to secretly have accumulated just over £50K of savings over the last few years?

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First time poster here, so please be gentle! so AIBU to secretly have accumulated just over £50K of savings over the last few years? No one knows, not my DH, no one!

CEO of your life?
Just recruit 8 people and all those people recruit 8 people and you move off the pyramid?
Drug dealing?
Money laundering?
Prostitution?
Professional beggar?
Straight out robbing banks?

Give us a clue OP...

Give them a chance. Only posted at 19.03

Hope you're buying dollars.

Also, is this not something you discuss in a healthy marriage? My and my husband both compare how much we've saved at the end of each month. If that was all a lie, then our marriage would be up shit creek.

Bitcoin innit

I would advice on how I could save an equal amount. Will it work for me considering it would actually take me nearly four years to earn that from my job as an LSA?

YANBU we need to take care of ourselves. Men are unreliable.
My friend did this she saved 70k over several years doing odd jobs like dog sitting.
Her husband is mean with money despite earning loads and she needs an escape/retirement fund.

I’d be really upset if my husband had syphoned off £50k that could have been used to benefit the family and he’d be upset if I’d done the same. We’d both see it as a massive betrayal so for me YABU.

^I agree. You can’t be trusted

Why secretly? Is there a problem in your marriage?

If your family are struggling for money and you're on the bones of your arse YABU.

If you're comfortably off and don't need that money to improve your lives right now then YANBU at all. I think it's always sensible to have something separate from your finances with your DH.

What she said @DramaAlpaca

Well done! Yanbu.

As long as your family aren't destitute, YANBU. It's your money, you can do what you want with it. Well done!

No YANBU because if and when your DP decides to be a twat believe me, he will give his DP zero consideration. I've seen the best of men happily destroy the mother of their children.

Well done for saving money! (Most people spend their money on shite 4x4s and ipads.) Lots of jealous people on this thread...

Wiltshirelass2019 quite a few generalisations in there..

Well done, I’m saving and I’m not sure for what. I’m at £5k since February and I’m pretty chuffed with that. I think it’s my fuck off fund to get away from it all but not sure yet, just keeping saving.

I was waiting when will someone come to defence with a jealousy dig...

GOOD ON YOU

Now, invest it.

I did this, told him because I wanted him to be proud of me

He took it off me

Just remember that on divorce both parties' assets are available to be divded and you have a legal duty to disclose everything to the other person. If he earns less than you do he may get the money. My husband got 100% of my life savings, shares, everything - mucn more than £50k - when we divorced and I had some house equity and a massive mortgage (over £1m) but no savings left at all.

good ol matched betting does it again??

I have a feeling the replies would be completely different if a bloke had posted this...

Why do you need to keep it secret from him? Perhaps think about why you've accumulated it in secret, and what you concerns about sharing it are and what's causing them. Also, what you plan to do with it.

I squirrel too as does dh to some extent

because if and when your DP decides to be a twat believe me, he will give his DP zero consideration.

Wow some people have a very low opinion of all men. Would you presume all women will be twats too because I've known a few who have upped and left their partners. You cannot generalise.

I would be interested to see peoples opinions if their partners had saved up so much money behind their backs. I presume you'd all be patting him on the back and congratulating him.