To have hit her on the back of the leg with my hairbrush

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Dd10, is angling for a day off. I gave her the day off on Monday because she was surrounded by snot rags and was hoarse. Some would've dosed her up and sent her in, but I'm a softie. She knows this and is today clearly swinging the lead. After listening to her loudly complaining while I'm trying to dry my hair I stopped the hairdryer and said 'You're not having a day off'. She KICKED ME and started to flounce off. I (still holding round spiky brush) swiftly administered a hard rap to her calf region using my brush. Screaming ensued. I told her she'd asked for it and that's what happens when you kick people. She didn't kick hard, but I don't think that's the point.

It's not very right on and I know I'll get flamed, but WIBU?

So to teach her not to kick you, you hit her?! How does that make sense? That’s some really shitty and abusive parenting. Yabvvvvvu

D'ya know, I was agog at the title of your post but having read it......

I've never physically hurt my DCs and I'm very much for "gentle" parenting approaches, BUT mine are still preschoolers. Honestly, if anyone over the age of say 8, physically hurt me I think I'd retaliate. They know better at ten, it would be instinctual to hit back. I actually think it's a good lesson for her to learn. It was awful for her to kick you, assuming you don't resort to violence with her? I'm quite shocked at myself for having this response but, yup, YWNU in my eyes OP

That seems wrong to me.