Absolutely on my knees and I don’t know what to do

[TooMuchPeppa86]

I don’t even know where to start

I work part time (3 days) in a job that doesn’t really fit into part time hours. I cut my hours because I have two wee girls (5 and 2) who are my whole world and I thought it’s fine it’ll be a few years of working at nights once they’re asleep and then I can increase my hours in the office once they’re at school.

Five year old started school last month. Her sleep is beyond horrific. She has no interest in sleep she won’t even try. But I need to stay in her room or she just kicks off. Last night it was 11pm before she went to sleep. I then had to work until 3am to stay afloat.

I can’t do this any more. I can’t. The first thought I had when I woke up this morning was sheer panic about how behind I am at work because I can’t fit it all in.

She won’t have DH. He does the housework at night and keeps that ticking over.

You need to sort her sleep. For her own sake aswell. Take her to your go or HV. It's not normal behaviour and there may be an underlying reason

Only to say that my 11yo still struggles to settle for sleep and wakes up in the night every single night. No SEN or health issues, she just wants to be with me. I gave up the fight after years of gradual withdrawal, silent returns etc. Sometimes you just can't break their will for waking. Funny that she sleeps through if she stays somewhere else.... Giving up was far less stressful than fighting and everyone gets more sleep. She would always sleep if I lay with her and whilst I know it's a bad habit, it cost me much less time in the end (main earner and do-er in the house). Good luck OP, not sure that was the response you were looking for but when you think everyone else has managed to sort it with a firm 'No' and some returning to bed, you might feel less rubbish if you know there are others out there in a similar boat. Good luck.

She does not have to sleep though beautifulday, just stay in her room.