesn't mean it isn't for you OP. I feel sorry for you that people seem to have missed this point making you feel YABU. My anxiety would be through the roof with this, my home is my safe place. Someone sat on my wall would make me feel extremely uneasy!!!

I can't be bothered to get into arguments about small things like this. I'd either ignore it or put some mind of a barrier on the wall.

I often do, we have a low wall compared with other neighbours. I always open the door to say the wall isn't very secure please don't sit on it. It is annoying my adult neighbour use to plonk his drunk arse down.
Now the kids don't try to jump it.
I'd get railings only the wall would fall. Disclaimer it is not my property landlord is aware of the loose brick.
Stick a sign up if you don't want to confront him.

Honey! Genius idea. (But golden syrup is cheaper!!)

I think this is just one of those things that either irritates you or it doesn't. Nobody is unreasonable to be annoyed by it. Nobody is unreasonable not to be annoyed by it, either.

Ultimately, the wall is your property and you are within your rights to ask him not to sit on it, if it bothers you. But you will have to have to that conversation with him - banging on the window and hiding is just a bit weird.

What has this world come to, where a person can't sit on someone's wall for a few minutes (provided they are not littering it causing a nuisance of themselves)? Seriously? Where is people's kindness gone? Just because you own the wall and just because you can. How sad.

Gosh.

People are so unkind these days.

You must be very bored to stand there for 5 to 10 minutes each day watching the same person waiting for a lift

Is this even an issue?

the legal position is that it's someone else's property and their boundary wall. Not a fucking seat.

Which is no use to anyone unless it's realistically enforceable. It's not a criminal offence, so to stop this OP would have to get an injunction, and would then still have to police it by applying for the man to be punished for contempt of court if he breached the injunction. It simply isn't worth it.

I must say, it really wouldn't bother me if someone was sitting on my wall all day, unless it was breaching my privacy in any way - and even then, I'd probably invest in blinds or net curtains.

Oh come on, the op asked our opinions and she did say she was had an anxiety disorder. Anxious does not equal horrible.! She's taken on board what we've all said and no doubt will leave it alone now.

School children used to sit on my parents’ wall until my dad smeared it with treacle. Funnily enough they never did it again.

Put a stop to it now - today's hes sitting on your wall next he'll be sitting on your door step, eventually he will be sitting at the end of your bed, absolute chaos

YABU

Perhaps you need a Hobby OP

@PaulfromtheWall . Hahaa

If I ever use a new username it would be that .

My grandparents had this - they had a bus stop outside their house and everyone sat on their wall to wait for the bus.

They started to get fed up when it progressed to teenagers walking on it, (falling off into their flowerbeds) and people dropping rubbish in their garden.

So they planted a spiky bush to grow over the wall!

It makes zero difference to your life.

This happens to me - my wall is a metre from my sitting room window and the coping stones on the top of the wall are now loose from being constantly sat on.

I couldn’t care less whether anyone else thinks I’m mean. I go out and ask people politely not to sit on my wall because it’s my property and it’s being damaged.

What about a fence on top of the wall like this?

I think this is very unkind and petty. Unless he is causing damage then YABU.

What harms is he doing, he could stand there and not mean against the wall.

Yabu.

Mumsnet is full of people with the aspirational imaginations of landowning gentry on a private road, but with the budgets of a mid-terrace on a public street

YABU...

This wouldn't bother me at all.

It wouldn't bother me, I'd probably go and talk to him.
Awful world we live in when someone can't even sit on a wall.

Our house is right in the middle of the road ( numbering wise, not actually an obstruction to traffic !) and for some reason we often get people sitting on the wall, or leaning against it waiting to be picked up. It’s not far from the front window, typical London Victorian bayfront and it only annoys me if there is a top volume phone conversation going on or if, in the summer with the windows open, someone’s is smoking and it drifts into the house.

Even with that, I can’t imagine being so ridiculous as to knock on the window to tell them to move. What a bunch of meanies are revealed here today - can’t bear to let a fellow human being have a rest.

Bloody hell. I car share with someone and when it's my car-share partner's turn to give me a lift, I wait for them on a corner. Because I have arthritis in my hip, I kind of lean/perch on someone's garden wall for between 1 - 5 minutes 5 times a fortnight because I'm more comfortable like that. I had no idea this was so very offensive.
FFS what is wrong with people? When did they become so petty?