To think she brought it all on herself

[FirstTimeMummyDS88]

Link to previous thread

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/3635012-to-be-over-the-moon-my-dp-has-finally-took-his-balls-out-of-mummy-s-handbag-and-told-her-where-to-go

So I anyone has read my previous threads about my horrendous relationship with my PIL and SIL you will know we have been completely NC for a while now since we found out I'm pregnant with our second baby (we have a 16 month old DS and I'm 17 weeks pregnant with DS2)

Myself and DP got married last Saturday, it was a very small registry office wedding and it was only my family and we had 2 friends each there. DP (oh it's DH now haha) has gone tonight to break the news to his parents. Even after everything I'm sitting here now imagining how i would feel missing my sons wedding and I start to feel bad for her but then I know when DH gets home he will tell me how she said I'm the devil and it's al my fault and how I've stolen her boys again

Why is he going to tell them you got married if you are NC? What does he hope this will achieve?

If they are horrid and toxic it is best to be completely NC.......

I remember your thread - congratulations! Here’s to many more happy years together!

Don’t worry about what his mum has to say - just carry on with your lives and vow to never be like her when your son finds a partner!

Why on earth has he gone to tell them, that's not my definition of no contact?

I also don't understand why he is telling them if you are NC. It will just kick it all off again

Why has he told them?! Seems like a daft thing to do.

We’re NC with DH parents, they heard from others we were married but he’s certainly never spoken with them about it - because he doesn’t speak to them about anything...

Congratulations op - I hope you had a wonderful day. X

I think you have an unusual interpretation of what "no contact" means.

I don’t get why you would bother telling them either?!

Just to be spiteful and taunt them perhaps?

This just seems like an exercise in hurting them more and chasing drama

I wouldn't have told them either. I assume you will go back to NC after this?

If you’re NC then you don’t contact them in any way. How bizarre that your DH has gone round to see them - or are you trying to prove a point and keep the nastiness going OP?

I really don’t understand why he has gone to tell them if you’ve gone no with them. It’s like poking a wasps nest with a stick. Why would either of you consider doing such a nonsensical thing unless you wanted to stir up more drama?

OP is loving this.
When he comes back, stop him telling you what she said. ‘Darling, hopefully one day we’ll all get along and you telling me what they said will make it harder for us to build bridges. Why don’t you go and talk to Dave/ see if Ali is free for a drink?’
but she won’t of course because where’s the drama in that?🙄

But you are NC...... I’m confused

It's very spiteful to send your DH to tell his parents you're married after not talking to them for however long. Very in your face and ha ha you can't stop us but we can stop you being there sort of thing. Sounds extremely childish and point scoring.

You seem extremely happy to cause even more trouble and widen the gap between mother and son. Quite evil imo.

@Etino

Do you get off in being unpleasant? What a sad life you must lead if that's how you get your jollies.

@Northie Have you read either of the other threads???

So he's just gone round to give them the opportunity to make him and you feel like shit? Good luck with that!
Congrats on your wedding. Maybe you both need to make sure that NC truly means No Contact from now on. They don't even deserve to know about it.

Etino has said nothing wrong @DriftingLeaves The OP does sound spiteful and imo is relishing in keeping the nastiness going.

Attention/drama seeking at its finest

Echoing the others OP, you sound like a drama queen who relishes this very much. Are your husband's balls now transferred to your handbag? Sounds like it.

I hope the pair of you will stop it and grow up now. There's no reason for the continued spite and gloating, not if you're no contact. Not a nice thing for your child(ren) to see either.

Sorry OP, but l have been horrified at their treatment of you and have been behind you all the way.... but....why is he going to tell them?

I really don't see the benefits in that

I haven't SENT him round to tell them at all, in fact I advised him against it but he's a grown man and I can't tell him what to do. He said he wanted to tell them before they hear it from someone else, which I can understand but I did explain to him that they are going to be hurt/angry however they find out

I am completely NC with all DH's family as is our DS, I can't tell my DH who he can and can't tell we are married