Dp says we're sexually incompatible because I can't climax from penetrative sex

[JustWonderful]

He has implied if we split he 'd meet a woman who does.

I think that's delusional - because most women (who don't fake) can 't climax from penetrating sex. I read 75% or higher of the female population.

Aibu?

Watching Top Boy yesterday, older brother giving advice on girlfriend to younger brother:
"Always make sure your woman is satisfied before you are. Every single time."

Another here who can orgasm frequently from penetrative sex. Agree with those saying that it’s a Totally different orgasm to clitoral. And also for me it’s only ever been with my DH , who has a really big cock. We regularly come simultaneously infact when we’re shagging, at least 50% of the time . He says that i’m The only woman that that’s happened with for him. So I assume we’re just incredibly lucky to have found each other and are each other’s perfect fit.

I’m aware that this might sound a bit smug, but as this is anonymous I may as well share.

Show him this thread!

Good grief! Well, personally I’ve found sex is preferable with a nice, emotionally intelligent and respectful man who treats the sex as part of the relationship. Your chap sounds as though he needs to look to himself and his attitudes, OP.

He has his ego hurt and is being defensive? Seems like something you can easily talk about and solve. Really no need for all this drama.

OP I think you've been very unlucky with your sex partners! I've never had a bf who wouldn't have shown interest in my pleasure. I always thought it was pretty normal to dry hump to climax when young and horny, go down on each other, have sex in unusual places (house parties, toilet cubicles, beach.. No?) Teasing each other in public by trying to turn the other one on? Have I just been lucky or don't all young horny people in love not do this? Admittedly it's not this exciting for me anymore because of being a parent and older. Hence the hot scenarios in my head. Still finding new ways if having a good time though.

He sounds like a lazy lover to me. Surely pleasing your partner is part of the enjoyment?! Why would he not want to put in a bit of effort? Instruct him on what to do. If he can’t be arsed then get yourself some decent sex toys. Or a new husband!! 😂

Well at least he's honest, but it seems like he's seen too many movies. In the interest of not hurting my partner, I dont think I could use the same language. That said there has to be a mutual sexual attraction to each other, as well as a caring attitude. Try discussing your desires and/or sexual fantasys together, explain to him the same way as you've posed the question in your post. You will need to assess whether the relationship is strong enough to continue.

I think some women (me)can climax from penetrative sex but only if revved up with lots of lovely foreplay. Some men just can't be bothered . Sounds like your partner is one of them OP.

He's away with the fairies and doesn't understand the clitoris

No women climax with penetrative sex.

Maybe his past girlfriends have been faking orgasm?

I always check out my lovers first in bed and if they aren't good at oral sex ... I don't invite them back

You're certainly not being unreasonable but your other half is. Say you will be happy to find a man that is not a lazy, selfish lover to satisfy you.

YOU are normal. HE has been watching too much porn.

Some women climax from penetrative sex including me but it seems a really weird and shallow reason for choosing a partner. I am surprised at the number of posters who say that women are "faking it" or that there has to be lots of foreplay. How do you know this! We aren't all the same.

No women climax with penetrative sex

For fuck’s sake.

That's pretty normal. He needs to stimulate you more while he's doing it. In fact it's him that is failing not you and he's being an ass.

No women climax with penetrative sex.

Quite a few have posted and said they do. I was surprised, I admit.

At first I wasn't sure if they meant grinding (and therefore clitoral) but since seem to be saying it's not clitoral. I have asked if it's in any particular position but binned answered.

Some have said it's only with one man but haven't specified if it's his technique or something about his dick shape or ??? A couple have mentioned he is large in that department ( which kinds scarily confirms male assumptions and inadequacies that I always thought were rubbish).

*but it seems a really weird and shallow reason for choosing a partner"

He's not, we've been together for years and he's known from pretty early on that I don't. He said that he didn't think the odds were bad if meeting another woman who dies climax from penetrative sex in response to me saying he'd be v unlikely to find a woman different from me i.e. who can't if we were to split.

Just thought to add
Is only recently anyone bothered to check out the internal structure of the clitoris
It is a huge thing inside that wraps around the vagina
A bit different in every woman
Explains why different women get orgasms from different things, depending on where itwraps. Stuff like g spot, why some women come from vaginal penetration, why some enjoy anal stimulation more than others

Research into women organs and sex has been rubbish with all focus on men. Surgeons could have been cutting through it inside when doing stuff and not even known it was there.

Anyway that may be of interest on this thread!

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@JustWonderful I will gladly answer that one for you For me, I know how to arch my back in doggy and I practically turn into a pretzel in missionary. All that plus a big penis equals humongous orgasms. I mean seeing stars and blocked ears type orgasms.

@EmmiJay
You sound like a yoga instructor 😁

Presume you must you lucky enough to climax from g spot/region stimulation cause that doesn't sound like clitoris (front/external/traditional clitoris) is involved.

For me, a vaginal orgasm is definitely different to a clitoral one - it's deeper and more intense, usually culminating in muscular contractions of the vagina (instant trigger for DH to come). It's a weird sensation when pregnant!

Hang on, hang on, hang on - aren't those contractions exactly what an orgasm is? What else are you counting as an orgasm if it only 'usually' includes the spasming feeling?

Pleasing your partner should always be the first priority. The lovemaking should be in phases. The first should be kissing from her ear lobes down her body to her knees and back up again. The next part should entail the man-eating his way in and then eating his way out. The third should mean the wife or girlfriend straddling his head and lowering herself onto his mouth and finally after she has dropped from the light fittings then penetrative sex. An hour of slow movements with tongue and lips should mean she will enjoy what's to come.

Without going into too much detail (ha!) Something 'happens' in those positions where I not only get a vaginal orgasm but a clitorial tingle (little one) too. Also I will say from certain positions you can actually stimulate the clit with no hands and just his penis, but he really needs to work on his technique to do it.

I don’t think it’ll help OP but here goes: if I change the angle of the penis so it’s pointing more towards my stomach it rubs what I guess is the G spot. It’s not that far inside so size of penis doesn’t matter. It will trigger an orgasm and I’ll usually ejaculate repeatedly and wail a bit. This will happen several times during sex.