To think that 3 glasses of wine with a meal is hardly ‘downing a bottle’

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Dh and I went out for a meal last night for our wedding anniversary. We had a lovely evening. I typically have 2 glasses of wine when we go out but ordered a 3rd last night as it was very nice and I just fancied another one. So 3 glasses over the course of a meal. Yes they were large so about the equivalent of a bottle but AIBU to be a irritated at dh asking me how my head is this morning as I ‘downed a bottle of wine last night’? For context we had a stupid mini row at the end of the meal which was a shame but we both overreacted over something fairly minor. He seems to be implying that it was my fault because of how much I drank.

The background is that dh doesn’t really drink, maybe only at the odd special occasion or on holiday. He used to but stopped a few years ago. I would say that I’m a fairly typical drinker, I pretty much never drink sun-thur (last night obviously being a special occasion) I may have a glass or 2 at home on a Friday night but often don’t. We usually go out for a meal on Saturdays and I usually have a couple of glasses then, and maybe another one at home. I am very rarely properly drunk. The last time I had an awful stay in bed hangover was over a year ago. I think my drinking is pretty average? And yet dh feels the need to comment on it all the time and act like I’m some kind of alcoholic just because I enjoy a couple of glasses of wine. I am getting really tired of it to be honest.

So, aibu to think that 3 glasses of wine with a meal is not excessive and hardly the same as ‘downing a bottle?’

You’re trying to say it’s fine because it’s not frequent, the frequency is irrelevant because bottle of wine in one go is excessive and it doesnt matter how frequent it is, it doesn’t make it any better because it’s not done often.

Have I had a drink?
No I haven’t!

YANBU, ignore the pearl clutchers. “Downing a bottle” makes it sound like you drank it all in one go.

YANBU, ignore the pearl clutchers. “Downing a bottle” makes it sound like you drank it all in one

In context with the husbands comment that the fact the OP was argumentative due to drinking a bottle of wine, I don’t think the reference was misplaced, personally.

In context with the husbands comment that the fact the OP was argumentative due to drinking a bottle of wine, I don’t think the reference was misplaced, personally.

Because the DH has given up drink, he's become a sanctimonious bore, who picks a fight and then spins it on OP. Blaming everything on drink, when he's just been an arse, therefore trying to control, this is horrendous behaviour.

You’re trying to say it’s fine because it’s not frequent, the frequency is irrelevant because bottle of wine in one go is excessive and it doesnt matter how frequent it is, it doesn’t make it any better because it’s not done often.

Of course the frequency is fucking relative, what a load of bollocks!

It’s a bottle of wine, it’s excessive in one go! That doesn’t change just because it’s done more than once a week, it’s still bad!
why can’t you see that?

It only being once a week does not make it any better.

Because the DH has given up drink, he's become a sanctimonious bore, who picks a fight and then spins it on OP. Blaming everything on drink, when he's just been an arse, therefore trying to control, this is horrendous behaviour

Or because he’s not drinking he can see her actions clearly.

We have no clue whether he’s a “sanctimonious bore” at all.

It’s not beyond the realms of possibility that someone drinks too much and becomes argumentative!

why can’t you see that?

Because it's rubbish.

it doesn’t make it any better because it’s not done often.

It does - big difference between doing it once or twice, and someone who drinks a bottle nearly every day because they are an alcoholic, or are they the same because I don't see it myself...

she knows it’s excessive to eat that, at least she’s not in denial about it or trying to make it sound better because it’s ‘occasionally’

Eating a share bag of M&Ms in 20mins very occasionally is not the same level as gorging one every day though. Yes, its excessive, but doing it ever day is worse! Surely you see that

Trust me @Jellybeansincognito one bottle of wine is not an alcohol issue. When you've had as much training as me and my colleagues, come back to me. Even the clinical lead would say you were wrong, so would the staff at the hospital where my clients are taken, so would the liaison team who deals with the HIU.
I have a client who can drink a bottle and blow under the drink drive limit as his tolerance is so high, now hat is someone who has a problem. Not the OP.

I must be an alcoholic too if so as I have a bottle of fizz in the freezer for when my sister comes here this evening 😳

@Greggers2017 I think you'll find that Jellybeans knows better than you 😂

@BackToTheOIdHouse 🙄🙄🙄 I know! It's like saying that somebody who experiments and had one spliff has an addiction to cannabis.

OP, you contradict yourself: you admit that 3 large glasses is a bottle (which is true, small/medium/large = 125/175/250 ml, and a bottle = 750ml) and then you ask indignantly whether 3 large glasses is the same as a bottle.
Were you pissed when you posted??

@SleepyHiraeth of course I do, you’re admitting it’s excessive. Like I.

The issue with the other posters is that they don’t think a bottle of wine in one go is excessive and that is what my issue is.

Not really greggers, I’m saying I think alcohol becomes an issue when people don’t admit that a bottle in one go is excessive.

We’re talking about normal people here, not addicts.

@Greggers2017 not an addiction to cannabis. A full on drug dependency and a step away from living in a squat and eating out of bins. Or something 😂

People drinking their bottle of wine and understanding that it’s excessive and unnecessary- fine.

People drinking their bottle of wine and not thinking it’s excessive and being offended when someone close to them comments on their drinking behaviour- not fine.

What is so hard to understand about this?

We’re talking about normal people here, not addicts

The very fact that you think that addicts aren't 'normal people' tells us all we need to know about you, @Jellybeansincognito.

BECAUSE ONE BOTTLE OF WINE IS NOT EXCESSIVE! Runs and bangs head against the brick wall

Someone always comes along and merails comedy gold threads and makes them boring AF.

@BackToTheOIdHouse you’re getting boring now. You are displaying such bullying behaviour. Not once have I picked at you or tried to joke to other posters about things you’ve written.

Alcoholics are different to normal drinkers, of course they are. Stop trying to pick at me to make yourself feel better about yourself.

@Jellybeansincognito you know nothing, you listen to no one, you're obsessed with alcohol being pure evil! Get a grip and believe that the majority of adults are more than capable of drinking responsibly.

What is so hard to understand about this?

You’re not understanding that you’re giving your opinion, not objective facts.