To ask this man to stop sitting on my garden wall?

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I genuinely don't know whether I am being unreasonable or not. Nearly every day a man has taken to sitting directly on my garden wall whilst he seemingly waits for someone to pick him up.

He did it this morning again, I banged on the window, but he didn't even flinch! Only got up when I was taking my son outside to put him in his taxi with escort to school.

Should I tell him off next time he does it? Or just leave him be? I feel really weird about it (but I do have anxiety disorder so it might just be me)

I would find this very annoying though I'm hard put to say why.

It would just really, really get on my wick. I would have to say something.

I don’t see the problem either, what harm is he doing? Banging the window is a bit ott I think

I think some of us get a bit possessive about our personal space. My front windows are about 6 feet away from the pavement and also behind a wall, if passersby stop for a chat there it sets off my elder dog and she tells them off when she hears them until I call her away. I don't think people realise we can hear their conversations quite clearly, not that we're interested (our favourite rooms are at the back where it is quiet) but more nosy people perhaps would relish it!

To the man who sits on my wall
Here is a cuppa and a biscuit for you while you wait for your lift! Feel free to lean, if you really must, but please don't sit on my wall - can't explain why, but it makes me feel uneasy

1000% do NOT do this, what a weird suggestion!

@ShirleyPhallus.

So very odd, I agree!

Just pour water on the wall before he comes.

Put a stop to it now - today's hes sitting on your wall next he'll be sitting on your door step, eventually he will be sitting at the end of your bed, absolute chaos

2 things strike me about this thread:

1/ There's a lot more inferior quality walls built than I expected

2/ Some of you really hate other people

YANBU, I wouldn't like it either.

Had two people, nothing to do with our house, sat on the ground between the front garden gate. I gave them a hard stare but they didn't move, Luckily by the time I came back with the bucket of water I was going to 'clean the flagstones', they had moved.

Wouldn't bother me in the least.

Had two people, nothing to do with our house, sat on the ground between the front garden gate

Christ I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Was the ground ok?!

YABU

eventually he will be sitting at the end of your bed, absolute chaos

Then before you know it you’ll be setting an extra Christmas dinner place setting for Paul from the Wall.

do children walk on your wall?
children like to walk on walls

Paul from the Wall

@MotherOfDragonite Tue 01-Oct-19 11:52:07
If you don't want people sitting on your garden wall, do something to make it the kind you can't sit on.

She shouldn't have to. People should have more respect for other people's property. We weren't allowed to sit on people's walls, growing up. This attitude is just another nail in the coffin of the erosion of decent standards imo.

This wouldn't bother me at all. If my wall provided somewhere to rest I would be happy for anyone to sit on it.

He’s not actually hurting anyone or doing any damage is he? So I don’t see the issue.

I’m sorry but I don’t think it would bother me, maybe if it was an old crumbly wall I’d say something (for his safety) but if it’s in good condition then I don’t think I’d mind. I know some will say he will wear it out but it would have to be a lot of people sitting on it for long periods to affect it.

Take Paul a cushion out- you don’t want him getting piles and wriggling on your wall.

It would upset me. It’s about encroaching on your personal space and feeling safe. I am disabled. I need to feel safe.

People should have more respect for other people's property. We weren't allowed to sit on people's walls, growing up. This attitude is just another nail in the coffin of the erosion of decent standards

I can't decide if this is a genuine comment or a bit of sarcasm! If a wall is fragile enough to get worn out by a person sitting on it then the wall owner needs to get it sorted sharpish!
I'm bemused at the indignation some people feel when a stranger sits on a wall at the boundary of their property. Do these same people curse at the postie when they are delivering the post? At the window cleaner when they lean their ladder up against the house?
It's a bleedin wall FFS!

Lordy.

I have had diagnosed anxiety, and it would never have occurred to me mind a person using my garden wall to sit and wait. I’d prolly go out and have a chat.

I will always remember the day before my baby had to be induced (two weeks late). I was madly waddling around my neighbourhood block, trying to motivate the baby exit. I was forced to take frequent breaks on people’s garden walls. You’d not believe the amount of anxious fervent curtain-twitching that I caused. It could hardly have escaped their notice why I’d paused for breath on their wall- I was enormously pregnant. And 40 years old. Not one person came out to check on me, or for a chat, or with a glass of water. Just Twitch...Twitch...Twitch.

Don’t be that person. Be nicer than that.

Put a little sticker saying HELLO SITTY BUM on the bit he normally sits on.

That will weird him off!

I'm ridiculously unsociable and have (psychiatrist diagnosed) GAD and, unless someone was sat the other way on the wall, looking into my house, this wouldn't bother me at all.