to secretly have accumulated just over £50K of savings over the last few years?

[LargeGnTPlease]

First time poster here, so please be gentle! so AIBU to secretly have accumulated just over £50K of savings over the last few years? No one knows, not my DH, no one!

Why are you keeping it secret?

Money laundering?

I’d be really upset if my husband had syphoned off £50k that could have been used to benefit the family and he’d be upset if I’d done the same. We’d both see it as a massive betrayal so for me YABU.

This ^
So yes, YABU

Waits for the massive drip feed.......

I’m assuming you and your DH are wealthy; to have accumulated that much savings without your DH noticing?

I mean, DP and I are quite comfortable and live a typical middle class lifestyle, but i’m only up to about £5K...

In case this is real...
Yabu.
If my husband did this, I would be sending him and his money on their merry way... Few thousand? Fine. Good safety net. 50k? Absolutely no.

Are you saving for something specific? Please tell us why you can't share with your dh. Do you know how much he has in savings? Neither dh or I know exactly how much the other has in savings but we do have ball park figures. We are probably less than 10 years from retiring so the saving has a point.

Sure you have.

And DH hasn’t through to mention where it’s vanished to?

Depends why you are keeping it secret

Thought to

Is there a reason you kept this a secret?

Also agree that if a MAN had squirrelled away £50K and hid it from his wife, he would be lambasted on here. And quite rightly so.

Why have you done this @LargeGnTPlease ???

Also, why did you join mumsnet, purely to tell a bunch of random people you don't know and have never communicated with, that you have (allegedly) stashed away a secret fund of £50,000?

I mean, what on earth is the point?

Are you trying to make people envious. Because no-one is.

No-one gives a shit. Honestly.. Literally no-one.

@NoHummus Kev I N? Burst out laughing when I read that there

I save £250/month that she knows about. Then use it on my share of holidays.
But £50K! Wow and how?

It will go any of the three ways

1. MASSIVE drip feed 2)MNHQ deletion message
2. Wanna know how I did it? I am a #bossbabe! You can have that savings too. PM me xxx

The op's husband might have saved a similar amount or more. As long as both pay their way in the relationship, what they save is up to them. Nice to have a nest egg.

The op's husband might have saved a similar amount or more.

That's unlikely, if they were saving equally then why would it need to be a secret?

I would be a bit betrayed if my husband had accumulated a secret stash of money without me knowing!

I've saved 30k in 4 years, but that's for a house deposit.

It’s a large amount of money, it’s one thing to have a ‘fuck off fund’ as others say - to start over if your marriage breaks down, especially if you don’t have your own income. But then someone who is able to ‘save’ 50k probably wouldn’t have any financial issues starting over!
It implies an inherent distrust of your DH.

AIBU?
Well, we won't know will we unless you tell us why YTUABU

OP's fecked orf!

Depends on your circumstances.

In the event of divorce could be hard to hide!

I need to know your secret!