Is my DP hiding something

[theoverthinker]

I was unsure what topic to put this as but anyway.. I'll try to keep it short.
Am I being unreasonable to think something happened with DP last night?
So he went out last night with a big group of his mates. They all ended up back at one of his mates houses for drinks after and I spoke to him at 2am on the phone as he still wasn't home and he promised he wouldn't be back late. I messaged at about half 3 (he didn't read it) then tried ringing him at 6am (his phone was off) Roll on half 7 this morning and he finally strolls through the door.. I'm obviously really fuming as I'm very heavily pregnant and can't believe he would go out literally all night when I could pop at any time. When he came home I could hear him downstairs for a while and when he finally comes into the bedroom he's in just his boxers. I have a moan at him for being home so late and then ask him why he's taken his clothes off downstairs. He then claims he took them off in the bathroom (upstairs) and that they're on the landing so not to wake me up getting unchanged. So I'm thinking okay whatever.. 10 mins later I get up to go to the toilet and I realise his clothes arn't in the bathroom or the landing so I go downstairs and he then gets out of bed and follows me. I ask where his clothes are and he says they're in the washing machine?!?!! (Washing machine is not turned on) So at this point I'm confused as to why he'd lie and I question him about it because it's just an odd thing for him to do since I always seem to do the washing recently.. He says I'm being weird and that he can't be arsed to get his things out of the washing machine and that he doesn't understand why I'm questioning why he's stripped off as soon as he's got home and put his things in the machine.. so I take his word for it and think maybe I am being a bit paranoid.. So we go to bed and I fall asleep but I kept getting woken to the sound of him going in and out of the bedroom, going downstairs to make a drink, going the loo etc.. I've came downstairs at about half 11 this morning and he's still fast asleep because of his night out and I've just realised that whilst I was asleep he's put a wash on and washed his clothes from last night..
I literally have no idea why this is really bothering me because I just don't know what I'd expect to find on his clothes but it's just all very odd and like he's hiding something? Please tell me I'm being unreasonable and thinking too much into this because I just don't know what to think and I'm so confused! It's just the fact he's come home so late and he was still very drunk and extremely tired but his first thought was to hide his clothes in the machine and then put the wash on whilst I'm asleep and then creep up back to bed?

So my first thought was blood or evidence of sex. That’s a really odd thing to do. Sorry OP.

Maybe he wet himself or was sick on himself?

Sorry OP, especially as you are so heavily pregnant, but if he doesn't do the laundry on a regular basis, that is very suspicious.

I have never been suspicious of my husband but if he was to do that, I would think it is weird. Unless he came in and said he'd spilt a pint over himself etc. But even then him putting a wash on at that hour would be very strange. Sorry💐

Weird as fuck. Either they smelt of perfume or sex, or they had make up, sperm or blood on or something. That's the only thing I can think was so important for him to wash his clothes before you saw them.
Unless, do you have a massive problem with him smoking or something, and they stank of smoke? More likely the shagging someone else though given he was out all night and acting so weird.
You're not going to get the truth out of him though.

Was he smoking maybe and doesn't want you to know? Surely if he'd been shagging he'd have washed his pants as well as his clothes?

I would think pissed himself if hes had a heavy night

I'm sorry to say but when my ex cheated on me he binned his clothes because of make up on his tshirt. I dont think you're being unreasonable to be suspicious. Especially because of the way he acted.

I'm so glad I'm not the only one that thinks this is very odd.. He doesn't smoke but I know when he drinks he does have the occasional fag but I'm not bothered by that at all and he knows that doesn't bother me..
My first thoughts were that a girl had got too close and he'd got make-up on his clothes or something.
What would of been on his clothes that would indicate he'd had sex?

Also when he came to bed he was in his boxers that he'd gone out in so I really don't think he's pissed himself. This is really playing on my mind

I would have got the clothes out of the machine when I found them in there. He is definitely hiding something, maybe something of nothing. When he wakes up, I would ask him what's going on, explaining that if he can't tell the truth I would have to suspect the worst (but not explain what the worst is)

Out all night indicates alcohol and drugs to me.

Or falling asleep at a mate's house (which my OH has done 😂) which, if he's absolutely plastered, could mean he's been sick on himself or pissed/shit himself.

But I don't know why he wouldn't tell you that. Why wouldnt he just say 'I had an accident and I'm a bit embarrassed'.

It would get me wondering too...

Did he have a shower when he got in?

Tell him he put the wash on wrong and you've found his clothes..then just stop and see what he says

Is he an ex smoker who maybe relapsed whilst under the influence and didn’t want you to smell smoke?

OMG so I've just looked in the washing machine and realised his boxers from last night are in there! I thought he was still wearing them but I've just realised he's wearing shorts. He always wears shorts under whatever trousers he's wearing. I'm literally so confused now why would he put his boxers, jeans and top in the wash but still be wearing the shorts he had on..

We've been to places before where others have been smoking and our clothes reek of the stuff even though we don't smoke. It's entirely possible his stuff stank and thinking that you would accuse him of smoking he just decided to wash them and avoid having you having a go at him.

Yeah question that, he’s lying about something even if the daft guys just spilt a beer on himself

Something up

Can you look at his phone

So he hasn't shat himself? Cos that was my first thought

He could have shat himself op. Although I would expect him to have a shower. Although if he was shagging someone else I’d also expect him to have a shower.

I am pretty laid back but I would also be suspicious here to be honest. Surely if he had just been sick or something he would just say so. Was his hair damp or anything? I only ask because my ex cheated, showered at hers and then washed his clothes when he got home. But the shorts thing is weird and doesn't fit, so no idea.

In the past have you had trust issues with him? It could be anything from being sick on himself to spilling drinks on himself.

Why does he wear three layers of clothes on his bottom half OP .

Does he normally do his own washing? Did he also shower?

The while thing sounds weird yes. Especially him following you about guarding the washing- obviously doesn't want you to see something! I'm sure it doesn't take a huge amount of imagination to construe what sorts of things could be on a persons clothes from a sexual encounter tbh.

God knows OP but I'd not trust the situation either. Ask him why he was hiding it, don't accept any nonsense from him and see what he does and how he reacts- or if you happily share phone access see who he's messaged since last night.

So not the point but- he always wears shorts underneath his trousers!? What? Why? But yes that’s strange behaviour but he’s also the man that wears shorts under jeans/trousers so maybe not that strange for him?

If he’s got the shorts on that he was wearing but not his pants then he hasn’t pissed or shit himself.

Sorry OP but I would find this very suspicious. Hope you get some answers.