To think that 3 glasses of wine with a meal is hardly ‘downing a bottle’

[Musicalstatues]

Dh and I went out for a meal last night for our wedding anniversary. We had a lovely evening. I typically have 2 glasses of wine when we go out but ordered a 3rd last night as it was very nice and I just fancied another one. So 3 glasses over the course of a meal. Yes they were large so about the equivalent of a bottle but AIBU to be a irritated at dh asking me how my head is this morning as I ‘downed a bottle of wine last night’? For context we had a stupid mini row at the end of the meal which was a shame but we both overreacted over something fairly minor. He seems to be implying that it was my fault because of how much I drank.

The background is that dh doesn’t really drink, maybe only at the odd special occasion or on holiday. He used to but stopped a few years ago. I would say that I’m a fairly typical drinker, I pretty much never drink sun-thur (last night obviously being a special occasion) I may have a glass or 2 at home on a Friday night but often don’t. We usually go out for a meal on Saturdays and I usually have a couple of glasses then, and maybe another one at home. I am very rarely properly drunk. The last time I had an awful stay in bed hangover was over a year ago. I think my drinking is pretty average? And yet dh feels the need to comment on it all the time and act like I’m some kind of alcoholic just because I enjoy a couple of glasses of wine. I am getting really tired of it to be honest.

So, aibu to think that 3 glasses of wine with a meal is not excessive and hardly the same as ‘downing a bottle?’

[hiphopchick]

On my FOURTH glass of wine tonight.

3 at the pub.... And one I poured at home just a few minutes ago.

Cheers everyone ...

[crimsonlake]

To someone who has stopped drinking I suppose it would seem a lot. My ex used to be similar as he did not drink in the house at the weekend and I used to enjoy a couple of glasses, his comment used to be ' having another one ?' It still gives me the rage thinking about it. It was the only bit of pleasure I had... godness knows how much he drank on his many business nights out.

[BertrandRussell]

Just finished taxi duties for the night. Anchovy toast and a glass of Sauvignon blanc before bed for me!

[Greggers2017]

I need to refer myself to myself. 2 pints, a glass of wine and 2 large gins 😳
1st night out with hubby since baby was born and pre birthday drinks.

[Grandcentralstation]

Well I’ve just had a bottle of wine and two tequilas.

Self referral pending

[BadLad]

Well I’ve just had a bottle of wine and two tequilas.

Wicked child!

[Calledyoulastnightfromglasgow]

I guess that’s the issue. Thee are studies showing higher rates of divorce in couples with mismatched drinking habits.

I think a bottle of wine over dinner is a lot. My DH doesn’t. (It is different for women though who do process it differently, however much gender fluid people would argue there is no difference).

When my husband drinks like this, I find him boorish and the next day a grumpy arsehole who snaps at the kids.

I honestly hate alcohol and what it does to people. I don’t find it makes them funny at all. They just think they are and become dull and annoying

[spanglydangly]

@BertrandRussell please tell me about anchovy toast, it sounds like my food heaven!

[bengalcat]

Toast - love it - with Nutella Anchovies Avocado and cheese ( not all at the same time )

[BertrandRussell]

@spanglydangly

[spanglydangly]

@BertrandRussell I will be purchasing and reporting back! Thank you.

[Glitterybelle]

That is nothing! He is totally BU!!!
Enjoy your wine. Life's short

[Ratherberightthanhappy]

OMFG. My advice is definitely to have 3 x 250ml glasses of wine occasionally, or 4 if you feel like it, and not get too stressed about what a gaggle of judgy pearl-clutching fun-sponges have to say about it.

[L0bstersLass]

I'm not judging you. I drink far too much.
However, drinking 3 large glasses of wine is the exact definition of downing a bottle in a night.

[Ratherberightthanhappy]

Your husband included btw...

[WagtailRobin]

I'm really surprised by the amount of people saying three glasses of wine is "excessive", Jesus none of you would ever want to come out with me and my friends then, three glasses would just be the "pre drinks" at home before going out.

OP you don't have to explain/justify yourself to anyone, you had a few drinks, you didn't then go jump on the waiter. Your husband is being a prick, ignore him!

[raspberryk]

I am just jealous anyone can drink a whole bottle in an evening, I used to be able to but more than 2 glasses makes me sick (more than 1 red), I drank copious amounts of wine and then gin at a recent wedding and felt fine as it was over 12 hours, and topped it off with a lovely coffee = vomit. Must have been the coffee .

[Fishcakey]

I don't think you drink too much at all. It's only because he doesn't that he feels he can comment. A bottle over an evening is nothing, especially with food.

[ThreeLittleDots]

Does he have a family history of alcoholism?