To think that 3 glasses of wine with a meal is hardly ‘downing a bottle’

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Dh and I went out for a meal last night for our wedding anniversary. We had a lovely evening. I typically have 2 glasses of wine when we go out but ordered a 3rd last night as it was very nice and I just fancied another one. So 3 glasses over the course of a meal. Yes they were large so about the equivalent of a bottle but AIBU to be a irritated at dh asking me how my head is this morning as I ‘downed a bottle of wine last night’? For context we had a stupid mini row at the end of the meal which was a shame but we both overreacted over something fairly minor. He seems to be implying that it was my fault because of how much I drank.

The background is that dh doesn’t really drink, maybe only at the odd special occasion or on holiday. He used to but stopped a few years ago. I would say that I’m a fairly typical drinker, I pretty much never drink sun-thur (last night obviously being a special occasion) I may have a glass or 2 at home on a Friday night but often don’t. We usually go out for a meal on Saturdays and I usually have a couple of glasses then, and maybe another one at home. I am very rarely properly drunk. The last time I had an awful stay in bed hangover was over a year ago. I think my drinking is pretty average? And yet dh feels the need to comment on it all the time and act like I’m some kind of alcoholic just because I enjoy a couple of glasses of wine. I am getting really tired of it to be honest.

So, aibu to think that 3 glasses of wine with a meal is not excessive and hardly the same as ‘downing a bottle?’

You’ve blamed me for your rude and unnecessary comments towards me, that is exactly what abusers do.

And yes, people here may have been through it, and alcoholism.

You’ve reported my comments? Good because I’ve reported a few on this thread already today of which have been deleted.

@Jellybeansincognito You are also in control of your own behaviour. It's a shame that you cannot see or take responsibility for your really insensitive post. It's fine to make a mistake, but your post alluding to someone else being an abuser (which is clearly not the case) is a step too far and you should apologise.

@Jellybeansincognito I haven't pretended to be a victim.

You told people here that drinking a bottle of wine very occasionally and not being bothered by it constitutes an alcohol problem. People objected, some quite robustly, as you would expect.

You are not the victim of abusers, not on this thread at least. How insulting and insensitive to those who really have suffered abuse.

@BenWillbondsPants I have been personally attacked all day to the extent I’ve been told I clearly have an eating disorder, instead of apologising I got further insult and told it was my own fault.

It this was real life, unfortunately it wouldn’t be good would it. I’ve said that reminds me of an abusive situation, and it does. I’m not apologising. It’s funny I’m subject to this all day, and as soon as I say that I’m told to apologise? Absolutely not.

Also, I have not 'attacked' you. Disagreed with you, yes. Attacked, bullied or (oh my god) abused you? No.

Certain posters love a good MN pile on Jellybean, it’s really quite telling.

Hide the thread would be my advice, they will soon pipe down without you to harass.

@Jellybeansincognito a few have been deleted today? Only one I can see......

You talk about drinking not being great behaviour.....your behaviour is hardly good is it?

Honestly you've been abused? Walk away from the thread, it's not hood good for you, you said you were leaving hours ago but have been at it all day long then blame others.

No it’s fine @NoSauce - I’m bowing out.
I’ve been subject to some awful statements from them today, and they blame that on me? How can they not see the relevance to what I’ve just said.

@NoSauce I actually agree with you, she's become obsessed and now believes she's a victim, she should most definitely hide this thread.

She was leaving five hours ago!

I suggested Jelly ought to ignore this thread a few pages ago. Best all round, I think.

@FromEden I meant the fridge. I was defrosting the freezer at the time and baby brain got my words all mixed up. 🤦🏼‍♀️

@Jellybeansincognito Actually, I missed a couple of the posts directed at you and they were very unkind and unnecessary too and I now understand that you don't feel you should apologise.

Tbh I think neither of you has really covered yourselves with glory on this thread and it got pretty out of hand, unnecessarily.

*@woodchuck99 of course it’s the same thing! It seems to be socially acceptable to drink in excess, it’s not good.

I can’t be bothered to discuss this anymore, if you think a bottle of wine in one go is fine then more fool you, enjoy yourself with your head in the bottom of a glass e*very weekend.

And that post from @Jellybeansincognito wasn't a personal attack on woodchuck? Why can't @Jellybeansincognito accept that there is a level between non drinker and alcoholic! You drink so you MUST have your head in the bottom of a glass ALL weekend!

That was posted at 10.16 but she continues until now,

@Greggers2017 phew. Although, drinking at home when you have a baby? Tut tut. Off to rehab for you, via the GP for a liver function test of course.

Yippee!!!! Was in Tesco's & got 2 x 1ltr bottles of 15% ABV Sherry reduced to clear for £3.47 each. I'm a big fan of Sherry.
The label says it contains 20 glasses but talks of 50ml glasses. I never use my sherry glasses because I think them too small. I don't know really what size the glasses I usually use are but sort of gin & tonic size. I've decanted one of the bottles & the decanter holds about 75cl.
Here's my question - will I still be a lush drinking the whole bottle tonight when I'm using posh Waterford crystal?

What I like to do on MN is to check any thread with loads of comments, read the first few usually very polite or careful answers and then skip to the end where posters are just slagging off each other. For some reason I find that change in tone funny. It's not high culture but keeps me amused.

@ALoadOfTwaddle why would anyone just assume somebody who says they drink 3 or 4 glasses of wine a week is lying about their intake, though

Like I said, she could have an unreasonable husband. Or, he could have pointed out a problem that OP is in denial about. A bottle of wine in a night is not insignificant and the op reads very defensively to me. I'm not assuming anything, but think people should take the possibility into consideration. You don't have to be absolutely blotto every night of the week to have a problem with drink.

EileenAlanna no, just a drunk.

@FromEden if I had a £1 for every time I sent an alcoholic for LFTs I could retire 😂

Anyone enjoying a Friday night glass of wine? I hope OP is!

@spanglydangly happily working my way through the sherry

@EileenAlanna you're not using Waterford Crystal are you, I bet it's crystal d'arques 😂

I love a cheeky glass of wine on a Friday night. Didn’t measure it so I’ve no idea if it’s small, medium or large!

I’m on my third glass of wine 🍸